Meglomaniacs, kinky folks, Mistress, Master, Dom/me  

BeachMystress 48F
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8/7/2006 3:41 am
Meglomaniacs, kinky folks, Mistress, Master, Dom/me

Original Post Date - Saturday, March 26, 2005



Not all Dominants have the same need to take control of someone. We range from the megalomaniac control freak to the person who wants to have kinky sex once every few months. The same is true of subs. They range from the person who is almost unable to function without someone else's guidance to the kinky every so often. To top it off, a lot of things can affect the need to Dominate. For some people, the amount of stress in their lives can cause their need for BDSM to rise or wane. Let's take for example, a Dominant who has been given some extra, yet substandard employees and is expected to triple productivity with them. It might up the Dom/me's need to have their submissive jump through hoops more often, since the submissive does as told and is a relief valve of sorts. When the employees are fully trained and can meet productivity requirements, the need to have full control over someone may drop and the sessions get farther apart.

I feel the difference between a Dominant and a Mistress/Master is when the person controlling actually wants more than just casual control of the sub. They actively train their submissive to behave as they wish, rather than letting the sub bumble around and hope for the best or seek subs that have already been trained. It is more than just a bedroom/play relationship. The control extends into other areas of the couple's lives. Subs are often given tasks to perform while away from the Dominant. These aren't necessarily sexual, as my sub is to practice typing for a half hour each day. Often times, a sub is told to keep a journal of thoughts or feelings that they make available to their Mistress/Master. I personally have my sub do occasional blogs rather than ask him to write things on a schedule, since we spend much time with each other and have very open communication when together.

A Dominant, to me, on the other hand, wants to PLAY. They don't want to put the time or effort into building a relationship centered around service. They want to have the role bounded by the time alloted and do not want or need to have control on a daily basis. This doesn't mean a Dominant can't have a deep meaningful relationship with a submissive, mearly that the relationship will not deal with BDSM on a daily basis.

Is either right or wrong? No. These are just my definitions.


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