Already too late?  

Choozmi 50M
746 posts
4/11/2006 10:33 am

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4/19/2006 8:18 pm

Already too late?

I ran into an old friend at a party this past weekend. I've seen her several times these past few years and each time I've been more and more attracted to her.

When she and I first met about ten years ago, she seemed interested in me (at one point she told me to my face that she thought I was cute) but the feeling wasn't quite mutual (I seem to remember that I was more interested in someone else at the time). At any rate, nothing happened between us then.

Now... she looks great. And she seems to have a great disposition (more and more I'm trying to find "happy" people to be around). And she's single. We had a great conversation. I'd like to ask her out. But I wonder if I already blew my chance long ago and her enjoyment of our conversation was in part because she knew she now has my interest and will enjoy turning me down.

I'm not suggesting she's vindictive. But we've all heard stories of people who thoroughly enjoyed turning down people in whom they were once interested.

Maybe I'll give it a shot. What do you think? We did have a fun conversation.

LadySunrise 33F  
2432 posts
4/11/2006 11:56 am

you will only know...if you do something about it!!!! what harm could come...with just asking for a date!! you can do it!! not even a date...just a meeting of two good people!

live more, laugh often, love much

Choozmi 50M

4/17/2006 3:46 am

Sunrise, I sent her an e-mail yesterday inviting her to have lunch with me. I was too shy to call (and I'm not sure I still have her number anyway).

Here goes...

Choozmi 50M

4/19/2006 8:18 pm

Update: She e-mailed me back with some long essay about how she's putting her life back together and not seeing anyone right now, blah blah blah. That's the second time I've gotten this speech from someone in three weeks.

I think someone wrote in an advice column somewhere that the hot new way to turn people down for dates is to tell them that you're working on yourself and not dating at the moment.

I'm fine with it either way, but a simple "No thanks" would have been better than such a speech.

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