Johnny get angry  

ChinRyder 39M
340 posts
8/6/2006 10:49 am

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Johnny get angry

Just so you know, this blog has been a long time coming. I've thought about it while sitting on the couch, while I'm working, at the gym, and especially while driving (my best work is done there). I wanted to sit and type the night I first thought about it, but other things came up and it's that whole "typing angry" thing that I've mentioned in the past. I don't (always) like to do it. Anyway....

It came to me while sitting in the drive-thru of Burger King. I was listening to 88.1 WNAS. A high school radio station that I absolutely love simply because they play everything and in no particular order. It's great. The particular song that got me was one from the 50's. It was a girl singing about Johnny. She was breaking up with him, not because she wanted to, but because she wanted some kind of emotional response from him. She wanted him to get angry and show her that the break-up wasn't what he wanted. She mentioned how she wanted a caveman, who acts on instinct and feeds off of his emotions. On any other day this song would have been just that- a song. But with all of the shit that I've been through lately it was the one thing that summed up exactly how I've been feeling lately.

You see, even though my girlfriend and I broke up a couple of months ago I think we were both under the impression that we'd bet back together. Last week I had offered to take her out to eat in celebration of her recent graduation from college (Those of you that follow my blogs know about her party. For those of you just reading this feel free to go back for reference). She works 3rd shift now, so finding time where we could both be free was limited. We said Thursday, and she called that day to confirm. I was cool with it and had left the night open. I wanted to go out to eat and get a chance to see where we both stood with things. Her idea must have been just to get a free meal b/c when it came to what time she told me that it had to be right after I got off work b/c she had plans later that night.

EXCUSE ME?! So you want me to take you out to eat and then you run off to do God knows what with God knows who?! I don't think so. If you want a free meal then how about I just give you $20 and you can go get something on your own? Now, this is just what I'm thinking. What I said was entirely different. I explained that I thought that I had the whole night with her. She then accused me of being selfish, to which I suggested we just talk about it later (like that's ever going to happen at this point). If you aren't interested in spending time with me why not say so instead of trying to have your cake and eat it too? You want to play the field- fine. But don't try and fuck me over without giving me a kiss. That's just rude.

To add insult to injury I've had to deal with someone that I met from this site. We've IM'ed for months, even chatted on the phone. She suggested that she might come to town one day last week, and again I say I'll call to make sure the plans are still in effect. If you do, cool. If not, no big deal either. That was almost a week ago and the only contact I've had with her was initiated by me. What's the deal?!?! Either you do or you don't, but where do you get off making plans and then not even calling to say you can't make it, etc.? If we're just friends, fine, but damn, even my friends treat me with more respect than that.

So, what's my point with all of this and how does it relate to the song? My point is it isn't the guy in the song that necessarily has the problem. It makes me mad that in relationships it's the girls that are constantly testing things. Guys can come home every day and tell their woman that they love them, but the first day that they don't the damn breaks and all hell breaks loose. 9 times out of 10 a guy says exactly what he means. If he says he wants to just fuck you, give up the idea of a relationship and be happy with the fuck or walk away. If you don't want to pursue a relationship anymore SAY SO!!! Don't keep pretending that that's what you want if you don't have any intention of working on it. And finally, if you say you're interested in meeting someone put your money where your mouth is and actually SHOW UP!!! Or at least call and explain for God's sake.

This is a two way street ladies. No relationship, no matter how small (coworkers, roommates, fuck-buddies, etc.) requires communication on both parts. This whole world would run so much better if people would just say what's on their fucking minds, and to the right people. I'm betting that if the girl singing that song just told the guy that what she wanted was a little more affection instead of breaking-up with him, writing a song about it and broadcasting it to the world they'd still be together today. Just a thought.

ChinRyder 39M
235 posts
8/6/2006 10:58 am

Ed. note- I really would like to hear from people on this one. Positive or negative, it doesn't matter. And especially to anyone mentioned above, I encourage you to speak your mind here. If you feel like you've been treated unjustly maybe it would be better to let the masses decide. Or not. No reason to air our dirty laundry to the world. I guess I just feel like I need someone to tell me that I'm right.

rm_jolie986 30F
3 posts
8/6/2006 5:34 pm

maybe not everyone is like you. maybe people just sometimes dont know what they want. you're right about communication, and blowing someone off is obviously never the thing to do. but it isnt always about speaking up about how u feel or what you're thinking. sometimes it may simply just be that people don't really know what they want.

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