I'll tell you what I think!!!  

Catdoc2000 57M
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3/9/2006 6:28 pm

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I'll tell you what I think!!!

Well I've got quite a few views but very few comments so instead of neutral questions I'm going to tell Y'all what I THINK concerning monogamy. I may be preaching to the choir here but I think that about 75% of all relationships should have a monogamy free era. For the first few years, it may be as few as 2 or as many as 10 sex is good you really enjoy each other and sex is a boost not a duty. Then things start to change and you start to look for excuses NOT to have sex rather than opportunities TO have sex. It's time for same variety. I don't think that many people in a truly compatible and quality relationship will dump all that history for the first new saddle @!@ or horse ...\8 which ever the case may be. Once age takes it's toll and the drive diminishes you can again settle into a monogamus old age with you lifelong mate.

I think those who cry about the sanctity of monogamous lifelong relationships are the linchpin of society are not well versed in history. Both Greece and Rome along with a host of other nation states had much more lax views on monogamy and they thrived for centuries. While their downfall can be attributed to the rise of Epicurean ways. The basic structure concerning marriage did not change.

I also think that a social norming of open marriages would decrease the number of marriages that are destroyed due to an affair.

florallei 99F

8/22/2006 10:07 pm

Hello Catdoc,

Society today for most part of the world impose certain moral laws and governmental laws on their citizens then there is the religious aspects. You are absolutely correct that throughout history if one believes in the Bible even God's people practiced concubineship and had many wives.
I used to be so close minded and believed on woman and man relationship and believed in it till the day I die...well since then I have become wiser and practical and realistic...I know I or my partner or lover or husband will not be able to satisfy all of my needs or vice versa.
I no longer judge when I see someone seek someone out of their relationship. I don't condone intentional pain or rubbing it on their nose but if intimacy is lacking and everything else is great then add to your relationship however if the relationship can'not be saved other than lacking intimacy but it has many other problems then move on and don't suffer and waste your life.
Life is unfair and so very short...I rather God judge me than man...he is far more understanding of our hearts and intentions.
TY for your post and your visits.
P.S. sorry it is so long...now have a great evening okay?

Catdoc2000 57M

8/23/2006 4:05 am

"P.S. sorry it is so long...now have a great evening okay?"

Don't be absurd Flor! this is a serious subject and requires some serious thought and a serious answer you provided both. Thanks! It seems that once someone reaches our age that jettisoning the social baggage that doesn't make sense is more common. My point is that said social rules sometimes cause more damage for the fact that they are broken rather than the actual damage from the breaking of them.

hope that makes sense....

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