Listen up!  

ButteryDelight 58F
1961 posts
8/31/2006 7:54 am

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9/8/2006 1:39 pm

Listen up!

Growing up on a farm I quickly learned that closing the screen door was very important. If those doors were not closed the fans would draw in mosquitoes and flies, both of which were unwanted in the house. My father had a “thing” about doors being closed. He often would remind me to close the door as I left the house and then he’d ask, “Did you hear what I said”? He was looking for my undivided attention. I didn’t always give it to him nor did I always pay attention to him like I should have.

Pay attention, Becky! I heard that a lot growing up. I had a difficult time focusing my attention on tasks and then completing them. I had one teacher who used to begin each day with, “Listen up, class”. Those teachers were trying to get me to concentrate. I would try but so often my mind would drift away and the worksheet that I was supposed to be doing would not get done.

When I became a teacher, I discovered first hand how difficult it is to get children to pay attention. Moving some away from their close friends helped, as did walking around the room instead of standing in one place. Some children were just better listeners then others. A lot of the girls in my class were much better at listening then the boys. I wish I knew how they did that, how they were able to focus and complete tasks. Listening came easy to them. Unfortunately listening well does not come easy to me.

I still have difficulties listening to others. It’s not that what they say doesn’t matter to me, it’s that my mind is constantly going, moving, seeking, learning. There are also many outside distractions that hinder my listening efforts. The T.V. or radio on, more than one person in the room, all those things hinder my listening efforts. I have to really make myself concentrate on what a person is saying. What also helps is for me to repeat back what a person has just said.

When I don’t pay attention and listen, as I should, I end up missing some very important things. Yesterday I missed getting to see my close friend. I haven’t seen Karen in many months and when she called me a week ago and told me she was coming through town, I was thrilled. But, as we continued talking and making our plans, the doorbell rang and it was the UPS man with a delivery. I held the phone to my shoulder and half listened as I accepted and signed for the package. See what I did? I wasn’t really paying attention. I was trying to listen to Karen and the man at the door at the same time. I thought I remembered the day but, I ended up getting the date and time of Karen’s visit wrong and I scheduled a doctor’s appointment for the same time as our lunch. When I got home from the doctor there was a message on my answering machine from Karen. Oh she wasn’t angry she was amused. She said,“I missed you, Becky. I bet you didn’t write down the date of our lunch.” She laughed and asked me to call her, which I did immediately. We had another good visit on the phone and talked of seeing each other again sometime. But, I was sad, and angry with myself because I missed our lunch.

Think of all the things that can be missed because of not paying attention. There’s the sweet song of the birds as they greet the new day. The sun as it rises in the morning and the laughter of children playing at the park across the street.

I’m going to try harder to pay attention. What are you missing by not listening? Are you a good listener? Do you pay attention when people are talking to you? Or maybe you are like me and have to struggle with this?



buddhamike 105M
7006 posts
8/31/2006 8:18 am

As luck would have it I have sort of tunnel vision about everything I do. I don't multitask well at all, so yes I REALLY pay attention to things. It does cause me to be rather productive, because I focus on whatever I'm doing until it is done.


ButteryDelight 58F

8/31/2006 12:55 pm

    Quoting buddhamike:
    As luck would have it I have sort of tunnel vision about everything I do. I don't multitask well at all, so yes I REALLY pay attention to things. It does cause me to be rather productive, because I focus on whatever I'm doing until it is done.
i wish i could do that.i start many tasks but don't always complete each one.

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ButteryDelight 58F

9/1/2006 5:09 am

    Quoting rm_mzhunyhole:
    I listen pretty good..if I let ya get in a word..I talk alot..ya know...lol.
lol! i bet you do talk a lot MizHuny.

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wickedeasy 66F  
25377 posts
9/1/2006 11:46 am

scuse me, what did you say?

i do listen well - now - but it some training to get there - i would often talk over people - excited by the conversation or assuming i knew where they were going with their thoughts. now i wait until they pause and i often mirror - it's useful and i think makes folks feel you are really listening even when you don't agree

hugs

me

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ButteryDelight 58F

9/1/2006 2:01 pm

    Quoting wickedeasy:
    scuse me, what did you say?

    i do listen well - now - but it some training to get there - i would often talk over people - excited by the conversation or assuming i knew where they were going with their thoughts. now i wait until they pause and i often mirror - it's useful and i think makes folks feel you are really listening even when you don't agree

    hugs

    me


i try and am getting better at listening..i hope.

*hugs you

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ButteryDelight 58F

9/2/2006 9:51 pm

    Quoting spunky11961:
    I have much the same problem as you do.... It's just me though I'm easily distracted! And I loved hearing of the ol' farm days there, that took me back to when I heard those very same words from my dad at the farm
    ~spunky
i have many memories of the farm. Some i have written about on this blog.

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