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I just received a Christmas card from an ex-girlfriend (we broke up about twelve years ago) in which she wrote "You showed me what unconditional love and acceptance is."
It was one of the nicest messages I've ever received from anyone.
Yes, she and I had some bad times along with the good and a lot of water has passed under the bridge. But knowing that at long last she appreciates my devotion to her (even if she didn't fully appreciate it at the time) makes me feel as though it was all worth it.
So for me "unconditional love" means actually loving someone once you have fallen for him/her and decided that he/she is worth it. Loving, after all, is work; it's not just a feeling.
Unconditional love is not simply putting up with abuse, by the way. Many people confuse it with "willingness to be abused".
There have been many times in my life when the only way I could actually do the work of loving someone was to pray for them because the distance between us (physical and/or emotional) at the time was too great for anything more.
What does "unconditional love" mean to you?
1/22/2006 6:30 am
Conditional love is accepting the person with his/her flaws and forgiving if they make a mistake, not punishing them endlessly.|