Wait One Minute!  

CantonOhCouple 60M/60F
370 posts
8/6/2005 7:07 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Wait One Minute!

As we describe in our previous blogs, we decided to try and arrange a three-some with Sam, the answer to our shared fantasy. He’s available, he’s obviously attracted to my wife, and he claims to have prior experience that fits with my bi-curious curiosity.

Two little hitches.

The first hitch is that Sam is not aware that a coup is being planned. So far as he knows, it’s all about his cock and her pussy. And, as she notes from their phone sex, Sam is very fixated on enjoying the oral experience. My kind of guy. Visions of sugar plums danced in my head. Well, to tell the truth, my visions were a tad bit more pornographic.

This seemed like a simple problem to overcome. Break the news the next time the conversation got a bit steamy. He’s already hit on her, next time, return the favor.

But resolving the first problem ran afoul of the second little detail. She wants to sample the appetizer (literally) before ordering the entree. A trial run. Then, if that goes well, we proceed with the seduction. After all, this is her first time. She feels that it would go much better, for all involved, if she’s been naked with each of us separately, before taking on both of us at once.

Suddenly, all of my thoughtful theories met messy reality. Just how open, understanding and supportive was I? Shit. This scenario wasn't in my playtime playbook. The selfish inner child was whining: “What about me?”

What would you do? Stop and think about it before reading further and take a minute to comment on what you would have done (and why). Put yourself in our shoes. Would you:

A. Encourage her to go skinny dipping?
B. Insist on all or nothing?
C. Hell no, we won't go!

Ok, done commenting?

My gut reaction was to insist on all, or nothing. I wish I could say it was because I was concerned for her safety ‒ but she had known Sam for nearly a year before he felt her up. Even so, of course that was a concern. But that wasn't the real issue. Something a little more primal. I felt threatened by the thought of her doing him, period. Lots of insecurities. Lots. It wasn't a future fantasy; it was hard reality.

So, we compromised. We did it her way. But I can't complain. We're now both intimately engaged in getting ready for the big date. And there were some very nice fringe benefits.

Next: Practice Makes Perfect

rm_mwm34 48M

8/7/2005 1:00 pm

Great dialog of feelings and expectations. I understand how you came to the point where you are. Maybe I can help you explore those fantasies.

rm_randy715 72M

8/8/2005 7:40 am

Not so fast...the decision to pursue this experience is one both agreed to. Yet, the emotional issue was not experienced due to the anticipated sexual pleasure and passion both of you were fantasizing. It has been my experience that in me ( and maybe you) there is a sense of male ownership regarding a female who is committed to me (you, maybe). So, you're dealing with the gut response which I believe is particularly male. I'm wondering about the female response were the situation reversed. My guess, without being informed, is that the female looks at the larger picture of commitment and trust and so once the discussion and approval is given, is freed of dealing with either of those issues. My sense also is that there is no change in her feelings or commitment toward you. I'm interested to read your comments to this.


CantonOhCouple 60M/60F
553 posts
8/9/2005 5:09 am

You're right, there certainly was no change in our commitment to each other. But faced with the choice of letting her do it "her" way, or setting the fantasy aside, we chose the course of action that made her feel the most comfortable.

northakron 42M
2 posts
8/13/2005 7:17 pm

take your time, let it come naturally..... dont let "sam" push her into meeting and explain to him your fantasies. Personally we have the same ones but see how it goes naturally..... If its meant to happen it'll happen, if not c'est la vie

1funguy59 57M

9/17/2005 11:45 am

Sounds like Sam was really the victim or benefactor depending on your view.

northakron 42M
2 posts
9/25/2012 2:13 am

so many years later now, but how has your experiences changed since then?

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