Advice to Guys on AFF from a Guy: Women Rule, Deal with It  

BenefitsFriend69 57M/60F
1008 posts
8/22/2005 10:58 am

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Advice to Guys on AFF from a Guy: Women Rule, Deal with It

On AdultFriendFinder, women have the power. This may not be true in most aspects of life, but on here, she rules.

If you write to a woman as a guy, she has a LOT of other emails in her box with yours. If she has a picture and she’s hot, she may have 200 that day. If she has a picture at all, she’s probably got at least 100 that day (hot or not). Even if she has no picture, I’d bet she’ll have at least 50.

She may have no intention of meeting anyone at all. She may be very selective. She may be new to the site saying, What the Hell is Going On Here, where did all these freaks come from?? She may be just curious. She may just want a couple. She may just want another woman. She may be just fantasizing. She may have had a horny, lonely night and just decided to be devious, and her profile is still there. She may just wanna blog and vent and communicate with lots of people around the world. Hell, she may not even be real and it’s a bot pimping you to a web site.

Having said all that, there is a slim chance that the woman you are looking at wants to meet a guy for sex. No matter how big your dick is sticking out there (hell I’m proud of mine too but I have to like you to let you see it), or how good you are licking a pussy, or how great you are at fucking all night and rocking her world, she still has hundreds and hundreds of guys to choose from, even in your town.

So, have some class. Tell the truth. Have some nice pictures that are sexy but not straight up. HAVE PICTURES THAT REALLY LOOK LIKE YOU. Then, if she’s interested, she may write back, or not. And even if she does, she’s probably writing to a bunch of other guys, and she may not write you back because she didn’t like what she heard or saw, or is just too busy taking care of her life, or found someone else (and she may be back later if he doesn’t work out). If she doesn’t write back, leave her alone and DON’T TAKE IT PERSONALLY and write a bunch of bullshit back. Deal with it and stop bitching. That’s how it is here…

007sexy40plus 51F  
7603 posts
8/22/2005 11:47 am

BRAVO!!! Finally a man who gets it. I really have to appreciate you for saying that. We have preached and preached, here about the very same thing but men still call us fakes and god knows what else, But they dont understand how it works here. However I do not get nearly as much email as you mentioned, and perhaps I am not a "hot woman" But I do have my own little preference. I am sending you a kiss because you got it and thankls for telling others.

What the hell here's another kiss for good measure

I am the real deal! "Come Get Me!!!"

justsayhi2005 51F

8/22/2005 12:26 pm

Some great advice!

BenefitsFriend69 57M/60F

8/22/2005 12:35 pm

Straighten, you look pretty hot to me! Just out of curiosity, how many emails do you get a day unsolicited?

xxoo BF

rm_FreeLove999 46F
16127 posts
8/22/2005 1:33 pm

LOL! what u say is true (tho, not quite that amount of email); i just think so many new people are joining every day, and we're just gonna have to keep on saying it, cos, well, some people just don't get it...

[blog freelove999]

rm_sj365 55F
2414 posts
8/22/2005 6:44 pm

Some people don't get it. Hell, I don't get it. I get lots of mail, not because I'm hot by any means. I blog, I read & comment on other people's blogs, I chat...I occasionally use my cam ( fully clothed, bold, bare face to the camera ) I'm a social creature by nature & a bit of a geek so the internet is as comfortable a place for me as real life. Yet I still don't get it. I'm never sure if I should or shouldn't reply to unsolicited emails ( I assume if we've chatted or I comment on your blog , thats some sort of solicitation). I mean, in the past I have responded with polite thanks but no thanks to certain emails only to have that person asking me for reasons why, as though I have to explain myself to total i stopped responding to that sort of mail.
The mental process of sorting who I should & shouldnt respond to in order to maintain some sort of humanity & good manners was daunting. Toss on your cam one time & your mailbox will jump to over 200 pretty quickly... I mean who has that sort of time?

Now I have a "system" as it were. I respond to mail the way I would a real life encounter with a stranger. If you show me your penis the instant we meet? err no thanks...trash can. If you know nothing about me in spite of my insanely long profile, blog & talkative presence in chat..if all you have to say is 'nice eyes' (thanks, they came with the skull) or 'nice rack' (thanks, it's a rental), then you too shall find your way to my trash can.

Be funny, interesting, interested, stupid, silly, weird....REAL, and its a sure thing I will respond. I know often men have NO idea what to say, how to say it etc., I know this is a sex site ( I know because people keep sending me naked pics & reminding me )...but for me sex starts with the mind, with communication. If you cant, then its likely we wont. I dont want to waste my time or anybody elses.
There are all sorts of people here looking for all sorts of things...keep trying to connect with them & maybe it will click.

*rushes off now to reply to BF's mail*

007sexy40plus 51F  
7603 posts
8/23/2005 6:23 am

Benefits, get this Before, when I posted photos, the first day I got 110 emails all wanting to meet me, saying i'm hot, some even telling me what they wanted to do to me, some asking me to come to them as if i'm desperate. then when the pictures came down I got maybe 8 per week, now that I have put more pics up I still dont get but, I would say, 20 emails per month, maybe. I get hit up for chat on IMC about 30 times in a given day all saying, nice ass, or come see me. and 90% of those are guy way too young for me, and get this, they all are the one's who have no photos. So now you see, I am not hot afterall. Most men look to women that are too good to be true, and they get aggravated when they get no response, and a woman like me they treat as a piece of "quick" meat.

I am the real deal! "Come Get Me!!!"

BenefitsFriend69 57M/60F

8/23/2005 6:47 am

Thanks SJ. Your post will definitely help anyone who reads it. Makes sense to me (or as much sense as anything can make on this bizarre site!).


BenefitsFriend69 57M/60F

8/23/2005 3:47 pm

Straighten, maybe SOME men (well maybe a lot of men on here) look at you as a piece of quick meat. Not all.. I don't care what you say, you are hot! Thanks for the insight into the emails. I've heard a lot of similar things from other women. Just a matter of weeding through the chaff to get to the wheat..


Barbiebunny69 43F

8/25/2005 9:59 pm

I like you. ANd your blogs. Keep it up a new watcher..Bunnzy

BenefitsFriend69 57M/60F

8/26/2005 9:37 am

Thanks Bunnzy, likewise. This blogging is just WAY too fun! What a great way to learn about people, most of whom we'll never meet in person. Fascinating..

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