Beauty..in the eye of the beholder?  

ButteryDelight 58F
1961 posts
6/27/2006 5:16 am

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Beauty..in the eye of the beholder?


This morning as I was standing in line at the Wal-Mart buying milk and bread my eyes fell on the magazines racks placed so conveniently at the end of the check out line. Out of boredom I glanced at the covers of them. I looked first at the pictures of the women. I'm sure most of you do the same, who would not? They are so prominently displayed on the front covers.

The line was moving at a snails pace so I continued to look at the covers. I noticed the bold headlines, which fairly shouted at me, trying to get my attention so that I would buy the magazine. After reading my eyes were drawn back to the pictures of the women. I admired their "perfect" tans, their bright white,toothy smiles, their beautifully proportioned bodies; with no ounce of fat anywhere to be seen, and their hair styled just right in a manner to suggest it was natural.

Glancing from magazine cover to magazine cover I also noticed that all the women basically looked the same. Hmmm. Almost as if they were carbon copied. I wondered why I hadn't noticed that before. As I stood there thinking about that and the pictures of those women this poem came to my mind. I wrote it on the back of a napkin I found in my purse, so I hope this makes sense.

What is Beauty?

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder
So it has always been told
Sad to say but nowadays it seems
Beauty is being sold
In the corner grocer
On the magazine rack
In the form of a glossy, monthly paperback
With emancipated bodies and doleful eyes.
Is that beauty? Or is it just lies?

ButteryDelight June 27th,2006

What about you reading this blog?
Is it looks what you go for when you see a woman or a man?
What about their clothing? Name brand on the clothing label? Or Wal-mart bought?
Or maybe what attracted your interest is her/his personality? What about, her/his character?
Or do you not even give them a second glance if they are different from the perfection on those magazine covers?


GossipJunkie 40F

6/27/2006 7:02 am

Clothes are important in the fact that they should fit...not too tight, not falling of the ass loose...and in fairly good condition. That doesn't mean pristine but I don't want to see someone's drawers hanging out a hole in the nether regions. Cheek rips are tacky.

Personality...self deprecating, to a degree is fun to be around--we should all be able to laugh at our own foibles. A good sense humor...they don't have to be Robin Williams or anything. Intelligent too. They should be able to get their point across in a tactful manner. Extreme cattiness can get rather annoying.

Oh, I could go on and on but I'll leave it at for now.

GossipJunkie
"Dance like nobody's watching"


secondtimeluck00 46F

6/27/2006 7:06 am

Beauty and attraction are 2 different things. Beauty is a standard defined by the society of the time, and is somewhat universally appreciated by the society. Attraction on the other hand is personal and totally subjective. For example, Brad Pitt is not attractive in my eyes, but I can see why some will see him as sexy and good looking.

As for dating, in my younger days, I would say physicaly attraction was not even a factor in terms of partner selection, cos for me that comes about naturally and gradually as I began to like them as a person. But now, strangely, I do think it matters and will rule out some guys just by looking at their pics.


ButteryDelight 58F

6/27/2006 11:11 am

    Quoting GossipJunkie:
    Clothes are important in the fact that they should fit...not too tight, not falling of the ass loose...and in fairly good condition. That doesn't mean pristine but I don't want to see someone's drawers hanging out a hole in the nether regions. Cheek rips are tacky.

    Personality...self deprecating, to a degree is fun to be around--we should all be able to laugh at our own foibles. A good sense humor...they don't have to be Robin Williams or anything. Intelligent too. They should be able to get their point across in a tactful manner. Extreme cattiness can get rather annoying.

    Oh, I could go on and on but I'll leave it at for now.
Thank you for your comments gossipjunkie. I look for some of those qualities myself.

Buttery Delight


ButteryDelight 58F

6/27/2006 11:14 am

    Quoting secondtimeluck00:
    Beauty and attraction are 2 different things. Beauty is a standard defined by the society of the time, and is somewhat universally appreciated by the society. Attraction on the other hand is personal and totally subjective. For example, Brad Pitt is not attractive in my eyes, but I can see why some will see him as sexy and good looking.

    As for dating, in my younger days, I would say physicaly attraction was not even a factor in terms of partner selection, cos for me that comes about naturally and gradually as I began to like them as a person. But now, strangely, I do think it matters and will rule out some guys just by looking at their pics.
Thank you for your comments,secondtimeluck. I hope you will read my blog again.


ButteryDelight 58F

6/27/2006 10:43 pm

    Quoting __JVT__:
    BD...personality jumps out at me more than anything. Yes, a pretty face will get my attention initially, but if there isn't anything behind it, it doesn't appeal to me.

    By no means do I expect a woman to have a perfect body. I know mine is no where near perfection.
personality is important to me too. I've met some not so perfect men who had great personalities.

thank you for replying JVT.


MamChelle 48F  
1443 posts
6/27/2006 10:50 pm

BD, i have never been one that cared much for material things..and when it comes to people, i am visul as in i am drawn to big tall husky older men, and women of all shapes types and sizes..beyond the initial glance though like JVT, i look for the personality beyond the body. i have know absolutely georgeous women that after ten minutes in their company that were to me so ugly...and the same with a few men. Beauty to me is what shines out of a body. Beauty is in what one does and is...not based entirely on appearances. i have never seen your body BD and yet i know that you are beautiful, from the kindness you make me feel from your words. c


ButteryDelight 58F

6/28/2006 5:07 am

    Quoting MamChelle:
    BD, i have never been one that cared much for material things..and when it comes to people, i am visul as in i am drawn to big tall husky older men, and women of all shapes types and sizes..beyond the initial glance though like JVT, i look for the personality beyond the body. i have know absolutely georgeous women that after ten minutes in their company that were to me so ugly...and the same with a few men. Beauty to me is what shines out of a body. Beauty is in what one does and is...not based entirely on appearances. i have never seen your body BD and yet i know that you are beautiful, from the kindness you make me feel from your words. c
Awwww Chelle..now you made me cry. Did you some how sense my insecurities?

Thank you so much for your comments.

Hugs,
Buttery Delight


wickedeasy 66F  
25411 posts
6/28/2006 6:55 pm

just call me second hand rose - or cheap

i think i like a certain type of look - the kind of earth mothery thing in women, and the ichabod crane thing in men but then someone opens their mouth, or their heart and WHAM - they get me in the gut

yanno?

You cannot conceive the many without the one.


ButteryDelight 58F

6/28/2006 11:08 pm

    Quoting wickedeasy:
    just call me second hand rose - or cheap

    i think i like a certain type of look - the kind of earth mothery thing in women, and the ichabod crane thing in men but then someone opens their mouth, or their heart and WHAM - they get me in the gut

    yanno?
Yes, I do know WE. I like peopel with a sense of humor and I want honesty. I am drawn to people who are really whom they portray themselves as being.

Buttery Delight


ohcurious14 59M
1683 posts
6/29/2006 7:01 am

I read your blog because I love your stories.
Is it looks what you go for when you see a woman or a man? Looks are nice but not the most important.
What about their clothing? Name brand on the clothing label? Or Wal-mart bought? Name brands are a ripoff in my opinion. WalMart is fine by me.
Or maybe what attracted your interest is her/his personality? What about, her/his character? A lot of factors involved here. It's a little of everything actually.
Or do you not even give them a second glance if they are different from the perfection on those magazine covers? Looks & size mean nothing to me. It's what's on the inside that truely counts.


ButteryDelight 58F

6/29/2006 8:50 am

    Quoting ohcurious14:
    I read your blog because I love your stories.
    Is it looks what you go for when you see a woman or a man? Looks are nice but not the most important.
    What about their clothing? Name brand on the clothing label? Or Wal-mart bought? Name brands are a ripoff in my opinion. WalMart is fine by me.
    Or maybe what attracted your interest is her/his personality? What about, her/his character? A lot of factors involved here. It's a little of everything actually.
    Or do you not even give them a second glance if they are different from the perfection on those magazine covers? Looks & size mean nothing to me. It's what's on the inside that truely counts.
That you OhC,sir. I am humbled that you like my stories. There are about my life, such as it is. I tend to focus on a persons qualties also.

Thank you for reading my blog and for your comments.

Buttery Delight


UnpinAfireFaust 57M

7/5/2006 2:22 am

I have said more times than most here can probably stand Buttery...that My Best Friend is the most beautiful woman I have ever known. What has always attracted Me to her is not just her stunning exterior...but what lies within. There is compassion and understanding the likes of which I have never seen...as well as an acceptance of others that I wished more people exhibited in their lives. In My biased opinion anyway...she is the perfect woman and friend.

So to answer your questions...to me anyway...it takes more than a nice tan, emancipated body and doleful eyes to make a woman beautiful.

** Wonder if you could call that a "WISE Senior Moment" ? **


ButteryDelight 58F

7/5/2006 6:27 am

lol..That was definitely a "wise senior moment.

Buttery Delight


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