Caring or passionate?  

ChrisDL 47M
362 posts
5/29/2006 12:23 pm

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Caring or passionate?

It's not been a good few days for me.

Someone online who I am very close to (not on AdultFriendFinder somewhere else) doesn't really want to talk to me anymore. She really likes me, and we have talked of meeting a couple of years ago.

She disappeared from my life a couple of years and reappeared about two weeks ago. The old spark still seemed to be there; and she wants something in real life but its all too quick for me. To move from online to real life is just too big a step just now and she feels that my feelings for her are not strong enough.

I care for her very much, but as she has pointed out I care for every second person. And she's right - I do. Her complaint is that I am not passionate - that because I do not have the strength of feelings for her, then she is not the one for me.

I don't want to run her down - she is beautiful, sexy and intelligent and I don't want to lose what we have.

I think I've lost the plot. Today, I went out for a drive to try and clear my head a little before a difficult week at work. I happened to drive past the home of a former colleague who works for a client and that I need to see this week.

Seeing her car at home, reminded me that I had for gotten to tell her what day I was coming, and I pulled over and sent her a text to say that I had been passing and it had reminded me. She replied saying I should have called in, because she was on her own and was bored. She's getting divorced and she has had a tough time of it, with married men messing her around and we were talking things through and I gave her a hug and one thing could have lead to another if I hadn't seen sense (my words) and stopped it. I stopped it because I care about her and her feelings.

And now I'm confused and don't know what I want or what I should do, or really what I am any more.

So is it better to be caring or passionate? Or maybe its better to have no feelings at all.

EE407 41F
3903 posts
5/29/2006 2:05 pm

I choose caring & passionate...

Take your time, see as you go! Don't let yourself be rushed....

Hugs E.

ChrisDL 47M

5/29/2006 2:13 pm

I just talked with my online friend and I'm sat here with tears in my eyes. Tears of happiness for once - I don't deserve such friendship and understanding.

helga_hansen 49F  
1987 posts
5/29/2006 11:15 pm

Caring and passionate are winners with me too.

Someone close to me showed patience (and still does) and caring, and his reward was our passion... your day will come too.


Love, hugs and kisses from ♥♥HH♥♥

slightly_sexy8 38F
314 posts
5/30/2006 12:05 pm

"So is it better to be caring or passionate?"

surely the ideal would to be both? chris, after two years "the spark is still there" but you still don't want to meet? you said this year you were going to take some chances....

that said, i would be wary of people who only re-appear in times of stress.

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