fling vs. affair  

CandyKissBaby 61F
1919 posts
9/14/2005 7:02 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

fling vs. affair

I readily admit I stole alot of this from a group post, but I thought it was interesting enough to ponder. Let me know what you think, please


How many people are looking for a casual fling, friends-with-benefits type arrangement, for the occasional (and understanding) addition of variety in life?
How many people are really looking for a long-term partner to fill in where a marriage has gone south of desirable?
How many of you want just a booty call or no strings sex?
There's a big difference there, and understanding it makes all the difference in the world.

If you're looking for a fling, and you've got a drive that just doesn't match up 100% with your spouses, is that so wrong? You're a human being, you've made yourself available first, foremost and completely to your spouse and there are things that they're just not interested in. Do you sacrifice who you are as an individual of thought, choice, and desire to match up with their schedule of acceptable desires, or to you seek like-minded individuals in a similar position?

If you're looking for an affair, why is it that you're willing to take a second long-term partner in addition to the partner that isn't quite working out for you?

If you're looking for booty call or no strings sex, is it from lack of sex at home or boredom, what is it that has made you go looking?

And to couples who want to meet up and play together with others, rock on. Your healthy sex drives and compassionate relationships truly understand the nature of the human beasts that we all are, underneath our dressings of civility.

playtime44uandi 53M
6545 posts
9/18/2005 4:31 pm

I cant believe no one has responded to this yet. For myself, being single, I'm looking for more of an on going thing. But I'm not going to turn down a one timmer with a great lady if thats all she wants.
That being said, I am a bit picky about who I choose to have asexual experience with. I mean there has to be mutual attraction. a descrete way to contact each other, & a place to meet that both party's are comfortable with.

~We'll Leave The Light On~

CandyKissBaby 61F

9/19/2005 12:19 pm

thanks for your thoughts playtime, i do appreciate them.

i always ask the guy what he means by 'no strings' sex? if he's looking to put another notch on his bedpost, i'll pass. those are the guys who only want to get their rocks off & that's the only time you hear from them. i'm not going to have sex with someone who i can't be friends with. i am also picky in who i have sex with.
you are right about the mutual attraction & being discreet hon.


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