Take the Challenge?  

BiKitsapGuy 54M
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2/17/2006 9:30 pm

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Take the Challenge?


I was cleaning up some documents in my personal folder and ran across this little "questionaire" that a lady sent me back in September. I remembered with fondness the how I felt while answering and the promise that I felt my answers held. In the end, I was rebuffed because I had children(see my baggage post). I am, however amused enough to post the questions as well as my answers. I would be most interested to see what some others might reply to these questions. As simple as they seem, they are quite thought provoking. Even if you only answer one, it would be nice Enjoy.

How much time do we have?

The time we have is not nearly as important as what we do in the moment that we're in. Since no one can say with any conviction how much time they have, it is charged that we attempt to live as if our moments in this live were numbered. Believe that it’s not the number of breaths you take, but the number of times that your breath is taken away.

Half full or half empty?

A glass that is half filled to me is an opportunity to do two things. It's an opportunity to reflect on what it is you have drunk from the glass. Savoring the taste. It's also an opportunity to look to the future of what is to be. Knowing what the liquid did for you at the first half lends promise to what will be in the second half.

What is an apology?

I tend to not believe in apologies. As many have said, love is never having to say your sorry. I believe that when we have wronged, we should ask that we be forgiven. Of course we're always sorry, but it's not up to us when we have wronged someone to dispense absolution. It is our responsibility to ask for such favors.

Zodiac: b.s. or not?

To me, zodiacs are something that we, perhaps subliminally, are cast. Much like a role in a play. Each zodiac figure has it’s unique quality. Given the day of our birth, the quality unique to our zodiac sign is probably pointed out to us more than the other qualities we possess….even though they may be unique to the other signs. We take on these roles on our own(I’m a Gemini, so I must have a dual personality…I’m a Sag so I must be constantly on the hunt…etc.) So, to answer the question, I don’t feel that zodiac’s are complete b.s. They’re more of a subtle b.s.

One god, many, none?

Given that you refer to the inner Buddha I am lead to believe that you subscribe to the philosophies of the faith and are familiar with the lessons of the Dali Lama. I have recently become interested in what His Holiness has to teach. One of the things is that the higher power that might be the subject of your worship comes from within. Making it your calling to always help people and in the absence of that, NEVER hurt or harm. I don’t find peace in a god. I find peace in knowing that I have made the life of someone else a little better.

Are men inherently one way and women another? How, why?

Well, it’s the Men are from Mars, Women from Venus thing. By shear evolution, men are the hunters, builders, and politicians of the world. Women are the growers, nurturers, and teachers of the world. Now that’s not to say that these are molds cast in stone. They are simply the genetics that have been a part of us since we were all hiding from the T-Rex. We all have the ability to step outside of our molds. Where as we might have certain ingrained qualities, we don’t have to be stereotypes…..similar to the Zodiacs.

Revenge is...?

A complete waste of time and emotion.

The sexiest part of my partner is ________.

….her love of life and those around her.

The moon: light source, pale reflection, rock in space, deity, made of cheese... etc.?

The moon is an inspiration. It’s cycles make it a constantly changing source of beauty. From the dark mystery of the new moon to the bright splendor of the full moon, it’s difficult to look at is as merely a rock in space.

What's your favorite season?

That would be the Fall. The crispness of the air. The crunching of leaves under your feet. Seeing your breath in the chill of the morning. It is a time to reflect on the joys you experienced through the previous seasons and to prepare for the cold of the upcoming one.

Why do they build The Man only to burn him?

Well, having never experience Burning Man I can only speak rhetorically. I would say that something has been burned, it offers the opportunity to make something better out of it. When a forest burns, the new growth that comes after is more beautiful and stronger than what preceded. Wouldn’t the same be true for The Man?

Juliet610 51F

2/18/2006 11:52 pm

Interesting survey--both questions and answers! I think I'll take a go at a few of the questions, the ones that spoke most strongly to me.

How much time do we have?

Never as much as we think! Due to events in my life that taught me this, I'm trying to use the time I have to make a difference in the lives of those around me. "To the world you may be just another person, but to just another person, you may be the world."

Half full or half empty?

Half full, because the other half is gone--all that I have is what is in front of me. If I spend my time brooding over what I have lost (the empty half), I have no time to enjoy that which is right in front of me, there for the taking.

What is an apology?

An apology is an opportunity to get it right the next time. It is recognizing that I am not now, have never been, nor will never be perfect, and am therefore prone to making errors. As long as I learn from my mistake, ask forgiveness of those I have harmed in the process, and make every effort to avoid such behaviour in the future, I am growing and progressing. But if I ever get to the place where I feel I no longer need to apologize for errant behaviour, I may as well find a rock to hide under and live my life out there, for all the good I could contribute.

Revenge is...?

I used to say, "A dish best served cold," meaning when least expected. Or I'd say, "I don't get mad, I get even." Now I see the complete folly of that thinking. What arrogance on my part to think I: 1.) knew all the facts leading up to whatever slight I felt I had been dealt; and 2.) had not only the right, but the obligation to point out the other's error and teach them a lesson! No, revenge is not mine, but belongs to that Higher Power, to mete out at the appropriate time, if at all!

The sexiest part of my partner is ________.

His brain! Certainly he has many physical attributes worth gazing upon, and appreciating. But most men, given the time and motivation, can tone their body to look good to the desired population. However, it is what's between a man’s ears that responds to my ministrations; it's what's between his ears that draws me to him; it's what's between his ears that sets him apart from every other man on the planet; and it's what between his ears that he can improve and see the most growth and results from. Yes, the brain is by far the sexiest part of my man.

What's your favorite season?

That is tough question, for I lived where there were no seasons for most of my life. While in Illinois, I loved the winter--snow was a novelty and I loved the crisp, cold days. In suburban LA, surprisingly, I loved the summer--the blistering hot days, and sultry nights. But it was coming to the Pacific NW where I learned to love the Spring. After too-many-to-count gray and drippy days, with wind that made the rain fall sideways, the spring comes softly. The crocuses and daffodils peek out of the earth. The days begin to lengthen, and the hint of a promise of sunshine follows. Perhaps it is the uncertainly of the promise that makes it so special. It is the season of renewal, rejuvenation, and rebirth. A season of new life, new love, new hope. And yes, I am hopeful.


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