Chemistry with creeps and cretins  

Choozmi 50M
746 posts
10/26/2005 6:43 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Chemistry with creeps and cretins

Have you ever had hot chemistry with a person that you didn't actually like that much?

Did you pursue them or allow them to pursue you?

If you ever got down to it, was the sex good?

Did you stay in touch with them or move on?

I'll tell my experiences in a bit but I'm very curious about others'.

janmecir 53M
158 posts
10/27/2005 5:17 am

Hi there
Yes, i went out with a woman for a whole year where antipathy for one another seemed to be the core of our relationship. Well, lets put that another way: we were diametrically opposed to one another, polarised on so many issues, that it made being with one another too fraught with conflict. The extreme differences between us wore us out. And yet we were perversely fascinated by one another. And the friction outside the bedroom became combustion in it! I think the antipathy got released/converted/transformed into sexual aggression - which became dangerously revealing, exciting, compulsive.

It's funny, but as i become older, i can find interesting even the things i don't especially like; and often, it's the people i like the least that have held something for me that i needed to know.....

Choozmi 50M

11/5/2005 1:33 pm

Several of my past girlfriends I haven't "liked" all that much, but the chemistry between us was undeniable and the sex was usually quite good. (Heck, I can't honestly say that I've ever had "bad" sex, though I've had some partners who were more eager and/or creative than others).

I didn't pursue these women too ferociously. I just let things happen and when opportunities seemed to present themselves, I went for it. I knew I wouldn't be too disappointed if things didn't get cozy.

In one recent example, a girl and I broke up very amicably (I was very attracted to her but was not falling in love with her). A few months later we talked about having a friends-with-benefits relationship and actually spent one more pleasant night together. Then a few days later we had a nasty argument (in my opinion she was the one getting nasty while I was trying to keep the peace) and she hung up on me. We haven't talked since. In retrospect, I figure she needed our relationship to end on a harsh note so that she could look at it as a failed love affair and not as something as shallow as a fling.

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