Meeting AFF People  

Cathy_Dave 54M/54F
155 posts
3/26/2005 11:20 am

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Meeting AFF People

We see a lot of comments on these blogs about people getting frustrated because they have never actually met anyone from this site or they don't get responses they hoped for. We have been around this site for awhile and in the beginning we thought it would be a great place to meet people with similar sexual interests.

We have chatted with a lot of people ...... had I don't know how many emails from men that don't read profiles ..... have chatted with couples that turn out not to be a couple at all ..... have found some interesting on line friends ..... have met people that want Dave to do some erotic photoart for them .... but ..... we have never actually met with anyone that resulted in a sexual encounter. The ones we did meet for a coffee turned out to be completely different from what we thought we were meeting ...... have had no shows from people we suspect were just handing us a line of crap ..... have had to weed through all the games people play on line only to realize that this is too much of a hassle.

Although an actual sexual encounter has never resulted from communicating with people on this site we do find what people have to say interesting. Have gotten some great ideas how to spice up our sex life .... have become more open about discussing sexual pleasures openly between ourselves and with some friends or people around us in the off line world ..... have had opportunities to experience some incredible sexual experiences with others just because we have become more open and willing to keep our eyes open for people that may be interested. Each encounter has been the result of somebody we know ..... somebody we knew in the past ..... or someone that we met through a friend which for us turned out to be a lot more comfortable than playing with people we don't really know.

So has AdultFriendFinder helped in our search for people that have similar interests in sexual pleasures. Yes we could say so. May not be people from this site but in some ways being on this site has helped us be more open minded which resulted in us finding what we were looking for.

Just thought we would share this

nightstogether 56M

3/26/2005 12:24 pm

I look on it as being a sort of blind date; you never know what's going to happen or whether anyone is even going to turn up; sometimes it's a pleasant surprise, sometimes not. Luck of the draw, I suppose. But it would be nice if more people could read - or bothered to take the trouble - and it would be wonderful if more people were honest too!

private-intellectual (.de)

cherriesnstemz2 48M/36F

3/26/2005 1:17 pm

you could'nt be more on just happy to see that we are not alone in this feeling about this good luck to and love ones........

DanaeKC 43F
600 posts
3/26/2005 1:50 pm

Yours is a thought-provoking comment about the real AdultFriendFinder, and food for thought. Thank you.

manupforall 58M

3/26/2005 2:16 pm

I have met a few people from AdultFriendFinder.

It is like so many things in our world today.
The profiles and things most people write here are advertising and they are selling themselves.

Unfortunately, there is little truth in advertising either on TV or AdultFriendFinder.

Some of us are *very* honest and out front with who we are and what we want to save ourselves lots of time weeding through useless responses.

I agree with you that even if you don't meet someone from here it is possible to learn a lot and become more open to the chance encounter with friends and others we meet daily.

I find the interest groups to the the most productive part of AdultFriendFinder. You can read what people write and they can read what you write and get a bit more feel for each other than from profiles.

Good Luck, there are good people out there.

Hot4aHugeCock 46F

3/26/2005 4:20 pm

Yes, had some of the same experiences. Lot of guys flirting with you, with all kinds of BS on how good they are and what they would like to do to you. Then when it come to actually meeting, they either got so many excuses or when you do meet them they don't even last 10 min in bed. Now I can see why they rarely get off the porch. Just a bunch of Porch Puppies for the most part. A lot of Barking but no action.
I have been on this site for 2 yrs now and have yet to meet a guy that will really overwhelm me in the bed. Don't know where all those great lovers are but I assume all the great girls who have managed to find a really great one have locked them up and thrown away the key.

zenyen 66M

3/26/2005 4:48 pm

I haven't met a whole lot of people from AdultFriendFinder, but I have met a few. Three couples and two women in 2 years and 3-4 months on here. Have had a sexual encounter with all but one woman and multiple encounters with 2 of the 3 couples. I don't know how long you've been on AdultFriendFinder or where you're from. I've worked pretty hard to get the meetings I've had. I make a lot of contacts that I get no response to and then a lot of responses from people who don't follow through after that. But it is possible to meet people through AdultFriendFinder and have a sexual encounter.

rm_KiwiBoy7 65M
2 posts
3/26/2005 5:47 pm

Its a pity you havent met anyone. I find the reverse. Theres lots of dating sites but AdultFriendFinder seems to attract the genuine people. I have never had a noshow from this site and met more than 20 people and couples and all except one have resulted in great nights of fun.. and daytimes too! Some I revisit now regularly some years on. I know your frustration of weeding and thats why I tend to use the chatroom or msn to get to know ppl first. Its impossible to know from a few lines in an email and a retouched pic. Good luck - dont give up.

GoddessOfTheDawn 105F
11240 posts
3/26/2005 6:19 pm

Thank you for sharing... I myself first joined out of curiosity, never dreaming that I would met another F that now is one of my closest friends, and no - we don't have sex, and never had for that matter.

Because we both are on here we can be really open with each other about all parts of our life, including *this friendly site*, which is very nice.

It sounds like you have realistic goals, though I must say I have met a lot of peepz -yes, mostly men- who have goals like wanting to fuck within two hours or wanting to go cam2cam or have hot chat with complete strangers. I hope they get what they want, but it has never been nor will it be on my wishlist.

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5/11/2005 4:41 pm

I've been thinking about getting a membership and now i have my doubts.

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