"Women" versus "ladies"  

Choozmi 50M
746 posts
5/16/2005 4:14 pm

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"Women" versus "ladies"

I've always found the term "ladies" to be condescending. I get the impression that most women prefer to be called "women."

I usually hear guys calling them "ladies" when they're trying to get women into bed, as in, "How would you ladies like to this or that?"

"Ladies" can be a fun term when used with a sense of humor, in a James Bondian manner (that's how he greeted Bambi and Thumper right before they proceded to beat the snot out of him, for example).

But hey, maybe this is just me.

rm_Elysia2005 43F
412 posts
5/16/2005 4:29 pm

This is probably irrelevant, but I tend to use this term with my daughters and their friends (all of whom are under the age of ten) when I'm trying to gently nudge them into behaving in a slightly more mature manner than they are... as in, "Ladies, can we please settle down now?"

Egads, you're right... quite condescending... and yet I've had guys call me a lady and it not sound cheesy or patronizing... can't think of an example ATM though...

darwin294 42M

5/16/2005 4:30 pm

I dunno...I think it is all in how you associate the words "ladies" and "women". I can certainly see your point though. I view "ladies" as being a term with respect and class for its intended recipient but that's probably just because of my upbringing and surroundings. You certainly bring up and interestign point none-the-less. I should probably ask the women in my life what they prefer...maybe I've just been a horses ass when calling them "ladies". Thanks for bringing this to my attention.

wyvernrose 38F
3895 posts
5/16/2005 5:15 pm

Well I will give you some advice, don't call me a woman, stick to Lady, sheila or Girlie then I am sure we will get along just fine
My kids call me mum and my hubby calls me fuck bunny....
My mates call me Mags and my sister calls me Pumba, lol a name is a name, is a name!


DeepLove8 58M/54F
111 posts
5/16/2005 5:18 pm

And here I always thought "Lady" to be a term showing more respect, as in "Lady Di". If I call her my "woman" it sounds like we're back in a cave with clubs. So....no disrespect intended.

rm_BigDnLady 43M/41F
1140 posts
5/16/2005 5:32 pm

I love being called a lady! The Oxford dictionary has one of the definitions for lady as: a woman of superior social position!! Being a woman, is no bad thing either! The same dictionary defines it in one of its definitions as: a wife or lover. Either one is fine by me. as long as I am being respected!! I have had the nickname "Lady for many years and even have it tattooed on my left breast! I wear it like a badge of honor!!


rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
5/16/2005 5:53 pm

"Ladies" is somewhat a respectful term; however, I do see your point when you put that into perspective, you are so right. I don't like women either... Makes me feel too old.... lol...

Oh, well..

Happy blogging!!

rm_bella_ 47F
4030 posts
5/16/2005 7:10 pm

I have to admit I prefer the term lady rather than woman...it sounds more gentle

rm_jayR63 59F
1884 posts
5/16/2005 7:27 pm

Ladies conjures an image of women having tea and playing bridge but it's ok, as is women.
The term to avoid is MA'AM except when you're talking to your mother.
So many damn things to remember.

papyrina 51F
21133 posts
5/17/2005 12:27 am

either is better then mrs,or aunt ,miss is fine,i'm a woman so why not,lady depends on the mood,girl is ok in Greek sounds beter,
Always act like a lady,be a true woman to your self and be realy girly when you want some thing

I'm a

i'm here to stay

rm_janie233 52F
48 posts
5/17/2005 9:41 pm

I dont mind being called a lady, personally it sounds alot classier than woman. I mean think of it wo-man , a lady and a man are two separate entities and shouldnt have to share that title. Just playing around. lol

playfulwithyou33 56F
961 posts
5/19/2005 7:20 pm

I am both a woman (adult female) and a lady; and as jay refers to ma'am--be on your knees while being my little sex slave saying, "yes ma'am" and I'll adore you for it.

Goldenhairgodess 63F
396 posts
5/28/2005 9:43 am

A rose by any other name.......would smell just as sweet. Was that Shakespere? I am not sure. The problem is not with the name it's self but with the manipultive use by self serving individuals. If the shoe fits, wear it. We all have our own reasons or motives. Since I consider myself at the very least a lady and at the very most a godess then the words misuse has lttle effect on me. Besides, actions speak louder then words. I believe what I see and do not let others effect my self perception (or at least try to offset negative experiences).

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