First impressions  

ByteChaser2 52M
2834 posts
2/24/2006 8:19 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

First impressions

And their unfailing ability to be sooooo wrong!

So, back in December while in Hawaii on business, I frequented a strip club (GASP! Noooo. You?) Yeah, yeah... I know. No big stretch there huh? Anyway, I've noted that there's a common misinterpreted impression that strippers are drama filled, vacuous, *almost* non-entities who are nothing more than a sex craved, hugely augmented sub-human.

Nothing could be further from the truth.

First, there's "Her". She was a stripper for a couple years. We had a great deal of time to get to know each other and I can tell you that the stripper stereotype doesn't come close. As I understand it, she's now working for Kelly Clarkson, writing lyrics... And come to find out, one of Kelly's songs is based on "Her" breaking up with a few of her past boyfriends - including me.

Then there's G - Can't even use a fake name appearantly - Who will very shortly hang up her T-backs when she graduates college with a Bachelors degree in Business. G and I share one of those completely platonic friendships. It's almost like we've been friends for decades and we always make it a point to have lunch when I roll in to town.

And back to Hawaii... One of my employees and I had a boys night out at one of the classier clubs in Waikiki one night. He and I enjoyed the company of a pair of dancers - M with me and C with him.

I spoke on M a while back... Update on her... she got herself caught up in drugs and is now under outpatient care.

C now... My first impression was of Marilyn Monroe before she got tangled up in the Kennedy's. And when she opened her mouth, the movie "Fast Times at Ridgemont High" flashed into my head. Complete valley girl this one.

She had the kind of voice that just makes you want to rip your own ears out. Squeaky with the "And I'm all..." and "I mean, like..." and "Totally!" expressions. My partner - this guy is a complete intellectual by the way - kept shooting me these hateful looks at having to be subjected to such torture as C.

As it turns out... C has successfully completed her Massage Therapy certification and is working at one of the more significant physical therapy clinics on Oahu. And has, by the way, shed that annoying *valley* persona.

The point, I suppose, is that while first impressions may be lasting, they are so often inaccurate.

So have any of you had an epiphany moment where you realize that a first impression has turned out to be completely wrong?


2/24/2006 10:15 am

I could write post upon post on my wrong first impressions, hence why I don't judge any longer, so I will say this much and leave it at this. I am a developer/grant writer of not for profits. I also lobby for human trafficking efforts. I long ago, also was a stripper for several years. Irrelevant side note, my breasts like me are real at 36 or 38 D. Great post!

just a squirrel trying to get a nut

ByteChaser2 52M

2/24/2006 11:05 am

MOfun - I know right? I'm sure there's a few dozen specific instances where my first impression turned out to be a complete 180* to reality.

Stripper stereotypes is just one of my pet projects. One of these days I may write one of those "Strip Club Etiquete for Dummies" books and make my millions As it is now, I'm beating back the stereotype, one strip club patron at a time.

And my own side note? My butt, like me is real at aproximately 2,000 hairs per square inch

HBowt2 58F

2/24/2006 2:56 pm

It's the easy thing to do...jump to a first impression...and the higher you jump the furter you have to come down when you get to know the person....everyone has a story and that's what makes us all interesting..

ByteChaser2 52M

2/24/2006 3:33 pm

It's sad but true HBowt2... we all do it, even if we don't want to - or even realize it.

rm_sj365 55F
2414 posts
2/24/2006 4:49 pm

*nods* yup...i used to think you were just another cute butt.

i know better have other cute parts too!

ByteChaser2 52M

2/24/2006 5:15 pm

But... But... slippy... I AM just a cute butt A cute CAVE butt

pretty_blue_eyes 38F
2091 posts
2/24/2006 6:15 pm

Well, I try not to judge others and I'm always willing to see if there is more to them than at first glance. I know what it feel like to be judged and found short of expectations. It hurts. Not everyone is as they seem....

ByteChaser2 52M

2/25/2006 9:49 am

Pretty - Hmm. I judge. It's just the nature of the beast I expect. Then again, my judgements are *hopefully* tempered with new "evidence" and I find out more about a person. Case in point is C... First impression was of a young, modernized Marilynn Monroe. A great young woman but not someone I thought I could spend a significant amount of time with and still retain some sanity. As I've learned and experianced more about her, she and I may well come to be as good friends as G an I are now.

Go ahead and judge I say. Just try not to be too critical about it.

Thanks for stoppin in Pretty!

pretty_blue_eyes 38F
2091 posts
2/25/2006 7:05 pm

Well thank you very much! I shall try to do it more often. Drop in that is, not judge. lol.

tillerbabe 55F

2/26/2006 1:11 am

Actually, no. I have pretty good instincts and I try not to "judge" too friends sare varied and diverse.

ByteChaser2 52M

2/27/2006 7:37 am

Hey Tiller - It's too hard for me not to... I just allow myself to modify my judgements of others as I learn more of/about them.

Oh, and thank you for keeping us all safe. There's a story behind that... next post

ByteChaser2 52M

3/5/2006 10:13 am

Right on pretty

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