Lying thoughts  

Choozmi 50M
746 posts
4/25/2005 10:30 am

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Lying thoughts

When you lie to a person, you are saying several things beyond the actual lie.

You are saying, "I know better than you do." That is very condescending.

You are also saying, "I know something that I will not permit you to know. I want control over what you know and don't know." Unless you are someone's parent, that is cruel and sick.

You may think you're saying, "I care about you too much to let you know the awful truth," but what it truly means is, "I don't have enough respect for you to show you the world as it actually is."

Finally, what you are saying is, "You are not worth telling the truth to."

And for any would-be liars who think that they reserve the right to lie to nosy people... No. You do not have the right to lie to anyone. You have the right to say, "I don't want to answer you," or "That is none of your business."

No one has the right to lie -- to be cruel -- to others.

checkmate115 48M

4/25/2005 12:03 pm

But life isn't all about honesty. We may wish it was - but we're all living the semblance of the truth - ie. we don't go around telling the world what we feel every minute and every second. If we did, as one teacher pointed out - the world would be in chaos. Most people don't tell the complete truth - they tell selective things and lead measured lives...all about being careful not to offend. That's what a lot of lying is about!

Barbiebunny69 43F

4/25/2005 5:57 pm

Choozmi hunny what happened? U ok?

wyvernrose 38F
3895 posts
4/25/2005 8:49 pm

Spot on Choozmi!

the one and Only thing which will make or break a relationship, is honesty or lack there of!

very few realise this!


Choozmi 50M

4/26/2005 12:22 am

Oh, I'm okay. Thanks for asking. It's just some stuff from the past that bubbles to the surface from time to time.

Thanks for caring.

Goldenhairgodess 63F
396 posts
6/2/2005 6:20 pm

For Choozmi- I find this helps when the past betrayals haunt me:

Please find the time to read this message. It is very powerful!
Let it go for T. D. Jakes
There are people who can walk away from you.
And hear me when I tell you this!
When people can walk away from you: let them walk.
I don't want you to try to talk another person into staying with you,
loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you,
staying attached to you.
I mean hang up the phone.
When people can walk away from you let them walk.
Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left.
The bible said that,
"They came out from us that it might be made manifest
that they were not for us.
For had they been of us,
no doubt they would have continued with us". [1 John 2:19]
People leave you because they are not joined to you.
And if they are not joined to you,
you can't make them stay.
Let them go.
And it doesn't mean that they are a bad person,
it just means that their part in the story is over.
And you've got to know when people's
part in your story is over so that you
don't keep trying to raise the dead.
You've got to know when it's dead.
You've got to know when it's over.
Let me tell you something.
I've got the gift of good-bye.
It's the tenth spiritual gift,
I believe in good-bye.
It's not that I'm hateful, it's that I'm faithful,
and I know whatever God means for me to have
He'll give it to me.
And if it takes too much sweat I don't need it.
Stop begging people to stay.
Let them go!!
If you are holding on to something
that doesn't belong to you and was never intended for your life,
then you need to ..LET IT GO
If you are holding on to past hurts and pains ...
If someone can't treat you right, love you back, and see your worth...
If someone has angered you ...
If you are holding on to some thoughts of evil and revenge ..
If you are involved in a wrong relationship or addiction ...
If you are holding on to a job that no longer meets your needs or
talents ..
If you have a bad attitude...
If you keep judging others to make yourself feel better...
If you're stuck in the past and God is trying to take you to a new
level in Him...
If you are struggling with the healing of a broken relationship....
If you keep trying to help someone who won't even try to help
If you're feeling depressed and stressed ....
If there is a particular situation that you are so used to handling
yourself and God is saying "take your hands off of it," then you need
Let the past be the past.
Forget the former things.
GOD is doing a new thing for 2004!!!
Get Right or Get Left .. think about it, and then
LET IT GO ..........................
-Live, Laugh, Love
-Life's journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved
body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting "wow...what a ride!

MsLoveRose 33F  
2432 posts
7/8/2005 5:06 pm

i read this and i notice something about myself that i never point out...when someone lies to me i question my self they see me as someone not worthy of the truth?? i can say none of your business...i can say im not answering...i can even say its best if i dont say...but to be lied to makes me think i have issues...and i thought its not about me...but then it is...what did the person see in me to give them the green light to speak an untruth!!! im still trying to figure that one out

live more, laugh often, love much

Goldenhairgodess 63F
396 posts
7/8/2005 7:17 pm

Mark Twain wrote a short story on this subject. I think the title was Heaven Or Hell? Which gave an interesting perspective on the issue. I highly recommend it.

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