Speak to me- A Fireside Chat  

HoaryCronySlimy 35M
243 posts
8/24/2006 9:48 pm

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9/28/2006 5:59 pm

Speak to me- A Fireside Chat

Greetings everyone!

I'm back in black, leaving a trail of figurative corpses lying along the road to my own destiny.

How have you all been?

Today I found a quiet wooded slope on the flank of Schweitzer mountain, an imploded volcano from millions of years ago that now serves as Sandpoint's Ski resort (not to mention a breathtaking place in late summer).

Since I moved here I have found this to be a perfect place for meditation and quiet reflection. As the sun sank behind the Western peak, my thoughts wandered from the larger mysteries of life (as they often do) and began mulling over the vast intricacies of sex, and the first year of my relationship.

If I have learned anything from that strange adventure, it is how important communication is during sex (like almost everything else in life.) This has been a big issue between my lover and I. It took months of study and frustrating trial and error before I learned to please her, because she was almost completely inanimate and silent during sex.

Many people do not realize how critical it is to let your lover know what feels good and what does not, and more importantly how to do so in a tactful manner that does not disturb the mood.

Words can be used delicately to urge them in the right direction if they are missing the mark, and if spoken in a sexy, sultry voice it will not disrupt the mood, but most likely enhance your partners experience and speed things up. (instilling confidence can cause the human mind to learn at twice the rate.)

Is it equally,if not more important, to let your lover know when they ARE hitting the right spot. This will save years of sexual frustration and testing patience. Not good with words? Even little noises such as a moan or a gasp can mean the difference between a fun, fulfilling sexual experience and a chaotic aftermath of awkward glances and uncomfortable silence.

Perhaps the key to great sex is to treat the experience as if you were both children at play, rather than a disgruntled office worker.

READERS:

How do you express yourself during sex? Do you moan and whimper, or beg your partner for more?

Perhaps you command, scream with pleasure, or make no sound at all?

Perhaps you have been with someone who was less than tactful in bed? Speak to me...



hornylilgirl78 105F

8/24/2006 10:47 pm

I'm very vocal. I talk, command, moan...it just depends on what is being done to me

~HLG78~

"As kinky as a cheap garden hose!"


HoaryCronySlimy 35M
169 posts
8/25/2006 12:01 pm

    Quoting hornylilgirl78:
    I'm very vocal. I talk, command, moan...it just depends on what is being done to me
Mmm, I'll bet your partner simply adores you!

Thank you so much for stopping in, you are allways welcome!


velvetgrrrl 39F

8/25/2006 7:56 pm

I always wondered why people do not bother to tell others what they like. Not only am I vocal about what I want But I could be the dirty girl telling you exactly how what you're doing is affecting me and letting you know what I want

I can also be the sensual creature moaning and whimpering under your hands your mouth arching into your caresses, your very actions provoking my equlaly responsive reactions.

I don't always appreciate the "suck my dick" comments or the grabbing my head and them forcing me where they want me to go. I liek to take my time and explore every aspect of their bodies.

But I'm a big fan of hearing my partner as well. It excites me even more



Good to see you comng around again

`Velvet
Hell is when u should have walked away, but u didn't.


HoaryCronySlimy 35M
169 posts
8/25/2006 9:58 pm

    Quoting velvetgrrrl:
    I always wondered why people do not bother to tell others what they like. Not only am I vocal about what I want But I could be the dirty girl telling you exactly how what you're doing is affecting me and letting you know what I want

    I can also be the sensual creature moaning and whimpering under your hands your mouth arching into your caresses, your very actions provoking my equlaly responsive reactions.

    I don't always appreciate the "suck my dick" comments or the grabbing my head and them forcing me where they want me to go. I liek to take my time and explore every aspect of their bodies.

    But I'm a big fan of hearing my partner as well. It excites me even more



    Good to see you comng around again
Thank you so much for the warm welcome, most velvet of girls.

Aye, the grabbing of the head bit is the perfect example of the opposite extreme: (total self expression without regard for others). Although many consider this blundering show of force to be a male trait, I have found that it is possible in both genders.

I only wish more people would embrace the art of communication to a fuller extent, as you seem to have done. Imagine what kind of a world this could be?


JuicyBBW1001 54F

8/26/2006 6:36 am

Where the hell have you been my young Potato??? To answer your question I am very vocal he would know. Now don't you stay gone so long cuz I was gonna send the search party for you.

Juicy


HoaryCronySlimy 35M
169 posts
8/26/2006 2:29 pm

    Quoting JuicyBBW1001:
    Where the hell have you been my young Potato??? To answer your question I am very vocal he would know. Now don't you stay gone so long cuz I was gonna send the search party for you.
Hi Juicy!

I've been working 18 hour days trying to sell my business

(Word of advice: never work for yourself. You make the same money as you would working at McDonald's, but without days off and benefits).

Anywho, thanks for saying hi, I missed ya! I'll try to be less scarce,


SavorSensations 33F

9/14/2006 3:15 am

I am very vocal in bed. I let my partner what I like, and I definetely let them know what I love. I am not going to suffer through a mediocre job of clit-licking. I will let them know what I like in subtle, gentle ways. I am never forceful unless I have to be. Some guys just don't fucking get it. My friend, you are one who gets it. I cannot wait until I get my hands on you. All over you. If I ever do...


HoaryCronySlimy 35M
169 posts
9/14/2006 2:54 pm

    Quoting SavorSensations:
    I am very vocal in bed. I let my partner what I like, and I definetely let them know what I love. I am not going to suffer through a mediocre job of clit-licking. I will let them know what I like in subtle, gentle ways. I am never forceful unless I have to be. Some guys just don't fucking get it. My friend, you are one who gets it. I cannot wait until I get my hands on you. All over you. If I ever do...
Well Hello M'lady,

Boy that is true, some men can not be tought.

But don't give me too much credit dear, I would probably pop like a schoolboy late for class, considering my present situation. Vanilla ice cream is only exciting for so long...

I'll give a holler soon!


cdafuncpl 35M/34F

9/28/2006 1:00 pm

Couldn't agree more, it is very important to be vocal with your partner and let them know what you like and what you don't. I spent a long time in the beginning just doing what the guy wanted and wasn't able to express what I wanted or liked. Sex is defiently a lot better now that I have learned to express my needs and desires. And I really enjoy hearing my husband or other partners fantasies and desires. I can become very loud in the bedroom. There is no guessing if I am enjoying myself I moan a ton and scream out in pleasure a lot. It's too boring to be quiet when you are enjoying yourself so much. And I love to be talked dirty to at times, I can really get into it. Love it when my partner is vocal as well. Turns me on to hear him or her moan in pleasure, and lets me know I am doing a good job.


HoaryCronySlimy 35M
169 posts
9/28/2006 2:06 pm

    Quoting cdafuncpl:
    Couldn't agree more, it is very important to be vocal with your partner and let them know what you like and what you don't. I spent a long time in the beginning just doing what the guy wanted and wasn't able to express what I wanted or liked. Sex is defiently a lot better now that I have learned to express my needs and desires. And I really enjoy hearing my husband or other partners fantasies and desires. I can become very loud in the bedroom. There is no guessing if I am enjoying myself I moan a ton and scream out in pleasure a lot. It's too boring to be quiet when you are enjoying yourself so much. And I love to be talked dirty to at times, I can really get into it. Love it when my partner is vocal as well. Turns me on to hear him or her moan in pleasure, and lets me know I am doing a good job.
Thats awesome girl! There are still so many out there that are still trapped in the rut that you so expertly got yourself out of. I too glean a tremendous amount of pleasure from sound...the moaning, screaming and all that comes with it.

I loved your pics, I'll bet you two have so much fun together!

Stop in any time...


cdafuncpl 35M/34F

9/28/2006 5:48 pm

glad you liked our pics, the wife liked looking through yours too. We have lots more too and would be more than happy to share them sometime if you catch the mrs on yahoo.


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