giving oral  

Cathy_Dave 54M/54F
155 posts
3/12/2005 4:28 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

giving oral

Have received some interesting emails in regards to my posts about oral. Some sick....some twisted..... some not too bad.

One in particular mentioned that guys are not getting enough head and us women should do our part to learn as much as possible about giving oral and do our part to make sure guys are getting lots.

I wonder if this guy puts that kind of effort into learning how to please a woman so he can make sure she is 100% satisfied.

I love giving oral.....find it soooooo greatest turn on.....get soooo excited getting the guy off with my mouth....but.....lets remember.......that is only the beginning of a great sexual encounter.....lets remember that giving a guy oral turns me he better be able to go the distance and be able to perform after getting head.

It has been my experience that a lot of guys can't go the distance.....get a great blow job....shoot their load..... then once they know how much you love giving oral each time you meet that's all they want....they never get enough.....they want more and more and more.

Soooo if us women are going to go to great lengths to learn how to give head then it only seems fair that the guys learn how to recover from a great blow job and be ready for more.

Yes I understand this can be difficult especially when a great blow job takes about an hour of seducing.....teasing....licking....sucking....bringing the guy to the edge over and over until he almost begs me to let him cum.....but there is more after that.....this isn't the is only the beginning.....Cathy

zenyen 65M

3/14/2005 5:39 am

Hi, Cathy-

Actually, I believe the post about men not getting enough head, etc. was posted by a woman. But to answer your question - yes, I do put a lot of effort into learning how to please a woman and not just orally. I want to satisfy my partner and there are several reasons. One, I like to see her excited and the sense of power that gives is turn-on (and I mean power in the sense of ability, not dominance). Two, it's hard enough to get a meeting with a woman because of the ratio of men to women here, so I sure as hell want her to want another meeting. Three, a satisfied woman is not a bitchy woman . I try to remain coachable, so what makes great oral from your standpoint?

WestBurbGuy2 62M

3/14/2005 8:52 am

I always cum too fast with new people. One reason why I like to work on a friendship. Sex is more relaxed with friends. Stay harder longer and cum more often. Anyways, Cathy...yes I've paid lots of attention to giving oral to a woman. Most guys want to plunge their tounque deep inside but the sensitive areas are all around the lips. That's were most attention needs to be given. And then every woman is different... with different sensitive spots. It's perfectly fine to ask where those are! I do.

ReadyToTango46 57M
161 posts
3/14/2005 7:02 pm

I love oral, both giving and receiving. I think the most effective way to learn how to do it well is to get plenty of feedback from your partner. No one can read minds, and everyone is a bit different. Practice makes perfect only as long as you have a good coach.

As for the guys that don't go the distance after the blowjob, then they need to learn some good recovery techniques! If I'm still not ready after returning the oral favor, then having the woman lie on her stomach while you lightly stroke and lick her from head to toe is a great way to buy more time (LO and it helps keep her excitment level up.

sportyfun56 106M

3/17/2005 8:35 am

Cathy my dear...
You are so right about there being more than just the guy getting his. I do love to have my cock sucked. However up to now I've never had a lady suck me till I came. The ladies I've that have had my cock in their mouths have had their own personal issues with letting me cum in or around their mouths. So I've never had the supreme pleasure of receiving complete oral the way you describe giving it. I'm still hoping.

BUT, nevertheless, I've always sought to give good oral to ladies and always do my best to bring them to orgasm. I believe you should make love to every part of her body and especially to the most delicate parts. If I cum first during sex I'll always stay attentive to my lady until she is satisfied. I feel that if she isn't sexually satisfied then I have not done my job well. That being making the lady feel like she has been truly and thoroughly pleasured.

rm_BuggsynTaz 56M/47F

3/23/2005 9:15 am

First off, I have never thought about, or ever been curious about doing anything with another guy.
As for learning what a woman likes……I am 47 years old and have learned a lot over the years. In my experiences, I would have to say that the first and foremost important thing to learn is that she always cums first. Then it’s what ever happens.
When my lover and I frolic I always concentrate on her first. Sometimes she won’t let me get her off first and I will even get a little upset about it. However, that is soon fixed by the sensations of her mouth on me. She too gets excited by, and loves to suck me and get me off. Even though I am of the “middle age” stature I can still perform for her. She makes me feel like a teenager when we have sex and I perform with the same vigor and stamina (she can attest to that too!).
So, if a guy can learn anything, make her happy first and do what ever you can to satisfy her. Then if you shoot your load by getting a blow job and you can’t jump right back into it……FOREPLAY! Just start the foreplay again and soon you will be ready to rock her world again, and again, and again!

IPman 60M
313 posts
3/24/2005 12:20 pm

Dear Cathy,

Blow Jobs, wow there is so much to talk about here. LOL

I would stop my lover before i would cum in her mouth if I have not gotten her off a bunch of times already... You are right a women who is willing to please a guy should absolutely be reciprocated... fair is fair.

But lets say I have gotten her off a coule of times, orally or luv making, then hey, why not get me off with a BJ?

Now as to a guy getting hard again, I have found that after I cum in my lovers mouth, if she keeps sucking on me, I can get/stay hard again very quickly, so we can keep going... try that some time on Dave... LOL

Cathy_Dave 54M/54F

3/26/2005 10:37 am

LOL IPman .... Dave never has a problem going the distance.

rm_curiouscpl45 60M/62F
5 posts
3/26/2005 5:08 pm

Hi Cathy

Yes you are quite right after coming it is very difficult to get back on track. I often push my wife away when she is giving head so that I don't come. When I reciprocate she tends to go back down on me. I would rather she didn't do this and waited until after she comes but it is pretty hard to deal with when she gets a bit frenzied. There is nothing more enjoyable than having your cock sucked on and played with but it also tends to shorten the duration too. We have a busy life and she tends to allow outside influences to interupt our sexual life which really irritates me but I must say that one time when we were playing around the phone kept ringing and she would stop to answer it all the time (must have been 10 phone calls) she had been apologising for the interuptions by orally stimulating me and each time I got up only to have the phone ring again. The second last time the phone rang I had totally given up on any more sex and went entirely flacid. She managed to get it up again even though I was determined to do no more. Again the phone rings and again I lost my erection. After the last phone call I was totally flacid and all she did was head down there and the minute I felt her breath on my cock it went off. That had to be the very most intense orgasam I have ever felt.

We seem to have the opposite problem of most couples where I wish things to prolong and she seems to want to get it over with.

4 posts
3/28/2005 8:16 am

It takes cooperation to get a man to go the distance and a willingness to show it possible.
I will masturbate in front of a woman for a number of hours and demonstrate an ability to recover a number of times. When I get a blow job I can reach back under my ass and grab at her tits with one hand while stroking her head with my other...When I cum women usually take it down because of the enthusiasm I show because I am so loud throughout the entire time and my body is moving and jirating into different positions..

I love to eat a woman and like humming and laughing when I do it..I can do it for hours to a woman and have had a woman get about 6 orgasms in one session..

Men need to know how to "balloon" their cock and to show a woman how it is done. Recovery is always best with the entire body up against the other like two kitties snuggling and rubbing each other..Further, he needs to show her how one technique shouldn't be repeated in the same night..A half flaccid cock can still be played with and a man needs to show a woman how it is done...

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