Because I Said I Would, That's Why  

BenefitsFriend69 57M/60F
1008 posts
8/27/2005 2:20 pm

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Because I Said I Would, That's Why

Did you ever commit to doing something, then not want to do it? Or worse yet, say you’d do it, with a premeditated intention NOT to do it? Or the reverse: say you’re not going to do something, knowing damn well you’re gonna do it anyway? Why? Probably because you wanted to make someone feel good, or wanted them to like you, or had some other Machiavellian reason in mind. Or it was just the easy way out, and a little lie was better than pissing someone off. Do you just do it for little things (I’ll call you, knowing damn well you won’t), or for bigger things (plan a trip to Mexico and back out at the last minute). Is there really a difference between the big and little things? Lioness’s latest post about honesty got me thinking about this.

Here’s a recent example. A lady friend and I went to the Comedy Club with some friends. We were all talking outside afterward, and we were talking about continuing the party a bar close by (karaoke lol). Pretty much everyone in the group said they didn’t want to go, except for one other couple and us. I wasn’t sure, but it sounded like fun and was on the way home anyway. So I said, yeah, we’ll see you there. My lady friend and I started playing around in the car on the way back, and next thing ya know, my dick’s hard enough to cut diamonds (stolen from Richard Pryor LO and she’s slippy sliding on the leather seat, panties by the wayside. By now, the karaoke bar is the last thing on my mind and I wanna get home as soon as possible. We drive past the bar, to my house, and start to rip our clothes off.

Then I stopped. “What are you doing, what’s wrong?” she asks. I said, “We’re going to the bar. At least I am, and I’d love for you to come too.” She says, “Huh??? You’ve got be joking!” I said, “No, we said we’d go. We’re going. Or at least I am. Again, you can make your own choice.” She says, “Well just call them and tell them you changed your mind, they’ll understand.” I said, “No.”

We went to the bar and met our friends (after my dick went down that is). I love them to death and we had a blast. Didn’t stay long, but had a blast.


We’re all works in progress aren’t we? I think I’m getting better. Or at least I’m trying, which is about all I can say for myself..

ruready4adark1 56M

8/27/2005 4:10 pm

Great topic BF. I admire your character, sticking to your word. Take away everything else and we aren't left with much other than our word and our actions.

I have a friend who has said, "count me in" for many of our planned camping trips, concerts, and a few parties. He backed out at the last minute on every single one of them. He no longer gets an invitation, and like the boy who cried wolf, we no longer listen when he says he wants in.

I believe he now has regrets. Next year I will be on a trip we started planning 2 years ago, just me (oh lucky and 3 females on a Caribbean island for 2 weeks. Guess who did not get an invite but now wants to go. Funny thing, this is the one thing I think he really would not back out of but I refuse to change the plan. In my own little Machiavellianism, I have told him our plans are set in stone so he will miss out. Of course, my plans are not set in stone but I don't want to assume the risk of him backing out or the hassle of explaining it to him, even if he is my friend.

Why? Because he said he would in the past, but didn't.

I'm not sure what this says about me and the concept of getting better. As far as he is concerned, I am getting smarter.

rm_jayR63 59F
1884 posts
8/27/2005 6:34 pm

Commendations from The general.
I believe is is a sign of strong moral character to remain true to your word.
Sex with a truck stop whore,
drunk and in jail,
I don't care but if you promise to do something you'd damn sight better do it.

BenefitsFriend69 57M/60F

8/28/2005 9:04 pm

ru, what are you gonna do with 3 women on a Carribean Island? Here's an answer: invite BF.

Hey JayR, have you ever had sex with a truck stop whore, or been drunk in jail? I've done one of the two..

Short, thanks for your kind words. Nice to know my dick will get hard again... Oh wait, there it goes, I think the wind blew!

rm_lilypond3 58F
83 posts
8/31/2005 1:44 pm

Thanks BF for helping me find alittle more confidence in the opposite sex.Not that ladies dont do a switcheroo,but I dont deal with them as much in this way.
It certainly would have been frustrating to me too to get to the house and then turn around.Would have been better to go to the club first,but it says even more that you stopped and thought it thru' and made a better decision.I bet mr.happy was fine and he had fun later.

Huge kudos for a fine person! I'd rather give you a huge hug instead though!

BenefitsFriend69 57M/60F

8/31/2005 3:36 pm

Lily you are so sweet thank you! I have a long way to go and a lot of work to do before I become a fine person.. Fine people like you help me along the way..

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