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ByteChaser2 52M
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8/9/2005 7:43 am

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So... Before I get started here. I got my very first "Wink" this weekend! And to make the past week just that much better, not one hate email in 11! Could it be? I'm being accepted? sexyfitwoman sexyfitwoman, I'm sure you'll get the inferrance here Thanks to each and every one of you who wrote and winked!

Ok, so I'm just perusing through the Watched Blogs list, looking for some kind of inspiration to blog on this morning and stumbled on bella_'s blog post [post 64564]. And oh, just by the by... There was most assuredly an Italian lurking in my family wood pile somewhere in history as I have the decidedly Mediteranian(sp?) hairy gene

Got a little conflicted at first. I mean, I really don't like stereotyping and racial epithets... But I did get a chuckle and it does kind of layer into that whole perception is reality idea from yesterdays offering.

There's this thing that kids do. It's something that my parents literally beat out of I and my brother and sister. It's the practice of heartlessness and offensiveness towards their peers. Yeah, labeling.

I'm guilty of it, even through the beatings. And I suppose, to some extent, I'm still guilty. I admit it, kneeling down in supplication before any I've offended this way.

Which is not to say that I think Bella_ is in ANY way offensive with her post but it did get me thinking on that thread again. About how one is perceived, right, wrong or indifferent, tends to become reality.

Perception is Reality...

Back in middle school. I was about 5'6" and weighed in at about 125. A decent size for a kid that age. I played halfback on a pee-wee (And if that's not a label, I don't know what is...) football league and did pretty well. By highschool, I was 5'8" and 135 and in no way even considered for any team sport. That stuck.

Perception is Reality...

Consider that in my home town, the school was a single building that taught first through twelfth grades, that my graduating class was 37. It was hard enough competing with the other 14 guys for the affections of the girls and never mind a girlfriend if you weren't a jock... Because of a label.

Perception is Reality...

We finally grow into adulthood and we're still hauling our labels around with us. I'm too skinny, too hairy, too fat, too bald, too ugly... I need lipo, I need a nose job, a boob job, botox...

I need to change because everyone tells me I'm not perfect. Or I want a change because I think I'm...

Yeah, I know... Guilty as charged your honor. But I'm working on it


wyvernrose 38F
3895 posts
8/9/2005 10:40 am

know exactly what you mean
yup I do

WyvernRose


patsam69 51M/51F

8/9/2005 11:26 am

When I was growing up, I was made fun of because I have an overbite. It is not as noticed now, because my head grew!~ But when I was 10...my teeth were big. Bucky beaver was my name. When I was a teenager, I was called fat. Mostly by my father...but also by some boys at school. I was not fat then...but unfortunately I am now! Thank goodness I am out of school! Kids can be cruel...what can you do? Unfortunately though, those scars remain for a lifetime. They fade, but will alway be there. As adults, we need to learn to accept people for who they are...not what they look like, what they do for a living. How they live their lives. If you don't like it...look away. It's a big world out there with plenty of things to see! I applaud you for trying. I applaud you for admitting that you are not perfect and that you do stereotype people. I do the same...but as I get older I try more and more to be accepting of all people. There is not point in having any type of anger inside you. I wish you the best!


ByteChaser2 52M

8/9/2005 1:56 pm

WyvernRose... I'm sure we all know deep down. From one perspective or the other. Either as the labeler or the offended... I guess sometimes we just need to remind ourselves that we're not just floating around the cosmose alone and the things we say and do really do have long term affects on others.

Love to stay and chat but I'm late for my penis enlargement surgery consult, microderm abrasion and botox treatments!


ByteChaser2 52M

8/9/2005 2:05 pm

patsam69 - Did you have the ears too? Those big dumbo ears? I had the teeth and the ears... and a Navy dad who insisted on the butcher boy haircut for "His Boys". Not one snowballs chance in hell I was hiding those things!

I hear you. I suppose that's why the universe gave us eyes that move around in sockets... so we could look away.


ByteChaser2 52M

8/9/2005 4:15 pm

Yes mzhunyhole... It's pretty sophmoric isn't it... Thank the Universe we're all just a bunch of ones's and zero's here in Blogville though right?


Barbiebunny69 43F

8/9/2005 6:05 pm

byte..i dont care what they say, U dont need a boob job.


ByteChaser2 52M

8/9/2005 8:57 pm

That's my Bunny LIXXXXXXXXXX


papyrina 51F
21133 posts
8/10/2005 12:38 pm

i really don't give a monkeys toss what people think about me,my friends and family know who and what i am and thats all that really matters,i'm me,can't change,won't change


I'm a

and
i'm here to stay


ByteChaser2 52M

8/10/2005 2:10 pm

Papy, sweetheart, what could you be that would even require changing? That's right! Not A Thing!


papyrina 51F
21133 posts
8/11/2005 2:41 pm

stubborness,far too honest,lazy,mmmm,i think thats enough lol


I'm a

and
i'm here to stay


ByteChaser2 52M

8/11/2005 3:13 pm

Ok... If'n you say so...


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