Sometimes it's just fuckin painful!  

Catdoc2000 56M
944 posts
7/12/2006 4:58 pm

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Sometimes it's just fuckin painful!


Since leaving the military, a little over 20 yrs ago I have been a "road warrior" A roving trouble shooter covering an assigned geography for a line of equipment my company makes or sells. I like the freedom to make my own schedule for the most part and not be stuck in the 9 to 5 grind that the vast majority of the workforce is suffering through. When I met my wife the strain of being away from home 2-3 days a week had me looking for a career change for a short while but for better or worse we adjusted and leaned to live with the unpredictable lifestyle my job requires. Now my job has been on a downward spiral that I have seen coming for some time now and I'm often on the road 4+ days a week. To top it all my son who has just turned 2 is the neatest little guy in the world and setting in a hotel room 400 miles from home and looking at his picture just fuckin hurts! I know I'm not anything special or going through anything different than many others have and are going through but it makes no difference. Time to step up and make a change.....

smoothnjuicy4u 50F

7/13/2006 7:56 am

I couldnt stand to be away from my kids at all that is why I am a stay at home Mom it gets hard sometimes I had a career but I would never take back my decision to stay home. I would of missed so much. But ya know some people do ok with being away, and that is alright too. Do what you have to do to be happy and content. good luck


Catdoc2000 56M

7/13/2006 4:45 pm

My wife is a stay at home mom and plans on homeschooling too. That is part of my dilemma I make really good money in this job and I will most certainly take a cut to get home every night. It's a queation of patience and balance to find a job that is enjoyable, gets me home and provides enough income to make it on my salary alone. It will happen.... I hope.


rm_plain1_5 56M
28 posts
8/4/2006 8:53 am

You ask some GREAT QUESTIONS! These questions face almost every male / husband / lover / "breadwinner" across the country. What to do? Make the money on the road, or make considerably less money by staying close to home?

It would seem that "communications," "commitment," and "honesty" are critical elements. Your partner must be aware of the strain of making money FOR THE FAMILY's good; if not, time to trade places. Let her earn the money and you stay home. Being on the road for long periods of time really sucks (and can be fun!) when wanting to develop and maintain relationships with the ENTIRE FAMILY. To be successful on the road means that there is SOLID SUPPORT from ALL OF THE FAMILY.

Temptation - damn right! On the road, lonely, horny, places everyone at risk! I don't think there are any consistent answers to this! Each person must deal with the demands of each situation. Getting laid, getting a blowjob, getting a kiss, or holding someone other than your partner presents lots of questions for each person. How do you respond?

I agree with Smoothnjuicy4u; you do what you need to do to be happy and content. Make a choice and LIVE CONTENTLY with that choice!

Good luck!


Catdoc2000 56M

8/4/2006 5:18 pm

You're right and the fact that the wife shut down on me, and I'm not talking just physically, but emotionally is why I came to this site. Once I found some other women to interact with, and I don't mean just physically my need for her lessened changing the dynamic of the relationship. So now we are doing better. I really want to get a job where I can come home every night and I'm willing to take a hit in pay BUT I won't take just any job that will make me miserable too.


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