Blueberry2021 31M/33F
42 posts
9/25/2005 1:03 pm

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So, lately I have been having trust issues, not because of anything my man has done but just, you know, normal concerns. I don't think I'm pretty enough, sexy enough, so on... my sex isn't good enough. Well, BAH!!! I am a wonderful person and he keeps telling me I am the best he has ever had, especially when it comes to giving head. Though, I just get WAY too wet at times.

So, I've been looking at things on a "Will he cheat on me?" level when I realized, what do I know about him? Well, for 1, he has never lied to me and catching him in a lie is like looking at butter and calling it butter. Its just right there.

Then there is the whole, well, you know, great sex thing and he has been open with me about everything, so I mean, we are on here together. Then I thought about what I considered cheating. Basically, if I'm not there and you're touching, its cheating. No flirting either unless it benefits both of us.

Then I realized, am I being too harsh? Am I letting past experience ruin a perfect relationship? I've done this before nad it turned the relationship upside down... of cousre, the guy really was cheating but he hasn't really left my side and I've always known where he has been, which is completely on him, I never ask. He really is free to do anything but cheat!

*Sigh* So, I don't consider swinging cheating as long as we are there but I do consider it cheating if I'm not. Is there something wrong with me? Well, I think the best way to figure this one out is to swing, see how we feel, and so on. I'm ready, anyone up for it?

rm_dandth 47M/38F
173 posts
9/25/2005 6:01 pm

Cheating is what ever you define it as. For some it's intimacy more than sex. For others, it's anything you have to lie about. For stil others, it's just the sex part and anything else is ok. How many times have you had a friend tell you they stay with a loser just because he doens't cat around?

You're plenty sexy by the way, I wouldn't worry about that.

Blueberry2021 31M/33F

9/26/2005 9:50 am

I think you're right, Mizz, but I told him, when it comes to this, just be honest with me. You want to cyber with someone else, let me know,hell include me if you want, but don't lie about it. He hasn't but I sometimes wonder if this will bother me if it comes around. Then the whole, too wet thing... sometimes we can't feel anything if I get too wet... that sucks!

Thank you, Dandth. I've never had a friend stay with a loser... because they always cheated... But truth be told, I think this is the first guy I've been so in too and with that hasn't been a loser or cheated or anything. Worries are silly and I really should put them aside, because I would rather just know and enjoy. I can't wait for us to be with another couple.

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