Not in MY house  

ByteChaser2 53M
2834 posts
3/26/2006 8:17 am

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3/30/2006 6:57 am

Not in MY house

So, once again, it's happened. Someone, well intentioned though it may have been, decided to come into my house and piss drama all over my carpet.

Look, I got enough of that smelly crap in my life. I don't need anyone else dumping theirs in my little castle here.

Lets have story time, yeah?

Animals learned this long, long ago. Never shit where you sleep. See, Animals usually pick a spot away from their food, water and nest to dispose of waste. They figured this out from long ages of natural selection where Animals who defecated in the den became sick and died, where those that dumped elsewhere lived and thrived.

See, poop breeds all manner of nasty creepy crawlies. Disease and toxin, never mind the smell...

So it is with drama. It's this steaming breeding ground for hate and jealousy and generally destructive emotions. It smells of ammonia and stings the soul. The more of it you let pile up in your life, the worse the smell and toxin gets until is kills your soul.

I'm trying people. I really am. I want to keep a clean home. I want a happy, clean, healthy - DRAMA FREE - life. I'm slowly but steadily scraping away the years of crusted and festering crap out and replacing it with lemony scented good.

So do me a favor... Don't shit where I live.


ArgosPlumyKooky 45F
3902 posts
3/26/2006 8:35 am

sounds shitty, really like your explaining of it.


rm_cozycatz 50F

3/26/2006 8:36 am

I feel your words, and they hit close to home for me too . I was raised with "Dont shit where you eat" , and "If you lay down with dogs, you get up with fleas" , and DAMN If that didnt turn out to be true too.

Definately time to clean the carpets I would say!


rm_sj365 55F
2414 posts
3/26/2006 8:37 am

no need to count to 10...get angry, delete, request review, whatever it takes. Your blog isnt someone elses billboard. go you!


ByteChaser2 53M

3/26/2006 8:59 am

    Quoting ShayeDK:
    Very creative way to explain your situation.
    Bravo!


    Sorry your steppin in it.
    Not sure what to tell ya. I raised 4 kids and the drama stains are tough to remove for sure.

    When it comes to drama, too many people are not potty trained, that's for sure.

    Count to 10 and go get some fresh air. It can't hurt...
1 - breathe in...
2 - hold it for a couple seconds...
3 - waterfalls...
4 - slowly exhale...
5 - clean, clear waterfalls...
6 - fish jumping around the hyacinth...
7 - deep deep inhale...
8 - sip of coffee...
9 - calm...
10 - calmmmmmm


ByteChaser2 53M

3/26/2006 9:04 am

    Quoting SensuallyKatey:
    Yanno (to borrow from you if you please)
    I like the way you put all the lemony smell
    around here...
    in fact I admire it..
    Byte,
    I need some lessons in this area desperately..
    and I am dead ON serious here Man..
    I seem to struggle to be able
    to clean house and keep it clean...
    I want the lemony smell over at my place too..
    please please please..
    help me to learn this.
    Thank you.
    Kate
It's tough Kate... Drama just seems to follow those of us who just can't say "No". People have been telling me for years to just grow some balls and put a stop to it... just say NO MORE! That'll help stem the flow but cleaning it all up now... Thats a whole different battle.

I'm not very good at that part. They don't make carpet cleaners for the soul I'm afraid. I guess it helps a lot to just to keep new crap from piling on the old crap.

I found my fish... thats making me all clean inside again... It's not much but it's what I got yanno?


ByteChaser2 53M

3/26/2006 9:25 am

Thanks snatchmatch - I try to put a real life spin on story telling yanno? Worked for the ancients!


ByteChaser2 53M

3/26/2006 9:30 am

    Quoting rm_cozycatz:
    I feel your words, and they hit close to home for me too . I was raised with "Dont shit where you eat" , and "If you lay down with dogs, you get up with fleas" , and DAMN If that didnt turn out to be true too.

    Definately time to clean the carpets I would say!
And it all starts with "NO MORE!"

And one of them rental steam cleaners from the hardware super store


ByteChaser2 53M

3/26/2006 9:32 am

    Quoting rm_sj365:
    no need to count to 10...get angry, delete, request review, whatever it takes. Your blog isnt someone elses billboard. go you!
And speaking of deep down, fast acting, drama repelling soul cleanser!

There's my baby!


ByteChaser2 53M

3/26/2006 10:09 am

I'm happy to help any way I can Kate! Love and hugs back atcha!


digdug41 49M

3/26/2006 10:11 am

well byte i dont know what happened but hey ya know it only takes one to ruin the party so you do whatcha gotta do in order to keep your place sucker and drama free

roaming the cyber streets of blogland


caressmewell 53F

3/26/2006 10:29 am

I'm sorry this has happened to you. Go sit by your koi pond and relax..let the tension from this drift away. Love ya babe!


rm_MtnHikr 52M
159 posts
3/26/2006 10:41 am

Well, I guess the good news is that it is all a very worthwhile pursuit. When I'm wise and emotionally centered I'm able to not get sucked into it.

It reminds me of when I was in my mid-20s and had plans to go whitewater rafting. My parents kept calling me to remind me to wear my life jacket. Please know that I did have plans to wear my life jacket even if I got nothing else handled! But I got really mad and angry as I felt it to be an insult to my adulthood.

Now that I have kids, I'm always trying to protect them....but if I get out of line when they are in their 20s, somebody please hit me in the head with a 2" x 4"!!!

The bad/good news is that the journey never ends. I find countless opportunities to remind myself to stay centered. I have become more comfortable with the process and have made some progress.

Signed by one who is still on the journey and like all other humans, won't ever arrive,

MtnHikr


rm_MtnHikr 52M
159 posts
3/26/2006 10:43 am

Forgot to mention that I've enjoyed reading about your Koi pond pursuit.

MtnHikr


BenefitsFriend69 57M/60F

3/26/2006 11:16 am

Not sure what's happening, but drama, like any fire, needs fuel. My mom used to say "ignore the ignorant." I've found that in most situations like this in my life, if I refuse to play, they go away. Eventually...


helga_hansen 49F  
1987 posts
3/26/2006 11:19 am

*Pops in to place a {=} on Byte's furrowed brow* Hej hun just thought you could do with a (((hug))) right about now.

Hx

PS. Love the lemony smell!


Love, hugs and kisses from ♥♥HH♥♥


ByteChaser2 53M

3/28/2006 6:55 am

    Quoting digdug41:
    well byte i dont know what happened but hey ya know it only takes one to ruin the party so you do whatcha gotta do in order to keep your place sucker and drama free
Just someone doing one of those off topic "My friend is in trouble" kind of responses one or two posts back. It really was nothing serious yanno... but I can't even let it get a foot hold in my spot right? I hate to but I had to put a foot down and stop it before it started.

So far it seemed to work. I just hope the guy isn't pissed or feeling alienated. Thats what really sux about being blunt...


ByteChaser2 53M

3/28/2006 6:57 am

    Quoting caressmewell:
    I'm sorry this has happened to you. Go sit by your koi pond and relax..let the tension from this drift away. Love ya babe!
S'ok hun. Happens to us all eventually I guess.

That pond sure does work wonders though! Best time I ever spent on a thing, sore or not!


ByteChaser2 53M

3/28/2006 7:05 am

    Quoting rm_MtnHikr:
    Well, I guess the good news is that it is all a very worthwhile pursuit. When I'm wise and emotionally centered I'm able to not get sucked into it.

    It reminds me of when I was in my mid-20s and had plans to go whitewater rafting. My parents kept calling me to remind me to wear my life jacket. Please know that I did have plans to wear my life jacket even if I got nothing else handled! But I got really mad and angry as I felt it to be an insult to my adulthood.

    Now that I have kids, I'm always trying to protect them....but if I get out of line when they are in their 20s, somebody please hit me in the head with a 2" x 4"!!!

    The bad/good news is that the journey never ends. I find countless opportunities to remind myself to stay centered. I have become more comfortable with the process and have made some progress.

    Signed by one who is still on the journey and like all other humans, won't ever arrive,

    MtnHikr
Good on ya [blog MtnHikr]! It's a long, hard row to hoe improving on the parents. I know. I may actually open up the closet and let that skeleton out soon.

My own kids don't give me too much grief actually. Both are pretty responsible and self governed. It's like sj says - "all you can do is point em in the right direction, give em a loving kick in the butt and hope they learned right."

My man-child is 20 now. Got himself out from under the drugs, got himself into a great education and by all expectations, is going to be a much better dad (one of these days) than I was. He does well keeping the drama out.


ByteChaser2 53M

3/28/2006 7:07 am

    Quoting rm_MtnHikr:
    Forgot to mention that I've enjoyed reading about your Koi pond pursuit.

    MtnHikr
lol - you and FeistySynFeistySyn should get together! Ying and Yang there I bet

She could do without all the koi updates lol


ByteChaser2 53M

3/28/2006 7:14 am

    Quoting BenefitsFriend69:
    Not sure what's happening, but drama, like any fire, needs fuel. My mom used to say "ignore the ignorant." I've found that in most situations like this in my life, if I refuse to play, they go away. Eventually...
And therein lies my biggest difficulty friend (I can call you friend yes?) Somehow, just ignoring it causes some sense of "silence equals consent". The only way I've found is to just be blunt and up front. Got to say no, even at the expense of loosing out on what could otherwise be a great friendship...

I expect many would simply take it at face value and accept that I can't tolerate the drama... It's the other few that take a negative personally that hits me in the chest hard. I think I dislike doing it more than they dislike hearing it...


ByteChaser2 53M

3/28/2006 7:15 am

    Quoting helga_hansen:
    *Pops in to place a {=} on Byte's furrowed brow* Hej hun just thought you could do with a (((hug))) right about now.

    Hx

    PS. Love the lemony smell!
Well hey there Helga! Thanks sweetheart, I really do need that hug


ByteChaser2 53M

3/28/2006 7:18 am

    Quoting rm_sexyfitwoman:
    Awesome post. You remind me of a roommate I had who just invited her b/f to come live with us and the shit that flew between them and made such a living stench of my home... Let's just say it was mutually agreed that she needed to find her own place fairly quickly.
Thank you sexyfit! I've been right there too... 'cept I was that third wheel... That was definitely a hard lesson to learn.


rm_goddess1946 106F
13518 posts
3/28/2006 9:16 am

I think this may be one of the reasons that I've been single so long. I like living alone because it is peaceful and quiet if nothing else. My home needs to be as a sactuary...I need it to be a place where I can be recharged to be able to go back in the world as it is a place that will drain and make one crazy if they let it. I don't let it.

Just a little food for thought.............
If you really want to be happy, nobody can stop you...
{=}


ByteChaser2 53M

3/28/2006 10:06 am

    Quoting rm_goddess1946:
    I think this may be one of the reasons that I've been single so long. I like living alone because it is peaceful and quiet if nothing else. My home needs to be as a sactuary...I need it to be a place where I can be recharged to be able to go back in the world as it is a place that will drain and make one crazy if they let it. I don't let it.
Total agreement there Goddess. Everyone needs their own space. This here is mine. Love the blogs!


FeistySyn 52F

3/29/2006 7:16 pm

ahhh HAH! I caught you making fun of me on your blog! damn, I finaly feel liked in this place, someone actually included my handle in a post (doing the happy dance!) .... and you DO realized all my remarks about your koi were tongue-in-cheek??? ... I actually was thinking I need something like that myself, though on a *much* smaller scale - considering I live in an apartment

Apparently the depth of depravity here is bottomless... don't you feel right at home?
~~~~~


ByteChaser2 53M

3/30/2006 6:57 am

    Quoting FeistySyn:
    ahhh HAH! I caught you making fun of me on your blog! damn, I finaly feel liked in this place, someone actually included my handle in a post (doing the happy dance!) .... and you DO realized all my remarks about your koi were tongue-in-cheek??? ... I actually was thinking I need something like that myself, though on a *much* smaller scale - considering I live in an apartment
Of course your liked I knew all along Fiesty lol And hey, if your looking for a small scale koi pond, there's lots you can do and pretty inexpensively too. Like an oak barrel cut in half with a couple small butterfly koi or maybe a 5' X 5' X 2' "planter" box on the porch? I can even hook you up with one of the old filter pumps I have... Won't be needing those any more

I swear it's worth the time and effort!


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