What do I think is sexy  

ByteChaser2 52M
2834 posts
11/4/2005 8:53 am

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What do I think is sexy

Ok, so bella_ did a post yesterday - [post 133694]. The first thing that came to mind as a response was something like:

"bella_? Sexy? Ummm... YUH!"

But then, the title wasn't really the question. At least not the whole question... And further, the reason I thought that was based on several different levels, not just the striking pose she makes in her photos...

So, bella_, lets explore what I think is sexy (and why) in general and then specifically what I find sexy about you shall we?

I think your right on the mark when you make that opening statement about sexual attraction in species'. The initial cues are certainly based on some sensory cue. Pheromones, bright, flashy coloration, a particular sound, body posture or movement, physical features and so on.

As an example, take me and my cues... Freckles. I mean... my my my I do think freckles are sexy! I mean, she could be a train wreck in every other respect but if she's got freckles, I'm a little cocker spaniel, leashed to a stake with no hope of escape... I have no clue which synapses is misfiring on this but hey, that's one thing about a woman that gets me started.

More physical cues... lets see. Oh, that kind of depression that runs along the spine. (another pleasant shudder). I think that's amazingly sexy.

A natural, unrestrained smile. Not forced or rehearsed, like one makes for a family portrait. I mean a no shit, "I'm pleased and happy" smile that includes the eyes. I melt!

There are so many other physical things that I could go on for days... Suffice it to say that in the initial phases of attraction (in the exclusion of human emotions), it's a sexual reaction to a physical cue.

Initially, seeing your photo for the first time, I thought you were sexy in the extreme.

Now here's where the waters get a little muddy - the other cues... The ones that aren't tied to some sensory input like sight or smell or touch. The emotional responses to things like interests, thoughts and impressions, feelings of commonality and compatibility.

Another example? This young lady I spoke of in yesterdays post Red light, Green light.... - The sweet Italian cookie "Milano". The physical cues are definitely there but those other less tangible attributes are making me wonder if she's really sexy at all.

She can carry on an intelligent conversation. She has thoughts and ideas that seem compatible with mine, her (at least initially) apparent emotional stability. I find that to be even more sexy than the way a woman wears her hair or the perfume a woman wears. I find that being on a comparatively even emotional level with a woman is an even greater attraction than nearly any other attribute.

Come to find out (sadly after far too much wasted time and effort) that she really isn't what she appeared to be. In fact, I'm getting a strong impression that she's emotionally weak, that her interests don't match well with mine... That on an emotional level, we're almost opposites.

With you, that attraction is just as strong as the physical attractions. Take your recent post [post 130735] as an example. Now I don't think that being a "lost little girl" is in any way sexy at all. However, that you can self analyze this and conclude that your NOT lost I think is hugely sexy. What's more, that you can verbalize it intelligently, elegantly and with such open honesty and vigor is SEXY! I mean...


I know this just scratches the surface of how I feel about the topic in general, and as it applies to you specifically. And note that I haven't said a word about the act of sex as it may apply to sexiness. While it applies on a physical plane, it's just an act of procreation and is such a small component of sexiness as to be all but disregarded in this discussion.

To answer your question though, yes I think you are a very sexy woman, and whats more, sexy on multiple planes, dimensions and observable points.

digdug41 49M

11/4/2005 9:32 am

hey this a good post I saw you didnt have anything to write on bella's blog yesterday and I caught this today very well thought out I think she will appreciate it

roaming the cyber streets of blogland

ByteChaser2 52M

11/4/2005 10:56 am

I hope she does too digdug. It took a lot of thought to give her as accurate an answer as I could.

That and it's kinda long winded lol Didn't want to go posting this big long diatribe on hers and clutter it up and all...


caressmewell 53F

11/4/2005 10:58 am

Byte, I find your picture very sexy! BTW, I have lots of freckles

ByteChaser2 52M

11/4/2005 11:10 am

Freckles? Did you say FRECKLES!!??

Tilting my head to the side, tongue lolling, tail wagging...

I wanna see!!! Please? Pretty please!!?? I'll go fetch the paper for ya

papyrina 51F
21133 posts
11/4/2005 1:20 pm

God i have thousands of bloody freckles,i hate them.

nice post ,

I'm a

i'm here to stay

papyrina 51F
21133 posts
11/4/2005 1:21 pm

God i have thousands of bloody freckles,i hate them.

nice post ,

nice butt too

I'm a

i'm here to stay

ByteChaser2 52M

11/4/2005 6:09 pm

Wow papy, so many you had to say it twice?

I know you have freckles and believe me, I've been lusting after them for months!

ByteChaser2 52M

11/4/2005 6:10 pm

Wow papy, so many you had to say it twice?

I know you have freckles and believe me, I've been lusting after them for months!

Sexy legs too!

helga_hansen 49F  
1987 posts
11/5/2005 4:16 am

Byte... I'd go one step further... in some small way I think we're all sexy, but as you yourself pointed out, there are certain things that you find instantly sexy, so if someone of the opposite sex doesn't have those "little somethings" that do it for you, there will be some other bloke she appeals to, because he'll have his ideas about what "sexiness" is.


PS. I've got freckles, beauty spots, moles... take your pic!

Love, hugs and kisses from ♥♥HH♥♥

ByteChaser2 52M

11/5/2005 11:59 am

Well said Helga and true as the day is long. And that's really the point right? We each have our cues, freckles are one of mine as are intelligence and spirit. But just because I lust after freckles doesn't mean anyone else would - and whats more, just because a woman doesn't have freckles doesn't necessarily mean I don't think she's sexy either. It's not one thing or another, it's all of it taken in from the whole of a woman that comprises sexiness.

And I'd LIKE to take a pic!

bella_ 47F
4030 posts
11/5/2005 4:54 pm

Byte...I think most bloggers misinterpreted my post. The point I was trying to get across is that it is difficult to know if someone is sexy without having one on one contact.

Sexiness comes from within, it has nothing to do with beauty or ones figure. Someone call say yes, that is a sexy photo or she struck a sexy pose in the photo...but sexiness comes from within...something you can describe as the way a woman looks at you is sexy..and other things that cannot be described.

Thanks for this post...I loved it!

Lapkin4u 42F

11/8/2005 10:32 am

Byte you simply amaze me on so many levels. From reading this post you amaze me with your sweet gentleness,incredible view of the world and people in it and your thoughtful way of reaching out. Then I scroll down and read your comments and its like a comedy show....I LOL with tears in my eyes and I am amazed again. Beautiful is all I can say! Can't wait to talk to you face to face. You truly are an amazing person!

ByteChaser2 52M

11/9/2005 12:56 am

I agree 110% bella. Sexiness is such an alusive thing to pin down. It's never one thing and in the long run (at least for us visually fixated males) it's rarely some physical 'thing'... It's all about the person and the chemistry, and the emotion and... and...

It's just... what

It? Yeah, it's just it

and you have it

ByteChaser2 52M

11/9/2005 1:02 am

Lapkin, I'm at a complete loss... I could never take a complement even half as glowing and expect to maintain composure. You've got me speechless and that's such a wonderous acheivement! I'd award you a medal if I could Babe!

See you in the spring!

Trythisgirl 54F
63 posts
11/20/2005 8:14 am

Byte, thanks for the link, loved the topic. I do not think of myself as sexy in spite of (maybe cuz the other 1/2 has verbally beat that one out of me, but I don't think I ever did too much anyway), in spite of recently being told, and told and told, and he thinks I am being coy and fishing for compliments. Now I see it differently and maybe the dimmer switch is going on just a wee bit!

ByteChaser2 52M

11/20/2005 7:30 pm

Well, you should Trythisgirl. Seriously! I'm a decent judge of sexy and you got it

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