Reality Rules Even in the Virtual World  

ChinRyder 39M
340 posts
8/23/2005 11:52 pm

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Reality Rules Even in the Virtual World

Driving home from work tonight I was thinking about coming home and checking the site to see who had dropped me a line when my mind began to go over how exactly I ended up on this site and how, even here, the rules that govern reality are still in effect:

First off, this site cannot simply get you laid. I think everyone, myself included must have thought this when they first found this place. I mean, look at all of the pictures of naked people on here, and the lists we make of what we're into. We're throwing it all out there and simply expect someone to come by and say "Hey, I like fruit in my ass too. Let's go do it." If we were to post signs up displaying our sexual preferences in real life, would that get us laid any sooner? No, b/c if it did we'd have done it long ago and wouldn't be here advertising, would we?

Second, just b/c you actually talk to people on here does not gurantee courtship. You don't ask people within five minutes of meeting them if they want to get a room, so why try it here. Females, this one doesn't really apply to you. If girls said it I'm sure you'd have a line of guys waiting, but for us it simply isn't the same. Sex, whether trying here or in life, doesn't come at the drop of a hat. Relationships must still be formed the old fashioned way before we get some.

Third, even though the other person looks damn fine in their pictures, and maybe even after you meet them, there's still the trust issue. It's that whole "How do I know you're not a psycho" thing that goes off in our heads the first time we meet anybody. It still pops up here. As flattering as it is for someone to send us a plane ticket or drive 500 miles to spend the night with us, where's no gurantee that we won't wake up in the trunk of a car, or even wake up at all.

All I'm saying is as much as it is a fantasy of mine to hook-up with a stranger it'll probably remain just that. Whether it's meeting people online or in person, it's still not commonplace to go home with someone else right after you first meet them. So to everyone out there that's still in the first stage of excitement, thinking that they're going to get some tonight- good luck. Settle down a bit, realize that it still takes some work, and then do your best to work for what you're after. Although it hasn't happened to me yet, I'm convinced that this site ultimately leads to success.

SweetDarlinAngel 39F
2996 posts
9/1/2005 2:20 pm

Chin~ first off thank for reading and responding to my blog. I appreciated the visit. Second, thanks for the congrats, though I am not sure that I deserved them. I have truly been trying to get to know someone entirely different for a while now and was very concerned that my escapade from Tuesday could have completely ruined that opportunity. Thankfully, my Mr. Nice guy has not pre-judged my moment of weakness. I too have only been registered with for a short time and have to decide whether or not dishing out the funds to become a member is worth it or not. I planned to give it a month a "free" member first. I have to tell you, so far, my experience has been overwhelming. Perhaps as you said above it is the difference between being a man a woman. Or perhaps it is the man to woman ratio. You make some very excellent points. My biggest headache comes from getting bombarded by the offers of sex daily. The "hey baby want to ride this?" I mean how can I ever find decent people out there. People who think, like you, or my Mr Nice Guy. It's not easy on a site like this. I wish you all of the luck in the world. ALL OF THE LUCK, TWICE OVER. You sound like the type of guy I'd love to chat up nad meet, but considering we are 1/2 a continent apart, it would seem that those odds are stacked against us dear Chin. Take care, and keep searching. I know in all of this mess, there are many more people out there like us that are true, real and ready to be human. You'll find them.


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