Just some observations  

ByteChaser2 53M
2834 posts
12/29/2005 3:28 am

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Just some observations

So... I managed to get to bed early this evening. Around 7 or so. And I get this phone call at 10 - work and stuff... no big deal. Except now I cant get back to sleep. Soooooo... I'm cruising around the blogs and profiles, just kind of puttering about.

And since it's sort of on topic to mention, go check out luvpump's post [post 181566]. He's the CEO of our Friendly little site and he's looking to us for some suggestions.

So anyway... a couple observations from this evenings foray.

So, the Testimonials. You can kind of tell how receptive a person would be from these I imagine. For example, testimonials that go something like: "...Would really like to meet (him/her/them)" could roughly translate to:

1) I've sent emails asking to meet but so far it's not happening - the person doesn't have enough interest or desire to actually meet anyone from the site.

2) I'm too shy to actually come right out and say whats on my mind - Lends to my "You cant win if you don't play" edict or perhaps And that makes 200! isn't completely full of shit after all...

On the other hand... Testimonials that got something like: "Holy crap (he/she/they) are AMAZING! Cant wait to see (him/her/them) again!"

Well... I bet you can figure that one out right? Neither are all that inhibited and amicable to at least meet off the site.

Lets see... OH!! The handle/profile picture dichotomy... A bit of a disclaimer here though... The handle I'm using is just off the top of my head. I have no clue if it's actually a member on the site and I sincerely AM NOT singling ANYONE out here. So if anyone actually has this handle example, my apologies... It's purely accidental.

So anyway, you see a handle like: "PleaseCumScrewMe9WaysFromSunday". So... assuming your interests lean towards the "I just wanna screw anything that has a core body temp about 96 degrees" spectrum, you have a peek. They've got a profile pic and it's umm... explicit - in the extreme.

Ok. Sweet! This one looks promising right? Except if you check those pesky testimonials... there's a lot of "cant wait to meet" ones in there... Hmmm. Makes me wonder if they might just be looking for an ego boost vs. looking for what the handle/pic suggests.

Again... And that makes 200!. Say what you mean, in small, one and two syllable words and in terms a 5 year old can understand.

ok... so moving on... Yeah. I really cant get to sleep lol

Going back to luvpump's post [post 181566], there appears to be some confusion with some of the personal info items - could just be that the member just doesn't have a firm grasp on the context or meaning of the various line items or... That member has some issue (personal perhaps) with an accurate answer. "Prefer not to say" being the prime indicator.

Now, no a certain extent, I can understand an attached or married person using this in their Marital Status - though, it's my opinion that honesty, however brutal, is best - but umm... Is it really all that embarrassing that you'd prefer not to disclose your eye color? It's a pretty inconsequential thing after all... Right?

Or is a bra size really that much of a personal identifier that one would be reluctant to disclose it? Perhaps I'm just superimposing my own opinions on others but yanno... I don't really think it's necessary to hide your specifics... beyond maybe the city you happen to live in...

Which, of course leads into the next observation. silkysmoothlegs3 was wondering about distance in her post [post 184000]. Go check it out and give an opinion... But anyway.

I've been seeing a lot of red "X"'s in the "Distance" column... from people I'd personally consider local. I mean is 20 miles really so far away? I'd (and currently am) considering) a distance of exactly 1397 miles... but thats just me Again with [post 184000].

Well, my posse... It's getting on to closing time here. I'll be on my way back to my bed, sadly alone (where's my new honey bee?). So y'all have a wonderful night and I'll see ya's all tomorrow!


MissKittyNip26 106F

12/29/2005 6:00 am

LOL... very interesting observations at 3:28 in the AM! Thanks for the mornin' laugh..


ByteChaser2 53M

12/29/2005 10:00 am

<< Bows deeply... Your most welcome MissKittyNip! Anything I can do...


kitz6 60F

12/29/2005 11:41 am

Given the amount of help that I and others have published on this site about writing profiles so you get selected by those elusive women, NO ONE should be in any doubt about how to do it. Murax has also written extensively on how a guy can be 'successful' on this site. He should know. He got a standing invitation from me and my partners in crime *eg*. But all seriousness aside - pushing it well away from me - move east Byte baby!! Down a bit. That's right. Right there. Aaaaaaah!!!


_Safira 53F
11260 posts
12/29/2005 12:18 pm

Dear Byte ~ Very good post. *lol* Thank You!

This is my blog - Comes With Warning Labels. There are many like it, but this one is mine.

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ByteChaser2 53M

12/29/2005 12:48 pm

Ahhhh kitz. East... mmmmm yes. I know Woodbridge well. Used to live in Quantico years ago. Tell ya what. Coffee next time I'm in town?

Ya know, you cruize around the blogs long enough and you really get a good read on whats irritating people. Most of it should be common sense but I suppose it's just human nature to "hide" behind anonimity in hopes of preserving ones sense of security. It's a shame too... they miss out on so much!

Thanks for stopping around! And the email - That makes 4 lol


ByteChaser2 53M

12/29/2005 12:55 pm

Ok Safira... I'm really digging that tattoo. I'd agree that pain is a gift, lets us know we're still alive... But the real prize? The scars. They tell us (and the whole world) that we've LIVED. Even did a post a bit back... scars.

Come back any time! It'll take a bit but Imma be reading back into your blog a bit. So far I'm seeing a pleasant and familiar style Just don't be too discouraged if I don't leave a comment... Sometimes it takes me a while to get what I'm thinking through the keyboard.


ByteChaser2 53M

12/29/2005 4:49 pm

Exactly sexyfit. Some of these handles really appear sexually charged and while it's not the case all the time, the simple fact of the matter is that the persons intentions may not be accurately reflected in the handle.

Seems the very same allegory, innuendo and posturing that drove many of us to places like this is somehow perpetuated. Too bad too...


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