My First A F F Party (Reposted from September)  

BenefitsFriend69 57M/60F
1008 posts
12/26/2005 5:24 pm

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My First A F F Party (Reposted from September)


**** Note: This is a blog from summertime 2005. I hid it then because some people got upset about it. Well fuck 'em. I decided to repost it, basically unedited, with a few comments here and there. Sort of an end of the year reflection. *****

While exploring one of the many dimensions of this fascinating technically deficient site, I decided to check out chatting. My dear Efriend slippyjo told me about the blogging chat room group, and we went there one night and had some fun. There were only three of us in the beginning, and then a couple more showed up. It was fun and different.

So I decide to try the Rocky Mountain chat room last week. I went in, and sorta sat there for a few minutes, trying to watch all the scrolling and keep up with what was happening. I noticed a couple trends.

One trend was a bunch of idiots with handles like “bigdickjoefucksyou” typing things like “anybody in Denver wanna fuck?” Or, “hey (hotchickhandle) need a boy toy tonight.?” Or, “bi man wants to suck dicks in Cheyenne.” And so forth.

Another trend was that a bunch of people in there knew each other. And when a popular person came in the room, the would all acknowledge him/her:

>PopularPerson1 has just entered the room.
>Regular1: {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{PopularPerson1!!!!!!!!!}}}}}}}}}}}}}
>Regular2: Hi PopularPerson1!!!!!
>Regular3: Hey PopularPerson1 mmmmmmmmmmmmm xxxxxoxoxoxox!!!!!
>Regular4: Yummy PopularPerson1!!!!!!!! Kisskisskiss

Hey maybe that’ll happen to me some day lol! Then conversation strings would go on with people who recognized each other. Once in awhile what seemed like a new person would ask something of the regulars, and they seemed pretty nice about responding if the asker wasn’t a jerk off. Okay, I thought, this is different. I watched a bit more and actually got to the point where I could see what was going on. Man, hard to follow, but if you pay attention you can get the groove.

So I decided to ask for help. Broke in, said I was new, and a bunch of really sweet, kind, sexy, semi-local women helped pop my chat cherry. None of the guys gave a shit lol! I even spun off some separate private chats and emails with these cool women. I hope they read this, since I did notice that the chatters are not really bloggers. Interesting, maybe that will change.

((Ed note Dec 26, 2005: I now think the chat rooms are a load of horse shit. Short little coded quips flying by, with no real meaning. But that's just me. I had a woman I know tell me once that she was on a business trip in a different city. She logged on to that geographical area's chat room, and found the first guy that looked halfway decent, invited him to her room and fucked his brains out. So I suppose it has it's usefulness. I certainly don't hang around in there.. )))

Well. It turns out that the chat room group was having a barbeque and one of them invited me. She sent me the email with details. I didn’t plan on going, but.. I had two other tentative plans last night, both of which fell through:

Plan 1: I was gonna show a piece of beautiful Colorado to a couple from Ohio whom I’d been emailing for a month, who seemed very nice and sincere. At least she did. Just a quick getaway for them. She’s originally from here, and they wanted to just get out for a weekend. It was supposed to happen last weekend, but they decided to delay it and come the next week (this weekend). We had emailed earlier this week, and everything was on. He was gonna call me with their details, and I planned out a nice day and evening for us. Garden of the Gods, Old Colorado City, dancing, hot tub, etc. I set aside a very precious slice of my weekend for them. They were excited (at least she was). The last email was Wednesday, from him, saying he was gonna call to finalize the plan, and they were indeed coming. Then Thursday, Friday, Saturday morning go by. NOTHING. They have my number but I don’t have theirs, so I couldn’t call them.. I email. Nothing back. You FUCKERS. I understand things happen, like emergencies or changed plans or finding something better (like a single chick instead of me for example), but FUCK YOU for not having the decency to call or email me, after I put aside a precious weekend for you. I didn’t wanna fuck either of you anyway so THERE! Nya nya nya! Okay I feel better now.

Plan 2: A woman whom I’d seen ages ago was in the chat room. Feeling that the FUCKERS from Ohio were gonna bail, I chatted her, we emailed. She’s in an open marriage, her hubbie is working back east, and she’ll be moving there with the kids soon. We decide to hook up, it’s been awhile!. We really had fun when we did see each other. We emailed, set it up for last night (same night as the bbq). Well.. Yesterday morning I get an email from hubby, and we have an exchange like this:

Hubbie: “G, I really don’t want you to see P. I’m just not comfortable with it.”
Me: “I understand hubbie, but you need to tell HER that.”
Hubbie: “I did this morning.”
Me: “Okay, I will respect your wish of course. But can you tell me why? Something I said?”
Hubbie: “I’m not sure exactly. I just have a jealous feeling, can’t explain it. Thanks for being a gentleman and respecting my wishes.”
Me: “No worries.” - I’m cool like dat yo. lol

Turns out she had TOO good of a time when she saw me before, and hubbie has his panties in a wad over it. Jesus I am NOT that good! Dude, relax, I don’t want your wife. I just wanna have fun with her, like you’re doing with the other women you see. Well… She’s allowed to play, just not with ME. Well fuck me. Is this A F F or WHAT??

So, now it’s Saturday day. Two strikes.. What the hell, I’ll go to the barbeque. I really wanna meet these people anyway. Long drive, but I’ll just have a couple brews and hang and drive back. I’m thinking, my goodness, if this party is representative of AdultFriendFinder as a whole, there are gonna be 20 guys with their dicks sticking out lurking around two women. Now I’m curious.

But guess what? It was a blast! There were a lot of couples, a lot of single guys, and a lot of single women. More guys overall but pretty proportionate. I felt very welcome, and the host was a hot sweetie! Or is that sweet hottie? Everyone was very friendly, I made a bunch of new guy and girl friends. There was a lot of groping and kissing and flashing and ass-smacking other stuff going on, but no jealousy or possessiveness.

And there were a few scenes that I expected, more as the alcohol hit. Some were soft swapping, some blow jobs and pussy licking in the back yard, whipped cream, nice titties being flashed. Some people watched the blow jobs and swapping, but most sorta just looked over, then went back to their conversations (ho hum lol!). Like me and a guy who were talking about Buddhism:

“And so, suffering is the clinging of your mind to how things should be.” (We look over across the yard). “Oh look, she’s on her knees sucking that woman’s husband’s dick and shooting whipped cream on it. Oh, and his wife is kissing her and playing with her tits. Cool!” (We face each other again and continue our conversation). “Anyway, when your mind clings, you suffer. The Buddha says….”

A very sexually charged atmosphere but very respectful. As usual at any party, there were a few people who got hammered, but no worse than other parties I’ve been to. I took it easy on the drinking, switched to water around 10:00 and drove back to the Springs at midnight. I was home a little after 1:00, by myself. I kinda like that.

I met several of the people I had been chatting with. They looked pretty much like I thought they would, but were much cooler than I expected. Code names below:

(((Ed note Dec 26, 2005: I took the names out. Some people are too sensitive. Fuck y'all. ))))

Now I have a few more friends. Thank you, you are awesome people and I hope to get to know you all better. And BLOG you guys, it is cheap therapy.

rm_Luscious2BBW 47F
35 posts
12/26/2005 5:51 pm

Hey, this blog is very similar to my experiences as far as meeting people at a gathering (Meet and Greet here). I know I have made some friends from actually being able to meet them in person, and never once have I felt pressured to pursue the event as anything other than a basic social gathering.


rm_goddess1946 106F
13518 posts
12/27/2005 1:22 am

big time cheap

Just a little food for thought.............
If you really want to be happy, nobody can stop you...
{=}


BenefitsFriend69 57M/60F

1/1/2006 5:58 pm

Luscious2BBW: thanks for stopping by and taking the time to read and comment. I've never been to a meet-and-greet other than that party but have heard pretty much the same thing.

Goddess: Yeah, my silver dot goes away in a week or so. I'm not paying again. If the people who own this site aren't willing to invest a few of the millions they get a day from this place on improving the technology, they aren't going to see any more of my money. I just hope I can still blog without giving them more.

wtrsong: Hi gorgeous. Tuesday wingers lol! Look how close the "S" is to the "W" on the keyboard.. Hmm...


mouthmusic2 56F

1/24/2006 2:13 am

HiYa doll, always wondered where ya went lol.. was in Connecticut the time of that bbq, you know integrating cti that big brother system for a major insurance company.. lol but heard all about the notorious "bbq". I was in stitches reading what you wrote!! Haven't laughed so hard in ages. Justed stopped by to say hello, and hope ya know, not all of us "chatters" feel the same way


BenefitsFriend69 57M/60F

1/29/2006 5:02 pm

Mouth, nice to have ya back in the land of clean air and mountains. Let's bash some moguls sometime. xo


rm_Bct2Esi 51M/50F
1375 posts
2/28/2006 8:20 pm

yeah I know, NOWWWW I get around to posting on this one....hmmmmmm if you had left it up, so I could have read it when I first started my blog, the same weekend as this BBQ, I could've commented then....But NOOOOOOO

It was sorta fun for me, it sounds like Sprky and I left the party to early Dayumn that migraine I was having fun until a certain couple and a few guys couldn't take my BODY LANGUAGE as a hint and wouldn't leave me alone Hence the title of my blog Thanks for being there to rescue me I so adore your buda friend

I do thank you for encouraging me to start my own blog, you are right its CHEAP therapy. I have conquered some frears because of my blog. So you Rock sweetie and thank you for encouraging me that night to start my own If I ever get to see you again in person you get a great big hug from me

hugs and smiles


BenefitsFriend69 57M/60F

2/28/2006 10:20 pm

Hey Bct -- yeah, you guys did leave early. I'm so happy that you've found some interesting stuff in the world of A F F blog land. Maybe it wasn't the best advice after all, as i can get addicting as hell! I just can't keep up, every time I go in here, 2 or 3 hours go by without my even noticing it. Doesn't matter if I'm reading or writing or replying or whatever, it just comsumes me! But what the hell, it's all good right? I have enjoyed reading your stuff. xoxo


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