You'll never Know  

ButteryDelight 58F
1961 posts
8/22/2006 11:40 am

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9/1/2006 1:58 pm

You'll never Know

You’ll never know how much a smile or a word of hello can affect the ones around you.
I try to look on the bright side of every situation instead of concentrating on the negative. I try to be a positive person and most of the times I succeed. But, I realized something today. Not every one is a positive person. There are those people who just seem to always be gloomy. No matter what happens they try to find something negative about it. I really don’t understand that. Why not look on the bright side of things? I believe there is always something good to be had from any situation. You just have to look for it. I look for the good. How about you?

I took Rosie to the doctor’s office today. While I was waiting, I got bored with the TV. And the magazines held no interest for me since they were all three or four months old. So, I started to people watch. I don’t know if you’ve ever watched people but it is very entertaining and it helps me to pass the time. I find it fascinating to watch people. Most people when they are out in public especially if they are in a group end up showing a lot about their personality. If you are observant enough you can find out quite a bit about people just from watching them.

As I looked around the waiting room I noticed the expressions on these people’s faces. I saw impatience, anger, depression, loneliness, hopelessness and despair. There were no smiles and not much talking going on except in low voices. Some of the people in the waiting room were obviously there because they were caring for an aging spouse, mother, father, grandfather or grandmother. Put all that together and that waiting room was not a very cheerful place to be.

I enjoy being around the elderly and when I’m feeling comfortable I can strike up a conversation with most anyone. I chose to sit in a chair near the door with a good view of the room. This turned out to be a great place to sit. I started smiling at people and saying good morning to them as they came in the door. Most smiled back and returned my greeting. A few acted surprised that I smiled and that I would speak to them. I had some very interesting conversations with the people sitting next to me. I heard all about their illnesses. I just smiled and listened. They acted happier after they had talked with me about their troubles.

Wheel chairs, walkers and canes can be hard to get through a door. So, I started opening the door for the ones going out. Many times they would drop something such as a purse or a magazine. I would smile, pick it up and hand it to them. If they left something behind I would call their attention to it.

You wouldn’t believe how me doing those little things cheered the people in the waiting room. They began to smile more and relax in their chairs. The best thing was, it didn’t cost me anything to be kind to those people. It only took a few seconds to smile and open the door for them. Listening to them talk about their illnesses took a little longer but it still was a positive thing.

I wasn’t doing these things for thanks. I didn’t do it because some one asked me to. I did it because I wanted to. I did it because it made someone feel good. I had no idea that those kind acts would have such an effect on people. That got me to thinking. We all should be more kind towards each other. Stop and give someone a smile when you pass him or her by in the parking lot. Open the door for someone. Let someone get ahead of you in line at the check out counter. Because you never know how much one simple act of kindness, one smile, one good morning can affect those around you.

Do you think you can be kind to someone today? Say a hello and smile at them? You could try it and see what happens.



rm_saintlianna 45F
15466 posts
8/22/2006 1:34 pm

I always try to, although I wont if that person already seems hostile. Nothings more annoying than trying to be nice to a stranger that just is downright rude.


TonyPlays 64M

8/22/2006 8:37 pm

To be honest I think the majority of people are pretty sad. As a matter of fact only occasionally do I run into a happy person.

Some people are so bad off it's almost impossible to be nice to them.


ButteryDelight 58F

8/22/2006 11:26 pm

    Quoting rm_saintlianna:
    I always try to, although I wont if that person already seems hostile. Nothings more annoying than trying to be nice to a stranger that just is downright rude.
Yes, I agree with ya. Very annoying to smile or do something nice for someone and have them be rude in return.

Buttery Delight


Dustywidgettoo 60M

8/23/2006 3:18 am

Hi Saint back from the dead. That must be worth an invite! lol

Nice pic?


ButteryDelight 58F

8/23/2006 10:41 am

    Quoting spunky11961:
    HI! I always do this anyways,but I will try to do more today after reading this!
    ~spunky
That's all we can do is try, Spunky.

Buttery Delight


ButteryDelight 58F

8/23/2006 10:44 am

    Quoting Dustywidgettoo:
    Hi Saint back from the dead. That must be worth an invite! lol

    Nice pic?
I had no idea you died Dusty. Welcome back. At least you weren't reincarnated and came back as a worm or something else equally disgusting.

Thanks for visiting my blog and commenting.

Buttery Delight


wickedeasy 66F  
25463 posts
8/24/2006 9:45 am

excellent post

there's a song bette midler sings - about loneliness and age

in it she says, just say 'hello in there'

brava BD

You cannot conceive the many without the one.


ButteryDelight 58F

8/24/2006 10:38 am

    Quoting wickedeasy:
    excellent post

    there's a song bette midler sings - about loneliness and age

    in it she says, just say 'hello in there'

    brava BD
I've missed you We. I can't send you an email cause your profile is turned off.

Hope you're hanging on tight and hangign in there.

*hugs,
Buttery Delight


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