From whence I came... part 2.5  

Bobbingjoy 60F  
213 posts
8/17/2006 8:47 am

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8/24/2006 10:58 pm

From whence I came... part 2.5

Lustytaurus posed these questions:

Who have been some of the major inspirations in your life? What did they teach you?

Are there people you're surprised to remember now they are not around?

They got me thinking how appropriate for continuing this thread, reflecting upon inspirational and absent persons now in my life.

Pondering, I realise there's a longish list, some who influenced my life a long time, while others dropped gems of wisdom in passing. Here are some who come to mind:

One of my high school music teachers, Mr. Thompson, made a comment to me about Herb, a tuba player who often skipped classes and hung with a known rough biker gang.
"You know, despite Herb's rough reputation, I've found there's much in him which is creative and positive, so I'll never throw him away."

This bit of wisdom has augered me well when I've found myself judging some characters who've made what I thought were major errors in their choices. I wonder if Mr. Thompson ever knew his influence on me, to look beyond the imperfect facade to the light within.

In the early 1980's I became extremely frustated, trying very hard to develop an international training institute for women which purpose was exchanging skills and methodologies of small scale socio-economic development. I asked a board member, a former Minister of Finance of Ghana, Gloria Nikoi, what sustained her when faced with graft and corruption, big-time lyers and cheaters, blind sexism and racism... She simply answered, "It's a matter of opening some doors, and keeping them open, so others can pass through; not a matter of changing or converting those who would bar those doors."

Opening doors and keeping them open: this became my mission in my working career and still remains an important part of my current life's activities.

I've often been asked by very close friends why I'm so patient and forgiving with a few people who've determinately belittled me, who've decidedly slapped me down and have significantly used and abused me. For quite awhile, I had thought there's something wrong with my approach, that I was somehow faulty in being loyal and patient.

Then I remember what my parents taught me by word as well as by their deeds: foregiveness, letting go of angst, means we can move closer to peace and happiness within. Although they both died over 13 years ago, their influence and guiding wisdoms are very much alive.

I continue to be humbled and amazed by so many people's generosities of word, wisdom, and deeds.

So, how would you respond to those questions?

Who have been some of the major inspirations in your life? What did they teach you?

Are there people you're surprised to remember now they are not around?


rm_pagan380 65M
4405 posts
8/17/2006 1:29 pm

Back in my late twenties I worked with developementally disabled adults. I was supposed to teach them life skills such as budgeting, cooking, laundry and the like. I was pretty good at it but what I found was that although I was the teacher, I learned as much about living a responsible life from them as they learned from me.

Come play naked in the sunshine and dance naked under the stars.


Bobbingjoy replies on 8/18/2006 8:17 am:
Amazing, isn't it, Pagan/Truly!

I've experienced the same type: learning greatly by teaching or helping others. After all, we all have walked in different shoes, eh?


LustyTaurus 48M  
21253 posts
8/19/2006 6:18 pm

It was a little shocking to me when I realised the number of people who have come and gone...and what mark they left with me.

Bobbingjoy replies on 8/21/2006 7:43 am:
Agreed: I couldn't begin to list them all either. I do think, however, I shall continue to write about more of those in my life... if only for my own tribute and thanks.


rm_Benkai7 55M
2358 posts
8/23/2006 5:41 am

Dear "Bobbingjoy".

... smile ... any kind of communication works in more than one direction only ... even by watching only ... we are able to learn ...


Bobbingjoy replies on 8/24/2006 9:58 pm:
Well, thinking about what you said, yes, you're once again "right on"!
I would add that though each of us are capable of learning, I, for one, don't always listen sufficiently to learn, nevermind apply those lessons.
I will have to continue with this thread, if only for my own reflections and reminiscences of those who've really influenced my development and values.


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