Two jabs to the gut  

Choozmi 50M
746 posts
9/29/2005 10:22 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Two jabs to the gut

This evening I found out that two women that I'm getting to know and in whom I am romantically interested (yes, I can be interested in more than one woman at once; I cannot, however, be in love with more than one at a time) are deeply involved with other men.

What's worse, it turns out one of these women is married! She got "secretly" married over the summer and didn't tell anyone.

Full disclosure: I haven't been physically or romantically involved with either woman; we're only at the "flirting" stage. Also, neither actually lied to me about anything. So they are guilty of nothing except playing their cards close to the vest.

Now, a few hours later, I'm feeling a little wounded and I'm not sure why. I guess it's just the disappointment of knowing that they're not available. It doesn't mean that I can't get to know them, of course, but I'm sad that it probably won't go beyond a certain point.

Ever feel like this, like you've been hurt but there's really no one at fault and no one to be mad at?

wyvernrose 38F
3895 posts
9/30/2005 3:27 am

yeah I have been there * it wont last forever


Choozmi 50M

9/30/2005 9:28 am

Thank you both for your responses. I guess the reason I feel a little hurt is because I felt that both women were warming up to me (we're all working together on a committee at my church). I had been taking my time getting to know them because I wanted it to be comfortable regardless of the outcome. I guess I should have moved a little faster.

Venus107 49F
156 posts
10/5/2005 12:49 pm

Choozmi- was their loss not yours sweetie! If you are ever down south let me know my friend!!!

Choozmi 50M

10/7/2005 7:32 pm

    Quoting Venus107:
    Choozmi- was their loss not yours sweetie! If you are ever down south let me know my friend!!!
I will. I've actually been to Atlanta three times in the past year. My sister lives there. That's not too far from Alabama, is it?

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