I got rhythm, I got music  

Chancy4now 41M
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1/22/2006 2:48 pm

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I got rhythm, I got music


Does a good dancer equal a good lover? A lot of people seem to think so, especially women. It makes me wonder why guys are often so reluctant to hit the dance floor and throw down some moves. Maybe they're worried they won't measure up; maybe they are afraid of looking silly or too "gay" or something like that. I don't know. I do know that in most clubs, the competition from other guys on the dance floor is usually limited to a couple of married guys out there just to make their wives happy and a gay guy or two, though I have seen black guys out there mixing it up now & then. Them, I watch. I hate to propagate stereotypes (even positive ones), but most of the really good dancers I have seen were black. I learned to dance in hip hop clubs when I was in the Navy. I'm sure I was a comical sight, a skinny white boy from Hickville, USA, shaking my scrawny ass to gangsta , but my buddies just laughed and cheered me on. The only secret to dancing well that I have discovered, besides natural rhythm, is to be completely unafraid of looking like an idiot. I can pull a Napoleon Dynamite move, screw it up, and just laugh and keep moving. You can't be loose and 'with the flow' when you're afraid of looking silly. I think some those things apply to sex as well. Someone who is concerned about how they look during sex is unlikely to be free and spontaneous. If I'm thinking about how my face looks or whether my hair is messed up, I can't be concentrating on how my partner is feeling. I'm also highly unlikely to take any risk, reducing the encounter to scripted, predictable moves that inspire no real appreciation. Some people may say that the rhythm is what makes dancers good lovers, but I would say it is the confidence in our bodies and the confidence to just let them move.

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