Distorted thinking  

Choozmi 50M
746 posts
11/5/2005 1:43 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Distorted thinking

As much as I enjoy AdultFriendFinder and meeting people through this site, I worry that my thinking sometimes gets distorted.

During the past week I've had two dates with two different women whom I met recently. I'm attracted to both of them and both evenings were nice. Dinner, good conversation, lots of laughs, etc. I'll probably see both of them again.

The distorted part is that neither of the dates was racy enough for me. I wanted signs of sexual interest from either (both?) of these women but they seemed so shy that I couldn't tell what was going on at their end.

It's not that I was expecting to jump into bed with either of them (at least not on the first date) but in the past the physical part of my romantic relationships has begun very quickly, usually within a week of meeting for the first time.

My frustration at this point is trying to distinguish between shyness and lack of sexual interest. The people on this site are so comfortable with their sexuality and expressing their desires that I think I'm forgetting that the rest of the world isn't always that way.


wyvernrose 38F
3895 posts
11/5/2005 3:32 pm

I can understand how that would confuse you, just be patient nothing wrong with finding a friend before you find a lover...


janmecir 53M
158 posts
11/6/2005 7:32 am

Hi there
Yes, you've nailed something on the head here for me to....
I can sometimes forget that the 'out there world' is where the normal rules of engagement still need to apply.....even though i might be tempted to superimpose a sex-site mentality over innocently charged situations!
It's not just me sitting across tableas at women....I've also got friggin Eros sat on my shoulder looking at them too......egging me on....flaring up 'racy'thoughts...picturing fruity scenarios...

This site! A blessing.....and a curse.....


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