BlueIceGargoyle 60M
135 posts
8/8/2006 12:51 am

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I need to tell you all a secret before I get into things, and the secret is that I cherish each and every one of you in that room, yes all of you....the ones that respect me down to the ones that just do not care for or just tolerate me, because I have learned from all of you. In truth I do not have many real time friends, I am much the loner in many ways but be that as it may I cherish you all for I consider you all .... yes ALL of you to be my friends. That being said what I say now I say with a heavy heart ... this place this room has turned into a war zone, no I take that back it is more like a room full of assassins who strike blindly at the newbies and each other. I shall not name names nor point a finger, those of you who are doing this know who you are, if you do not like what I have to say well ... tuff put me in iggy write an opinion back I will let it post. I also want to say that I am not stating nor implying that everyone is doing this, there are those who have respectfully addressed the issue in their own way, by either politely replying without being pulled into the situation or declining to comment. I am sick of the intolerance shown to people that walk into the room and may at 1st act like a troll, rather then being intolerant re instruct the individual POLITELY then if they continue well there is iggy.I am upset that we who are part of a lifestyle that does not just teach but demands TOLERANCE be shown act out in such a way....and we are supposed to be here to help those just getting involved in it ? What a fine example we set. Those of you that really know me already know that I am not really the one to get up on a soap box and preach at any or all of you, hell I am just as guilty as some of you are. However it has finally taken its toll on me. I now ask a couple of favors ( some nerve huh) first of all please pass this on as everyone should read it, 2nd take it in the spirit that it is meant to be taken as a reminder of who each and every one of us truly at heart are ...people of honor with a responsibility to educate and keep those new to the lifestyle safe as well as each other. This does not mean that we are free to judge nor impose our ways as being the only way that is correct, and lastly I ask that you do post your comments and opinions but. I know that this will offend some and I want to say that is not the goal of this blog. Consider it a wake up call.

To A/all of you and I do mean each and every one of you .... my friends and my family be well .....Live life to its fullest

The Gargoyle

rm_the_lass1000 48F
34 posts
8/8/2006 3:39 am

BIG...many many thanks for the heartfelt blog. i can only agree with You. each and every one of U/us is responsible to a certain extent. i for one, hopes things settle down and the place goes back to how it was and should be.

like You, i have many F/friends in the room, both online and realtime and i can only hope that these good people continue to fight for the normality of the room. i also agree, as i have said many times, that even people im not overfound of, or who have very differing opinions to me, hold a special place too, as no matter how, there is always something to learn.

BIG, once again, many thanks for this. its good to see im not alone in thinking this.


Medusa231968 48F
301 posts
8/8/2006 3:57 am

let's see, so we supposedly jump on everyone new in the room, I know you are wrong on that one. When they get rude or out of hand..yes. When we are called names of propositioned by others we don't like...we get rude. I know I have done it several times, but there is also the amount of times that i do ask nicely at first. maybe you aren't around for those, but it happens....
I have been called Queen of the Troll Slayers, because after a certain amount of rudeness..I WILL tell them off. I have no problem in doing so, maybe i am one of the few who will actually argue w/ them.
I also know of several who don't give anyone a chance, no matter what they say. They will say they are new, and be told well come back when you know more. I agree that that is not helping anyone.
So Blue, i will continue to argue with trolls. I will also be nice and often post what i always do.

Attention Newcomers: This is a BDSM Chat room, we do not like pick up lines, cum cam with me's, rude adavances to members, please take these to other rooms


rm_LoDs_dd 63F
31 posts
8/8/2006 6:45 am

I am still new to the room,,, although been in the lifestyle for many many years and yet, even I at times , have felt out of place, the need to hide in the corner as it were. I do believe in what Blue has said, and that more guidance and teaching should be done and less attacking one another and others that are still learning. Well done Blue, Sir. hugs and kisses Your way.

sunnyohoh5 60F
4 posts
8/8/2006 7:50 am

Big, it would be easy for me to sit here and say this person that and that person said this. Because yes i am one of those, and i do see myself in your blog. Because i treasure you as a friend..i shall keep your words cklose to my heart, and try my best to bring harmony, and instruction, and commraderie to the room. Hopefully your words will reach more, and put a end to the snide remarks, the insulting blogs, and the need for everyone to defend themselves. No one has all the answers in there, and no one has the right to trash others. Those who accuse others of doing so need to look in the mirror, and ask themselves what is it they are doing. Thank you Big for thr words of wisdom that needed to be spoken, ands more importantly...heard

miz_attitude 53F
150 posts
8/8/2006 8:20 am

<~~not saying a word just ~huggs~ and i am real time friend ...

Love Ya Loads as You know

lily_of_hmslf_ 45F

8/8/2006 8:56 am

i applauded you in the room, and i shall applaude you here...
i am awake, and will continue to wake others - with a pinch, if needed!

very nice blog...



rm_servingmrbig 45F
68 posts
8/8/2006 11:32 am

thanks Blue. nothing else, but thank You.


rm_Kyphi_ 67F
6 posts
8/8/2006 11:43 am

I picked a great day to visit!. Great Blog, BIG and I don't usually read these things. I'm glad I took the time because I've never been silent about this topic which is dear to my heart.

There will always be those who just don't get it. The troll bashers don't understand that THEY are the ones who are the problem not those who they name as trolls. The 'real trolls' are the bashers. We all have the solution in the ignore feature at our fingertips. We also have the solution for the troll bashers at our fingertips and I use it for that purpose.

But for whatever reason: be it inflated ego, attention-seeking, boredom, or just because they are brawlers...the troll bashers will always be with us. Which is fine. Iggy has a big appetite. *G*

Cheers BIG!!!!



NWOntSnowAngel 44F
4 posts
8/8/2006 1:26 pm very well put, and I will watch Myself from now on. I know I have been trying in the last while to refrain, but there are times I do snap. You to Me are Friend and Family and I hope that it will always continue to be so.


JH_n_kinkylatina 56M/54F
3 posts
8/8/2006 2:34 pm

Blue BIG hugsss to you Sir. What an eye opening post this has been as always you have touched me. I will echo servings post in saying nothing more than thank you Sir. Forever Friends latina

rm_jacina_n 43F
91 posts
8/8/2006 3:21 pm

girl agrees with everything You have said Sir. Good luck with the changes and all the best.


BadAssBlonde1 57F
4989 posts
8/8/2006 4:53 pm

Well Done, BIG. I am pleased that you put it down for everyone to READ. As we discussed on the phone; life is so precious. My joy has been the last day where topics were enjoyed and feelings shared. Further, I feel that those that express themselves in such a rage only infects the moral majority which by the way, is the time that I just step out and away from it. I totally concur with Kyphi on this. Thanks for sharing and I hope you have a wonderful week. It has been very pleasant catching up with you.

For all Time,
Lady Hunter

After all the sex is gone, there is the mind - Lady Hunter / BAB

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angelicdelights 105F

8/8/2006 8:18 pm

BIG....about time someone said something about the issue. it is greatly appreciated and a lesson taught. Many thanks and many blessings sent your way.

DizzyKittie81 35F

8/8/2006 11:06 pm

I for one admit at the time being that i am at a loss for words. instead of sitting back and not aknowlaging the fact that this has been written, I myself am ashamed to admit that yes i am part of not only the warzone that you speak of, but also part of the problem that excists.

I cant sit back and sugar coat lying threw my fingers saying "yes yes it needs to stop" or comment acting as if i am miss innocent when the truth be told i as well as others are guilty as sin.

Thank you blue for not only writting this, but for being a true friend to me and others as well as opening my eyes to what is REALLY happening.

TheThunderstorm 61M
33 posts
8/9/2006 10:26 pm

Well said Blue! I also glad to see so many positive comments on this blog. Here! Here!

pearlnecklace22 53F
41 posts
8/10/2006 1:30 am

well Blue sir I understand where your coming from and its a very good blog

rm_Prasutagus 54M
22 posts
8/10/2006 4:25 pm

Succinctly put Blue, some of those I now consider friends entered the basement as newbies and acting 'troll like', but they were lucky to arrive at a point when several room members made it a point, to guide them, some stayed and some decided it wasn't the room for them, but they did, in the main, leave with a smile rather than a volley of abuse.
Much respect to you Blue

BTW if it pops up with read my blog, umm I wouldn't just yet, it's naff *g*

rm_Cazzie1000 52F
8 posts
8/11/2006 3:10 am

good blog BIG I totally agree with what You have said.


rm_Melciber 61M
214 posts
8/11/2006 1:48 pm

Well put BIG.

ButteryDelight 58F

8/12/2006 12:34 am

* i listen and learn.

Buttery Delight

Suicidia 50F

8/28/2006 12:47 pm

Understanding is the first sign of love. Thank You for writing this blog.

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