Still Confused  

CherryBomb1976 46F
15 posts
10/23/2005 6:29 pm

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4/28/2006 4:09 pm

Still Confused's been a week since I last saw him. I wish I could turn back the hands of time; and given him a chance to explain what he meant by taking a step back. This past Friday was very hard; as we usually go out to dinner; playing punch-buggie while out on the road; then back to his house to watch television (along with his animals who I miss) Nothing like unwinding from a long week with someone you care about. I got a very brief response via E mail from him yesterday..which was nice. However; I'm still confused.

rm_12jcr34 54M

10/25/2005 5:25 pm

He could be going through any number of things. How long have you been with him? Was there any talk of a long term committment? If so, he could be fearful of that. If not, it could be that he found someone else and is having a hard time talking to you about it.

I suggest you ask him what is going on and demand that he talk to you about it. If he can't talk to you about his feelings about the relationship, where could it possibly be heading? Demand an answer, if he can't give you one, don't wait around for him. Move on. If you really love each other, it will come back together.

Good Luck!!

rm_caniel70 47F

10/26/2005 2:50 pm

I hope everything works out for you. I can see how a person would be confused, not just you but him as well. Maybe he's unsure of what you might be thinking or how you will react, if he is bi-sexual. Give him his time and space. I wish you the best.

lancer20047 45M

10/29/2005 12:38 pm

Want to watch his head spin? Go out with a guy from this site and let him know that taking a step back means seeing other guys. That will make him make his mind up about you very quickly.

mindheartandsoul 51M
1 post
11/6/2005 3:03 am

Hi. I have found in my experiences that you just can't make someone love you, no matter how hard you try. You could give them the world, but if the mental connection between the two of you is broken, then you really just have to let time do its thing. Sometimes when a person "takes a step back", it gives them time to realize how much they really had in their partner before they decided to make this move.

It sounds to me that you have not only told him, but also shown him how much you care. You have done what you can do for now. The healthiest thing to do is for you to take this time and work on yourself. One of the many things you could do would be to go back to the gym...Not because you don't look great or even need to, but because it is great for alleviating the everyday stress in your life, and working out is really great for your health. It also fills some of the time that you would have spent with him before he backed away. Or...How about taking a course at a local community college in an area that you have been saying all your life, "Someday, I am going to learn how to speak Mandarin Chinese"? (just an example...This is something I am actually working on)

The point I am making above is to make sure that you do not sit idle. Doing this allows for you to focus all of your thoughts on the fact that the two of you are not together and could lead to feelings of depression. Stay busy, call old friends and try to re-connect, work a few extra hours, etc...Just stay occupied. What will happen is, you will be working on yourself, imporving day by day, and it will put yourself in even better mental and physical shape...exactly where you want to be if he comes strolling back to you, or if you happen to meet the next Mr. Right. Everything will be find...Things always work themselves out over time. It is time for you...try to make the best of this time. I wish you the best!

1 post
12/11/2005 7:54 am

maybe just need to relax and have a friend with no strss who is local that you can relax and watch tv and eat pizza with. Find yourself again in simple yet not alone situation.

LooseLodgeOpsin 55M

12/24/2005 7:29 pm

Are you still separated?
It looks like you got a lot of good advice here. I don't have anything to add except as most say here, keep yourself occupied with other things and your life will work itself out.
All todays eventually become yesterdays. This sad time for you will eventually pass.

mmbc4u 47M
4 posts
12/25/2005 2:12 pm

I`d love to take you to dinner. I`m in Pennsauken for the Christmas vaction. I`m meeting some friends tuesday at Champs. Hope you will join us or just me.

RockPebble 69M
2487 posts
1/3/2006 12:32 pm

Did you guys sort it out yet? Hope you had a good holiday season. I'm up by Trenton if you want to talk over coffee.

anitalianman39 54M

1/6/2006 7:06 pm

cherry bomb, joseph here
listening to the advise of others always helps but can also give paralysis by analysis, all the things that are going on, why did he, why does he,will he, when will he, you already know in your heart! ask yourself and the answer will make itself known soon enough...loving someone can be a terrible burden but the reward is worth the risk.
the two deadliest faults of both men and women?
men always think they can do better
women always think that because of their love, they can change a man, fatal mistake for all...

scorpio31167 49M
5 posts
2/8/2006 4:55 am

hey are you still with the sight as last comments last year drop us a note

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