If you are a male member.....  

Berlinski 45F
188 posts
9/2/2005 5:49 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

If you are a male member.....


Being premium member doesn't give you a guarantee, thouhg......
I hate eager male standard members get so aggressive almost offensive, not all of them but most.

where do you live? how old are you? what do you look like?
those qustions would be clearly solved right after you bought membership status.

Getting laid with decent women for free? things don't go so well
I would recommend you to be a premium member at least, so that you won't have to be a hungry hyena.
You will know little about her by just openning her profile.
Chasing around to ask everything about her in chat room is not smart, I think.

gentlefari 46M
1 post
9/6/2005 7:24 am

I am new to this site and i don`t know how much aggressevive or offensive the men are in this site, but the nature of such a site different with other sites where you can find your old friends or get friend with new persons, I think.
many things sounds starnge here, I bought membership in this site just few days ago and honestly wrote about my sexual preferences, but I think I won`t pay much more time to surfing in this site. why should I ask about too many things about the partner in the chat room when I may know the partner in normal dates!!?? cyber- relation is quiet different with real relation.
sorry,maybe I shouldn`t write this.


Berlinski 45F

9/6/2005 8:51 am

hi, thanks for your comment.
I wrote about some idiots who can't recognize chat room is private yet public.
Asking personal things doesn't help them for getting laid.
Just think why we all have own handle instead of real name?


lilmookie 39M
60 posts
9/6/2005 11:47 am

Just because I feel a slight obligation to defend men... I should say that I imagine you aren't really seeing men-at-their-best on this site...

One reason men on this site are so *dirty* is ads. The ads (for men) on this site usually say something like "get laid tonight!!". That really attracts certain (stupid/horny) men. Also alot of men tend to think women are here because of the same "get laid" kind of ads. (The ads for women say "find a fun guy tonight!") It is a clash of two differenet worlds. Girls who wanna "have fun chatting" and guys who wanna "get laid".

To be fair, ya, some of these people have alot to learn about how to... um... be *attractive*. Name/Age/Location/"wanna fuck?" is not a good pick-up line. It might work for the women on this site, but those women are mainly dirty-old-men in real-life.

This is not the best site to meet people in real life... but it IS a good site to meet interesting "people" online. That's where chatting comes in. Chatting is still not a good way to go out and meet *real* people. To do that, go to a club/get a date!

But still, chatting is a good way to get to know people a bit. Ya, it is really different from real life, but so are dates and first meetings.

Mainly, (like it says in women's AdultFriendFinder ads) chatting is a good way to spend time when you are bored! Very bored. Like me!


Berlinski 45F

9/6/2005 11:25 pm

hey lil,

I wish they could be like you, know how to carry conversations and making joke in good way which's non of us get offended.
And the fact is we women feel safe in communication just like you do instead of being asked age, locataion, job, and real name ha!

want to know more about you< there are 2 meanings.
one is making sure if the person is not psycho to have fun with, this research takes little time for communication, ok chat room is for this, I believe.

another is asking age, location, how do we look like< I wonder if they forgot about most simple but essential >>we are not commodities at meat market.

To avoid these men, we say < sorry I'm here to chat only> but truth is most women are just being careful to find safe guy with common sense.

it's always making circles like this
M:Hi
F:hello
M:a/s/l?
F:fem in tokyo
M:do you have any pics?
F:yea...
M:wanna fuck?
F:......sorry to disappoint you but I'm here to chat((i am looking, but not you..))
M:YOU ARE FAKE!
F:.........whatever..


lilmookie 39M
60 posts
9/12/2005 9:04 am

The other thing I don't get about this site is that I can't browse through the profiles with only a standard membership. Isn't that the point of writing a profile? So anyone can see it?

I used to lurk on this site a lot years ago and there were still many options open to standard members (search, view pictures etc)and now I can't even look at someone's profile to figure out if I like/dislike them. That really seems to be a hiderance to meeting people online here.


Berlinski 45F

9/15/2005 3:08 am

but there is still way to get closer instead of knowing face value/profile. Chatting is best way to figure out how the person act in cyber world which usualy makes people show their worst side.


lilmookie 39M
60 posts
9/16/2005 4:52 am

That's true... so I hope I get to chat with you online more often!


lilmookie 39M
60 posts
9/21/2005 7:13 am

BTW- if it's no bother, can you write a few English posts? My Japanese isn't up to snuff


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