Guys with big money and girls with big...  

Choozmi 50M
746 posts
5/7/2005 9:49 am

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Guys with big money and girls with big...

I've been rejected by the opposite sex my fair share of times throughout my life. Sometimes I was given a reason but most times I wasn't. I quickly learned to not ask for a reason because the reasons almost never made me feel better and because I rarely believed them anyway.

I've seen a number of posts on AdultFriendFinder discussion boards asking what potential partners are looking for. These tend to take the form of "Do guys like women with this or that?" or "What things can you put in a profile that women will like?"

I have found these topics and their responses very interesting and valuable... up to a point. It all eventually comes down to taste. You can put two people side by side of the same sex who have similar, uh, assets and most people will pick one over the other for reasons that make sense only to themselves.

When I was in eighth grade a girl transferred to our school with whom I'd gone to first through sixth grade. She was very pretty and just about every other guy in my class was crazy about her, but I wasn’t. I even kissed her once during a game of Spin The Bottle and it did nothing for me. Why? Because I still saw her as a first grader. Made no sense whatsoever. (I saw her at our twenty-year reunion and she still looked great and STILL reminded me of a first grader.)

Guys fume about how rich guys get all the chicks. Girls gripe that girls with big ta-ta’s get all the attention, or at least more than they "should". Hey, I often wish I were taller. But ultimately people like what they like and there’s no explaining it.

What I strive to do, and many others have advised this as well, is to present myself through this site as well as in real life as a kind, trustworthy, and interesting person who is worth getting to know. Frankly, I’d hate to find out that someone was dating me because of my height or my money or because of my huge... tracts of land.

Goldenhairgodess 63F
396 posts
7/25/2005 5:18 am

Hi Choozmi;
Having worked with children I understand why you couldn't feel any attraction for that girl you knew as a first grader. For some children it is common to develope relationships in school that are very much like they would with a sibling. In your minds eye she is more like a sister so therefore not eligable for sexual attraction.
With childhood same sex friendships there can be a form of sibling rivalry too. I call that the best of friends and the worst of enimies.

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