Are We Addicted?  

BenefitsFriend69 57M/60F
1008 posts
9/3/2005 6:21 am

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Are We Addicted?

I’m not talking about alcohol or crack or meth or weed or caffeine. I’m talking about sex.

And not just the act of sex. I’m talking about thinking about sex, writing about sex, seeking out sex, wondering if everyone you are attracted to wants to have sex, HAVING sex. The game of sex. I’m talking about sex with women and men and couples and toys and blow up dolls and porn and animals and watermelons.

Sure sure, there are literature and therapy and classes and seminars and Dr. Ruth and entire web sites and blogs and everything dedicated to sex. Its influence in music and literature and history and evolution of the species and procreation. We love it, we use it, we stress about it, we obsess about it. We SEEK it.

Could we be “addicted?” How much do we think about sex as opposed to other areas of our lives? Can we go without sex? I know a lot of people (women mostly) that say they have gone for long periods without sex. Some men too. Does masturbation count?

Without getting into pop psychology and Maslov and all that stuff, think about what we really NEED to live. We need air, food/water, shelter from the elements. Some would argue that we need to be loved or we die. Do we really need sex? Or do we just WANT it to make us happier, outside the need for procreation? Think of all the things we do for sex. Think of all the time and energy and (in some cases) money we expend to find and have sex. Think of all the time we spend thinking about sex. Think of all the complications it can cause in our lives. And think of all the joy and pleasure…

Gotta go. Sex is out there waiting…

__Huntress__ 55M/57F

9/3/2005 7:35 am

Yes ... okay ... I am addicted ... send help !

maybebaby33 45M/45F

9/3/2005 7:50 am

Great question. I often wonder myself about sex addiction. However, I think it is important to realize that this discussion would not even be taking place without the advent of modern puritanical values which somehow placed sex in the same category as sloth and drunkeness. Sex became a sin. I happen to believe in God and God does not create anything that is sinful. It is humans that create and perpetrate evil. God created sex and it is GOOD. Should we be careful? Yes. Should we balance our sex-drive and our lives? Yes. Should we feel guilty for seeking and enjoying sex? Absolutely not!

darwin294 42M

9/3/2005 8:55 am

What a wonderful question to ponder... I am an anthropologist so I have to concede to the idea that we seek sex for purposes of procreating the species but I must also add that we are one of the few creatures on the planet KNOWN to get pleasure from sex. It is a completely natural, often wonderful experience that enriches this chaotic thing we call life. I don't know if there is any answer to this question but I can assure you that it is always a pleasure doing the research for it .
Happy studying....

ellenluv 58F

9/3/2005 9:29 am a very strong word. However, if the sex thing starts causing problems in your daily life, just like drugs or alcohol or gambling does, then one may want to look at that. Still, I like "Letmelickanddick"'s Buddist response in which he basically breaks us down as being some of the "lest evolved spiritually". I mean, really, something is up with us don't you think?????

ruready4adark1 56M

9/3/2005 9:47 am

I am addicted to the idea of sex. I love to think about sex, read about sex, write about sex, watch movies about sex, check out sexy women, flirt, daydream about sex, plan sex...

I love the concept of having sex, though I don't actually have that much sex. It's just the process of trying to have it.

silkysmoothlegs3 105F

9/3/2005 1:56 pm

Sex is wonderful, even thinking about it reading about it, it keeps the juices flowing i guess like oiling the hindges he he he

rm_jayR63 59F
1884 posts
9/3/2005 6:17 pm

What is that black hose-like item in the left of the accompanying illustration?
It appears to be a gas nozzle.

BenefitsFriend69 57M/60F

9/3/2005 8:06 pm

Letme, Hello from a fellow Buddhist, or more accurately Buddhist wanna-be. If any ism is close to what I want as a guide for life, it’s Buddhism. I’ve always seen it as more of a philosophy than a religion.

Even though the second chakra is the base for the sexual or procreation chakra, my take would be that sex, or ramifications thereof aside from the physical act, touch all the chakras in one way or another. Especially the heart…

AH, religion and sex, now there’s a blog topic! I wonder if Buddha had sex, and how much, and before or after enlightenment? After all, Jesus was laid in the tomb.. (Boom bbom!).

BenefitsFriend69 57M/60F

9/3/2005 8:07 pm

Huntress, wanna come to my house for a 12-step meeting?

BenefitsFriend69 57M/60F

9/3/2005 8:07 pm

Maybebaby I am with you baby! How ludicrous to view such a beautiful, healthy, natural wonderful part (I say THE most wonderful part) of being alive as in those categories. We could learn a lot from our friends in Europe and Oz and other places in the world. Guilt? Not in my vocabulary! I think I even wrote some blog stuff about guilt.. xoxo BF

BenefitsFriend69 57M/60F

9/3/2005 8:07 pm

darwin, thanks. Do you suppose mammals or other species derive pleasure from sex? I remember the monkeys in the zoo wanking off at the girls staring that them. And, for those of you who have seen horses mating–what do you think? More pleasure for the stallion perhaps? But that gets to my point. Do animals spend a good part of their day fantasizing? I bet they have no guilt!

BenefitsFriend69 57M/60F

9/3/2005 8:08 pm

Hey ellen, something in always “up” with us guys on this site I’m sure! I think sex can cause a lot of problems in life if you’re not careful, especially if you get caught doing it with someone’s spouse.. But I digress.. I think about all the time I spend thinking about it, seeking it, etc. I’m not sure it’s a “bad” thing per se, and it doesn’t cause problems that I know of.. And damn, it is nice!!

BenefitsFriend69 57M/60F

9/3/2005 8:09 pm

ru, I often wonder how much time I spend on the ideas of sex as you mention, versus actually having it. And sometimes the fantasies are a lot different than actually doing it. I remember my first FMF. I had thought about it all my life, but when it actually happened, it was a LOT different than I thought. It was awesome, don’t get me wrong. But different.

I wonder how much the ideas and concepts and fantasies about sex are different than what really goes down? Fantasy versus “reality?” Damn ru you always make me think about more blog stuff. Shit I blog more these days than I have sex! What is wrong with this picture??????

BenefitsFriend69 57M/60F

9/3/2005 8:09 pm

Ah silky, a well-oiled machine.. I think that’s what happens when people go too long without sex. They get all rusted and bottled up and do stupid stuff. Just imagine how much more peaceful (and well-oiled) the world would be if everyone had sex at least once a day. Not just a release or a wank, I’m talking mind blowing, earth rocking, toe curling, bed breaking, clothes ripping off, hot, sweaty, nasty, raw sex (stolen again from ruready4adark1 thanks ru).

BenefitsFriend69 57M/60F

9/3/2005 8:10 pm

JayR, LOL! It’s a champagne bottle. Three guesses who’s doing the pouring..

rm_saintlianna 45F
15466 posts
9/4/2005 7:13 am

Damn, you and watermelon, I swear.

rm_sj365 55F
2414 posts
9/4/2005 12:08 pm

*sigh* I WISH it was an addiction...WISH it would interrupt & disrupt my life.
cripes, my machine must need oil

BenefitsFriend69 57M/60F

9/4/2005 12:37 pm

Yeah Saint, I know.. A man's gotta have his mellons..

BenefitsFriend69 57M/60F

9/4/2005 2:36 pm

Hey sj, I don't believe a word of it! An attractive, sexy, intelligent woman like you?? I bet you have the machine oilers waiting in line with their WD40 in hand.. Oh, so coy!!

leo_angel43 55F

9/5/2005 6:28 am

I could think of worse things to be addicted to, but none near as much fun

BenefitsFriend69 57M/60F

9/5/2005 7:46 am

I'm with you leo_angel. And no hangovers!

BenefitsFriend69 57M/60F

9/6/2005 8:10 am

Short, you are BAD.. But I agree.

Make ya a deal. You could do the measuring when you do us both at the same time. But no need really. Since RU and I are twins separated at birth, our cocks are exactly the same size.

BenefitsFriend69 57M/60F

9/6/2005 1:02 pm

Centimeters? Better get out the YARDstick baby!

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