Boy121975 41M
11 posts
11/18/2005 12:14 pm

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I have started my Christmas shopping already and called around my family for suggestions about what to get various relatives. When I got to a few people, I found out that they wanted clothes, so I asked what their sizes were. The answers that I got back were completely mind-blowing: 2XL ‒ 3XL! I live in Chicago and can’t even find clothing stores in the city that carry those sizes. The best that I can do is go to Meijer, or Wal-Mart and hope for the best.

My question is this, how fat do you need to be before you start doing something about it? I’m not talking about people who are 15-20, or even 30 pounds over weight. What I am talking about is the growing segment of our population that is morbidly obese (and doesn’t have a real medical condition to cause it).

Do you take notice when you get to the point that you can’t shop at normal clothing stores? How about when your children are larger around then they are tall? (And that brings up a good question about adolescent obesity and child abuse–shouldn’t parents be responsible for their children’s health?)

As someone who is not large, but have people who are very dear to me who are, I have never been able to understand why people will treat themselves that way.

Can anyone help me out here? At some point, don’t you have to put forth effort to get that large? Eating enough to gain and maintain that much weight can’t be easy. Why would you do that?

nightstalker172 36M
1258 posts
11/18/2005 1:20 pm

Hello...Im one of the large people you talk about...Im 6'2" and about 350...I have always been fat most of my life...and I wasnt a lazy bastard either I lifted weights in highschool and played football...to help answer your question. Some people have gentics against them. Im not saying thats its impossible to lose weight but its alot hard to lose it and keep it off even with regular exercise. I lift weights 3 times a week and I walk 2 miles 6 times a weeks. I watch what I eat like a hawk but I admit sometimes I slip and get something yummy now and then.

Some people however get so depressed that the only thing that feels good to them is food that tastes good so they eat and eat and cant stop...its like an addiction almost. Fast food places dont help when they are so convenient...Couple the depression with bad gentics and you have a 400+ pound person....dont get me wrong Im not makeing excuses for them but its not as easy as turing a fat switch off and on. Some people also are just plain lazy and dont want to those exist too.

Now Ill say one other thing..for me personally I was force fed as a child. My father would make me clean my plate before I could leave the table and not only that but he would pile on the food to be almost equal to his own and for a 5-8 year old thats too much food. but it mentally conditioned me to finish everything on my plate even if I feel full...its a habit that I find very hard to break...dont get me wrong my father was never abusive with the exception of that. My father felt that food shouldnt go to waste because he works hard for it.

I agree with you that people need to get ahold of themselves and try harder to lose the weight. Im makeing an effort and I admit its hard sometimes but Im doing it anyway because lets face it being fat sucks ass ok....but you also have to take you time its not good for you heart to lose a whole ton of weight right away. People need to be patient with thier diets but they arent...they get discourage and depressed and thus starts the cylce over again. They need to realize there is not quick fix and you cant do it without exercise PERIOD.

and yes....wal-mart should have some good sizes you can also look up online for big and tall at sears and thats where I get my cloths they go up to X10 on some....god only knows how big a person would have to be to need that size....anyway hope that helps

Ladyblue85 58F

11/18/2005 1:35 pm

I agree with many of the points DK makes: there are many factors in being overweight. Myself, aside from being in an abusive marriage, I was also dealing with a back injury that pretty much prevented me from being as active as I used to be. Altho I have lost 60# in the last year, I am struggling for another 20.... yet will most likely always wear a woman's size 1X because of my CHEST!!! lol. Yes, the girls have shrunk with the weight lose, but unless I can afford to get a boob job to reduce and lift them, I will always look bigger than I am because most shirts end up draping off my chest. From my teens on, once the chest popped, my chest, waist and hips all measured for 3 different sized-catagory of clothing.
But YES, go with cash or a gift certificate, esp. at a distance that will save clothes having to be exchanged.

silkysmoothlegs3 105F

11/18/2005 1:36 pm

Change your gift,

Be tactful and say that you couldnt find anything that you thought they would like..

people who are overweight no themselves that they are, it gets to a stage where they give up.. some get very depressed too.

Its like being dependent on Alcohol or Drugs for them.. they love food,

Dont be to quick to judge hunny

Be compassionate..

Love silky xxxxxxxxxxx

beniceguy 37M

11/18/2005 1:50 pm

Frankly i think night stalker hit the nail on it's head, as an "extra padding" sort of guy, i recently had a health scare at 25!!
A combination of a bad diet, going out every couple of weekends or so and binge drinking ( once drank a bottle and a half of a ten glass bottle of vodka 8 times of gunieness and a few beers at a barbque over the summer and smoked a twenty pack!!), smoking like a chimmely when pissed and been stressed out at work and home, gave me a nice numb feeling down my left arm... am 25, i want to fall in love with the woman of my dreams, i want have kids and play with them on lazy summer days and i want to grow old and be known as a gentleman in my old age and still be enchanted with my lovers smile, am 25 and hopefully still have that chance, but only if i take responsibilty for what i throw at my body. My change started when i got the feeling back in my arm.. am only 25, it wasn`t serious this time but i don't want a next time.

BuxomFrau 44

12/17/2005 1:14 pm

Actually, it's very, very easy to gain a lot of weight, as is demonstrated by our population. It is always very, very easy to be unhealthy. What is not so easy, is putting a separation between the two. Just because someone is overweight does not mean that they are unhealthy. Personal example: I am techically obese. I have a very healthy blood pressure (can't remember the number) and my cholesterol level is 175. I work out three times a week, at the spa twice a month to take care of my skin, hair, and nails. I'm careful about my stress levels and try to stimlate, engage, and stretch my brain (mind you, AdultFriendFinder is not part of that exercise!) I try to engage all aspect of health and take them seriously. Yet, there are men and women half my size with heart problems, eat like crap, smoke endless, drink like the world is coming to an end, and engage in highly "questionable" behavior that damages their spirts. And still, because Dolce and Gabbana has yet to make anything in a size 24, somehow I'm an evil, depressed, delusional slob. In my opinion, poverty is more of a danger to the health of this nation than obesity. (If you don't believe me, take a look at the aging boomers, their savings accounts, and the 15% increase in prescription drugs as one very tiny example).

Anyway, people are fat for many different reasons. I try not to judge them just like I try not to think that every skinny person is a crackhead/heroid addict waiting to shank me.

But to be of real help to your holiday dilemma, I live in Chicago too. And I'm not exactly sure what "normal" stores you frequent, but every major department store carries plus sizes. Carson, Marshall Fields, Bloomingdales, Nordstroms, Saks Fifth Ave., Kohl's, JC Penny, Sears, etc. I don't know if you are buying for a man or a woman. If you are buying for a women, you options are easy: Any of the afore mentioned dept. stores or Lane Bryant, Avenue, or Ashley Stewart. All three have plentiful locations. You can't swing a dead cat without hitting one of them.

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