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So... last night...
So... last night...
SPOILER: This post does not conclude with a vivid description of hot sex (not at this point, anyway).
As some of you might know I directed a play in Los Angeles which is currently running. Last night I brought my father to it. Several friends of mine came as well and brought a few friends of theirs (all women -- five of them -- and all very attractive!)
The play is a gay romantic comedy, gay as in "homosexual". It features several instances of male nudity -- the full monty. Although there is no simulated sex, the play contains a lot of affection: kissing, hugging, etc. Sweet stuff.
The men in the play are all very attractive and the ones who appear nude are quite hot, I must admit.
In case you're curious, I myself am not gay; everyone in the cast is. I found the job on Craigslist and applied for it because I've always been comfortable around gay people and know them to be a very loyal audience.
It was one of the smartest decisions I've ever made. Everyone involved with the show has been a delight to work with, the show has been selling out, we just got a very good review, and it may lead to more work for me.
Anyway, we all went out for a bite to eat after the show, along with one of the cast (who is gay, of course) and the stage manager (who is male and straight and single).
You should have seen these women! They ranged in age from 18 to mid-30s (I'm guessing) and in status from single-and-looking to "fully married" (as opposed to "married but looking" ). They were so worked up after the show!
They gasped and giggled during the sexier parts of the show. They implored one of the cast members who hadn't stripped that he should demand that a nude scene be written for him. When we were out afterward the conversation revolved around sex, nudity, naughty plays, drunken escapades, etc. One of the women told me it was time for a "Penis Monogogues" in response to the play "The Vagina Monologues". Not much "relationship talk" last night. My poor father, who is in his 70s but open to just about everything, mostly just sat there gaping.
The women left in two cars so I'm pretty sure they all got home relatively safely and unaccompanied by males (to the disappointment of several of them, I'm sure) and I drove my pop home to get his blood pressure back down (not an easy task the way I drive).
Here's the other nice thing about last night. One of the women there I found EXTREMELY attractive. Early or mid thirties (or older, I really couldn't tell). Beautiful, friendly face. Eyes wide with intelligence. Playful smile. Lovely figure (complete with scoop-neck shirt -- and normally I'm very good about keeping my gaze above a lady's neckline when I'm talking to her).
I couldn't shake the feeling that she and I had met before. She just felt so... familiar. Apparently we had, on a ski trip about two and a half years ago, but I don't think that was it because I know I would have remembered the situation more clearly. No matter.
I found her... inspirational. I wanted everyone else to go away so I could talk to her alone. She was witty, friendly, intelligent, and gorgeous. She intimidated the shit out of me but I didn't care. I tried my best to engage but not monopolize her (there was, after all, a bunch of very enticing conversations going on simultaneously).
While we were still all seated at the restaurant I asked her very quietly if I could call her. She looked surprised and a tiny bit dismayed. I almost wanted to withdraw the question but I didn't, of course. She smiled and said yes, then asked if I had a pen.
I didn't want to be terribly obvious about it because I didn't want to embarrass her, especially if she were to say no. Also, my relationship with one of the other women at the table at present is... complicated (no, we've never dated or fooled around; we work together on a project at my church and we seem to be attracted to each other but she's hard to read).
So I have the phone number of this extremely attractive woman who seemed conflicted about whether to give it to me. Of course I'm going to call her (most likely tomorrow) and of course I'm nervous.
8/20/2006 8:48 am
Careful, careful--not to perpetuate that stereotype too much... But you don't want to sound TOO eager. Give it at least two days. |
Before you call her, think of a celebrity that she looks like... Pick one of their movies. When you call her, tell her that you saw the movie on tv, noticed how the celebrity looked strikingly like her and that it reminded you of her. Bonus points if it's a sentimental movie--like Ice Castles, or something.
8/24/2006 6:03 pm
Agrees with LonerEmily about waiting a couple days. But no more than that! She'll start to wonder why you didn't call... begin to assume that you must ask for phone numbers from all kinds of women, and that she wasn't so special after all... then she'll be happy to hear from you when you do call (she might seem a bit put-off, pretending to be pissed that you didn't call earlier). Explain to her that you wanted to call earlier, but your evenings were busy with work. Then talk about the evening, how much fun you had, compliment her on what drew you to her. Don't lay it on too thick, but try to come off more confident and more like her equal. |
That'll make her take you seriously and want to find out more about you, get to know you.
GOOD LUCK! (hmmm... this was posted a couple days ago... didja call her yet?)
Have fun, play safe!
8/25/2006 1:17 am
Yep, I called her last Sunday evening, two days after we met. I left her a nice message, not cloying, not too eager, but pleasant. I commented on a few things she mentioned when we met partly to assure her that I remembered our conversation.|
It's been four days and she hasn't returned my call. I'd call that rude. Would you?
I'm guessing I should write this one off. My intial gut feeling (that she was dismayed) seems to have been correct.
8/25/2006 5:39 pm
I wonder if you should call once more? Just in case.
*trying to think of what I'd do if a guy asked for my number*
Would I give it if I wasn't even a bit interested?
I get all my pick-ups through on-line avenues. I don't give my email address out to those I don't want to get to know. If they do write me, I usually always write back, at least to say I've found someone else, or not interested, whatever.
I say call her again to show genuine interest. (Same with emailing). Just leave your number, tell her the ball is in her court if she'd like to call you back, and you do hope to hear from her.
Sometimes, persistance is a good thing. It shows real interest.
Good luck! If not this one, there's always another around the corner!
Have fun, play safe!