Bitches and BITCHES....  

BaronessK 52F
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7/28/2006 2:57 pm

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Bitches and BITCHES....

I kept saying this was what I was doing the segue into...and it is. So, after orgasms of all sorts and talking about oralization, it's now time to talk about Bitches versus BITCHES {and what they both really mean}. The main problem is that I shouldn't be posting it yet, because I have lost the links to where I got SOME of it {but I will edit it into this post when I go through my links later, after work, if I can find them now}.

There are Bitches {and beatches}, and then there are BITCHes. Which one is your significant other, possible date, or female friend? I'm going to show you now just how to tell all of us apart. {Quit staring at the blonde's tits first, junior; you ain't eating at Hooter's right now! } HERE...FOCUS! Just because you HAVE one does NOT mean that you have to act like one, okey dokey?

First of all, any female that knows another female {and are on good terms} may call the other one things like beatch/bee-atch, bitch/Bitch, heifer, and possibly even names in the line of hussy or slut. However, if you as a male try this...uh oh, there goes the blow! As a word of warning, for those not in the 'know' about females...which is most of y'all! ...Beatch {bee-atch} is the 'familar' term for Bitch; you will NEVER get to use this, but you will hear it sometimes said by a female about herself or a close 'girl friend'. {No, not THAT kind of 'close'; get your mind out of the gutter! }

Bitch, with none or only the first letter capitalized, actually stands for Beautiful Intelligent Tough Creative Human and/or Babe In Total Control of Herself. A Bitch stands up for herself, her loved ones, and her beliefs; she speaks her mind, thinks her own thoughts, and does things her own way all the while not hesitating to use razor sharp wit on anyone who fails to give her the respect she knows she deserves.

When a female refuses to tolerate injustice and speaks up against it, even being a general 'bad ass' up to and beyond physical force when needed because she has to, they call her a Bitch. The same thing happens when she takes time for herself instead of being everyone's maid or when she acts a little 'selfish'. {All 'selfish' means is taking care of one's SELF!} Being a bitch means that you are free to be the wonderful creature that you are, with all your own thoughts, beliefs, intricacies, contradictions, quirks and beauty. Being a bitch means you won't compromise what's in your heart. It means you live your life your way. It means you won't allow anyone to step on you just for the sake of stepping on you. It means you do unto others as you would have them do unto you -- if you were them.

Being called a Bitch, whether the person saying it believes it or doesn't know it, is NOT a bad thing; so what if a female wears combat boots while wearing an underwire bra? Why do they expect her to stand there with downcast eyes, silent and opinionless, turning into her mother? When someone calls a woman a Bitch, that means she's not following the 'norm' of society; she is demanding to be considered human first, then a woman...and she's doing something right. If she is sexy and a Bitch, she is a Bitch Goddess; men, well boys, are totally overwhelmed by this concept. A Heartless Bitch is one that has no time for those who whine and cry but do not exert themselves to try to actively change or improve a situation they are unhappy about; this does not involve that Bitch being uncompassionate, but rather only giving compassion where it is genuinely deserved.

A BITCH {or B.I.T.C.H}, however, is a Babyish Intolerant Tempermental Calculating Hag. They expect the world to cater to their whims, no matter what; they care about no one but themself and what they want, what they 'need'. They only think of others in relation to themself. What 'beliefs' they have only apply to keep others in line; in line with the BITCH's wishes, wants, and so called needs. Their mood swings are nasty and timed to cause you the most inconvenience, pain, time, and money in trying to soothe down their multiple psychotic personalities. They are NOT 'strong' -- they are manipulative, greedy, conniving and calculating semi-humanoid beings put on this planet to give grief to as many people as they can stomp over on their way to trying to claim 'goddess' status when they are no better {and are actually worth less than the lowest thing on the planet}. They are a waste of oxygen, time, energy, and definitely any kind of real human consideration such as caring or love.

BITCHes 'love' no one but themselves. A BITCH is usually the CAUSE of 'injustice' and prejudice and pain. She truly believes that the world {men in particular but everybody actually} 'owes' her; she is the only thing she thinks about on any level at all. A BITCH makes a lousy parent, a lousy partner, and in general a lousy part of the human race. She is 'intricate' only in her scheming and manipulating to get what she wants out of everyone else. Her thoughts and contradictions are not 'cute personality traits' or individuality...they are signs of a bipolar schizophrenic narcissistic mental disorder. She will step on you to get what she wants, whether she needs it or not; she will do it just to hear the pain from others.

So tell me guys, how do so many of Y'ALL end up with BITCHes?! Most of y'all are pretty decent guys, who {for the most part} are either mature or at least trying to mature. You actually want and need to have someone 'great' in your life; y'all DESERVE someone great in y'all's life. So how do y'all end up with BITCHes, over and over and over? Because you don't SEE -- you don't see the beauty that's skin deep hiding the rotting, infested soul and mind beneath. You lovely tetosterone laden males zoom off as knights in shining armor to rescue the maiden in distress, never realizing that the maiden is actually a hag witch or an evil dragon.

Meanwhile, the Bitch is taking care of herself and her own; she is not waiting to be rescued. She wants true love and companionship; but she's not going to compromise her soul to get it, nor is she going to pretend to be something that she's not. She's keeping the rest of her world safe while you're off trying to 'fix' another person {the same person that is going to make your life a living hell}. Bitches aren't manipulative, though, so the best we can do is to tell you how we see it; we tell you in friendship, though, not in anger or spite.

That leaves the Good Ol' Gal. I used to have just the Bitch/Beatch versus BITCH category...until I met mzhuny. She calls herself a 'redneck'; that's not how I see her, not since that word has started changing in meaning over time. They've turned 'good ol boy' into basically a synonym for 'redneck', too. Good ol' gal, though, that hasn't been overused; not too many of them around, either, that I've seen. They are Bitches, these Good Ol' Gals, with a down home spirit that carved out this great land. They stand by their man, they raise their kids, and they are proud that they are 'country'.

Those Gals are sweet as honey and tough as nails; instead of the sometimes harsh 'logic' of the Bitch, though, they will smile sweetly and nudge you along the right path {sometimes like an errant child that so many guys can be}. They probably didn't go to college, but they have learned all too well from the 'school of hard knocks'; their wisdom is the wisdom of the elders and as old as time itself. Their force is like the trickles of water that carved out the Grand Canyon; they are few, they are strong, they are steadfast, and they will accomplish as well as overcome. They are the iron hand in the velvet glove with the soft, honeyed voices telling you what's good for you.

Bitches and good ol' gals are some or all of these: assertive, strong-willed and minded, direct, blunt, candid, thick-skinned, hard-headed, competent, independent, overwhelming, tough; we occupy a lot of psychological space. You always know we are around. We take shit from no one. You may not like us, one or all, but you can not ignore us. Physically we are strong and move our bodies freely rather than restrain them or refine and confine our motions in the 'proper feminine manner'. In orientation, we seek our identity strictly through ourselves and what we do; we are subjects, not objects. We are independent cusses and believe we are capable of doing anything we damn well want to.

If something gets in our way, well, that's why we become Bitches. We are accused of domineering when doing what would be considered natural by a man. A true Bitch is self-determined, but the term "bitch" is usually applied with less discrimination. It is a popular derogation to put down 'uppity' women that was created by man and adopted by women; "bitch" serves the social function of isolating and discrediting a class of people who do not conform to the socially accepted patterns of behavior. Therefore, Bitches affirm themselves, and not by the negation of others. As young girls it never quite penetrated our consciousness that women were supposed to be inferior to men; we asserted ourselves as children and never really internalized the slave style of wheedling and cajolery which is called feminine.

Some Bitches were oblivious to the usual social pressures and some stubbornly resisted them. Some developed a superficial feminine style and some remained tomboys long past the time when such behavior is tolerated. All Bitches refused, in mind and spirit, to conform to the idea that there were limits on what they could be and do. Because we have been put down most of our lives, both for being a woman and for not being a true woman, a Bitch will not always recognize that what she has achieved is not attainable by the typical woman. As adults, Bitches may have learned the feminine role, at least the outward style but they are rarely comfortable in it.

This is particularly true of those women who are physical Bitches; they want to free their bodies as well as their minds and deplore the effort they must waste confining their physical motions or dressing the role in order not to turn people off. Too, because they violate sex role expectations physically, they are not as free to violate them psychologically or intellectually. A few deviations from the norm can be tolerated but too many are too threatening. It's bad enough not to think like a woman, sound like a woman or do the kinds of things women are supposed to do; to also not look like a woman, move like a woman or act like a woman is to go way beyond the 'norm'.

Ours is a rigid society with narrow limits placed on the extent of human diversity. Women in particular are defined by their physical characteristics. Bitches who do not violate these limits are freer to violate others. Bitches who do violate them in style or size can be somewhat envious of those who do not have to so severely restrain the expansiveness of their personalities and behavior. Often these Bitches are tortured more because their deviancy is always evident. But they do have a compensation in that large Bitches have a good deal less difficulty being taken seriously than small women.

One of the sources of their suffering as women is also a source of their strength. The trial by fire which most Bitches go thru while growing up either makes them or breaks them. They are strung tautly between the two poles of being true to their own nature or being accepted as a social being. This makes them very sensitive people, but it is a sensitivity the rest of the world is unaware of. For on the outside they have frequently grown a thick defensive callous which can make them seem hard and bitter at times. This is particularly true of those Bitches who have been forced to become isolates in order to avoid being remade and destroyed by their peers.

Those who are fortunate enough to have grown up with some similar companions, understanding parents, a good role model or two and a very strong will, can avoid some of the worse aspects of being a Bitch. Having endured less psychological punishment for being what they were they can accept their differentness with the ease that comes from self-confidence. Those who had to make their way entirely on their own have an uncertain path. Some finally realize that their pain comes not just because they do not conform but because they do not want to conform. With this comes the recognition that there is nothing particularly wrong with them they just don't fit into this kind of society.

Many eventually learn to insulate themselves from the harsh social environment. However, this too has its price. Unless they are cautious and conscious, the confidence gained in this painful manner - with no support from their sisters -is more often a kind of arrogance. Bitches can become so hard and calloused that the last vestiges of humanity become buried deep within and almost destroyed.

Bitches don't particularly like passive people. Women are trained to be passive and have learned to act that way even when they are not. A Bitch is not very passive and is not comfortable acting that role. But we usually do not like to be domineering either - whether this is from natural distaste at dominating others or fear of seeming too masculine. Thus a Bitch can relax and be her natural non-passive self without worrying about macerating someone only in the company of those who are as strong as she. Most of the time Bitches must remain psychologically isolated. Women and men are so threatened by them and react so adversely that Bitches guard their true selves carefully.

They are suspicious of those few whom they think they might be able to trust because so often it turns out to be a sham. But in this loneliness there is a strength and from their isolation and their bitterness come contributions that other women do not make. Bitches are among the most unsung of the unsung heroes of this society. They are the pioneers, the vanguard, the spearhead. Whether they want to be or not this is the role they serve just by their very being. Many would not choose to be the groundbreakers for the mass of women for whom they have no sisterly feelings but they cannot avoid it.

Those who violate the limits, extend them; or cause the system to break. Bitches were the first women to go to college, the first to break thru the Invisible Bar of the professions, the first social revolutionaries, the first labor leaders, the first to organize other women. Because they were not passive beings and acted on their resentment at being kept down, they dared to do what other women would not. They took the flak and the shit that society dishes out to those who would change it and opened up portions of the world to women that they would otherwise not have known. They have lived on the fringes. And alone or with the support of their sisters they have changed the world we live in.

By definition Bitches are marginal beings in this society. They have no proper place and wouldn't stay in it if they did. They are women but not true women. They are human but they are not male. Some don't even know they are women because they cannot relate to other women. They may play the feminine game at times, but they know is is a game they are playing. Their major psychological oppression is not a belief that they are inferior but a belief that they are not. Thus, all their lives they have been told they were freaks. More polite terms were used of course, but the message got thru.

Like most women they were taught to hate themselves as well as all women. In different ways and for different reasons perhaps, but the effect was similar. Internalization of a derogatory self-concept always results in a good deal of bitterness and resentment. This anger is usually either turned in on the self--making one an unpleasant person or on other women - reinforcing the social clich├ęs about them. Only with political consciousness is it directed at the source - the social system.

Not everyone can qualify as a Bitch. If a woman qualifies for some of those things, she is a Bitch; for having most of the attributes at least partially, she is a Bitch's Bitch. Only superbitches qualify totally in all categories and there are very few of those; most don't last long in this society. The most prominent characteristic of all Bitches is that they 'rudely violate' conceptions of proper sex role behavior. They 'violate' them in different ways, but they all violate them. Their attitudes towards themselves and other people, their goal orientations, their personal style, their appearance and way of handling their bodies, all jar people and make them feel uneasy.

Sometimes it's conscious and sometimes it's not, but people generally feel uncomfortable around Bitches. They consider them aberrations; they find their style disturbing so they create a dumping ground for all who they deplore as bitchy and call them frustrated women. Frustrated they may be, but the cause is social not sexual. What is disturbing about a Bitch is that she is androgynous; she incorporates within herself qualities traditionally defined as "masculine" as well as "feminine". A Bitch is blunt, direct, and at times egoistic. She has no liking for the indirect, subtle, mysterious ways of the "eternal feminine". She disdains the vicarious life deemed natural to women because she wants to live a life of her own.

Bitches demand to be fully functioning human beings, not just shadows; they want to be both female and human. This makes them social contradictions. The mere existence of Bitches negates the idea that a woman's reality must come thru her relationship to a man and defies the belief that women are perpetual children who must always be under the guidance of another. This is the root of her own oppression as a woman. Bitches are not only oppressed as women, they are oppressed for not being like women. Because she has insisted on being human before being feminine, on being true to herself before kowtowing to social pressures, a Bitch grows up an outsider.

Even as girls, Bitches violated the limits of accepted sex role behavior. They did not identify with other women and few were lucky enough to have an adult Bitch serve as a role model. They had to make their own way and the pitfalls this uncharted course posed contributed to both their uncertainty and their independence. Bitches are good examples of how women can be strong enough to survive even the rigid socialization of our society.

Not all Bitches make it. Instead of callouses, they develop open sores. Instead of confidence they develop an unhealthy sensitivity to rejection. Seemingly tough on the outside, on the inside they are a bloody pulp, raw from the lifelong verbal whipping they have had to endure. These are Bitches who have gone Bad. They often go around with a chip on their shoulders and use their strength for unproductive retaliation when some one accepts their dare to knock it off.

These Bitches can be very obnoxious because they never really trust people. They have not learned to use theirs strength constructively. Bitches who have been mutilated as human beings often turn their fury on other people -particularly other women. This is one example of how women are trained to keep themselves and other women in their place. Bitches are no less guilty than non-Bitches of self-hatred and group-hatred and those who have gone Bad suffer the worse of both these afflictions. All Bitches are scapegoats and those who have not survived the psychological gauntlet are the butt of everyone's disdain.

As a group, Bitches are treated by other women much as women in general are treated by society - all right in their place, good to exploit and gossip about, but otherwise to be ignored or put down. They are threats to the traditional woman's position and they are also an outgroup to which she can feel superior. Most women feel both better than and jealous of Bitches. While comforting themselves that they are not like these aggressive, masculine freaks, they have a sneaking suspicion that perhaps men, the most important thing in their lives, do find the freer, more assertive, independent, Bitch preferable as a woman.

Bitches, likewise, don't care too much for other women. They grow up disliking other women. They can't relate to them, they don't identify with them, they have nothing in common with them. Other women have been the norm into which they have not fit. They reject those who have rejected them. This is one of the reasons Bitches who are successful in hurdling the obstacles society places before women scorn these women who are not. They tend to feel those who can take it will make it.

Most women have been the direct agents of much of the shit Bitches have had to endure and few of either group has had the political consciousness to realize why this is. Bitches have been oppressed by other women as much if not more than by men and their hatred for them is usually greater. Bitches are also uncomfortable around other women because frequently women are less their psychological peers than are men. A male is defined as a man and a human being; and woman is defined as a female. Whenever a Bitch behaves as a human being she is accused of trying to emulate the male.

OH, and in case you haven't figured it out yet...*I* am a 'Bitch'. I like to look good, so that makes me a tease. I like to eat, so that makes me a pig. I like to get off, so that makes me a slut. I like to be treated with respect, that makes me a man-hating dyke. Trust me, I have no problem being labeled a bitch; I have kicked more ass than you have sat on! I am what I am--and I am damn great at it, too!


Think about that...and funintheday2006 took on FOUR of us! Got to admire a man who thinks so little of his 'family jewels' {albeit they are akin to cubic zirconia!} that he would risk it all! What do y'all think, girls...should we make fun an honorary Bitch?


wickedeasy 66F  
25415 posts
7/28/2006 3:41 pm

i love this post -

rock on with your bad self Bee - atch

WE

You cannot conceive the many without the one.


sassy1296 51F

7/28/2006 3:59 pm

Love this post. So true.

Now I am off to be that selfish, totally in control Bitch that I can be...woohoo got to love it.


alexa514 47M/45F
13 posts
7/28/2006 4:13 pm

Awesome post.


skyking412004 53M
5363 posts
7/28/2006 8:03 pm

_____I'm going to have to come back and read this later when I can devote more time to it.


funintheday2006 56M
9659 posts
7/28/2006 8:45 pm

Read it all... 3 times. What a masochist.Even understood most of it.
Your definitions are excellent ( This is the only post I will be semi-serious on) and eye opening for a mere male.
BALLSY
IMPRESSIVE
TRUTHFUL
CHERISHED
HAPPY
Thats how I see it after reading the couple of sentences you have managed to string together in one of your rare sober moments.
I even agree with a large part of it including Mzhuny is in a category that cannot be fully defined and is all the more beautiful for it.
MANS VIEW: Give me a beatch/bitch or even BITCH anytime, I want to know where I stand.


funintheday2006 56M
9659 posts
7/28/2006 9:03 pm

Now as for the last bit ya fucking BITCH, taking you four on is a before breakfast campaign for the Fun God.
You all entered a battle of intellect with no fucking ammunition at all, resorting to lies, deceit and character assasination. traits of a bitch maybe?
Me? I was a gentleman, telling it how it is, being open and just needing respite from the rabid and rancid attentions of 4 BITCHES who want to violate my body, satisfy themselves upon my statuesquely proportioned muscular frame of pleasure, partake of the delicate taste of my love juice that is so sought after by the bitch and BITCH fraternities, taste the fever of my full and moist mouth upon their undeserving bodies, succumb to the sensual reality of my muscularly rippling arms around them, reach the heights of ecstacy that is the hallmark of the Fun God, bathe in the visual delights of a perfect man, fulfill their erotic fantasy of being with me.
In short you all want me to fuck your brains out dontcha???
Well, ya cant.
It's no good you ranting like a fucking lunatic, 'we want to just be ourselves, free from restraints of society blah fucking blah', shut up ya auld BITCH.
You are not going to experience the fullness of pleasure only the Fun God can bring a woman. I like 'em skinny, pert tits and fucking brain dead. Blondes are best but not many can cook properly. Bollocks, I can eat takeaways.
So, if ya wanna shag me get ya fucking hair dyed and shut the fuck up, ya just MIGHT be in with a chance with this MALE BITCH.
Deal with it


intierzha 43M

7/29/2006 1:37 am

How... enlightening. Ok, not so much enlightening as an affirmation and confirmation of women in the Internet age. The traits you hallmark are certainly more indicative of what one sees online, especially on a site like this and in the blog format. I am certainly not opposed to it, of course, only surprised at the rapidity of the development of the attitudes. As you well know, I try and engender a discourse from a more civilized age (that's right the Old Republic , at least the civilized concepts of courtesy, chivalry, and dignity. I will say your own discourse was quite dignified and mostly courteous, and shows how far I still need to go when dealing with women. I freely admit to my failings, even if those failings are to want to treat a woman like a lady and with respect and decency. Some see it as a sign of weakness, but in a culture that often eschews civilized discourse, I feel the ability to communicate with each other courteously is a great strength. It does not mean I disparage humor, sarcasm, wit, etc... it has its place and I use it when I can, but the line between correspondence and rant blur so easily.

Sorry to ramble in your space, and I am sure, as it is late and I have to get on a plane in the morning, I am all over the place, but having plowed through my space so frequently, I am sure you take my meaning.

Have a great weekend,
C.


BaronessK 52F

7/29/2006 1:59 am

    Quoting wickedeasy:
    i love this post -

    rock on with your bad self Bee - atch

    WE
Let me guess, wicked...for/about you...Bitch Goddess...am I right...or am I right?


BaronessK 52F

7/29/2006 2:03 am

    Quoting sassy1296:
    Love this post. So true.

    Now I am off to be that selfish, totally in control Bitch that I can be...woohoo got to love it.
I believe that's a sign of a true 'Bitch', you know...for someone to say, "Bitch!"...and for the {true} Bitch to just stare at them...because they know already that they're a Bitch...and figure there's more to the sentence! Me, I luv my 'little Bitch rants', thanks!


BaronessK 52F

7/29/2006 3:22 am

I should be thanking you for taking the time to read it...you, in your pic...uhmmmm, look a little 'busy'!


BaronessK 52F

7/29/2006 3:32 am

    Quoting skyking412004:
    _____I'm going to have to come back and read this later when I can devote more time to it.
Sky, hun, what did I tell you about coming in to my blog sober, damn it?!


BaronessK 52F

7/29/2006 3:43 am

    Quoting funintheday2006:
    Read it all... 3 times. What a masochist.Even understood most of it.
    Your definitions are excellent ( This is the only post I will be semi-serious on) and eye opening for a mere male.
    BALLSY
    IMPRESSIVE
    TRUTHFUL
    CHERISHED
    HAPPY
    Thats how I see it after reading the couple of sentences you have managed to string together in one of your rare sober moments.
    I even agree with a large part of it including Mzhuny is in a category that cannot be fully defined and is all the more beautiful for it.
    MANS VIEW: Give me a beatch/bitch or even BITCH anytime, I want to know where I stand.
Trying to understand women is being a masochist? You are actually a sensitive, understanding, humourous...whinging wanking brit git!

Oh my gawd...the fun GOD hinting, nay printing out, that he is a 'mere' ANYthing?!

Actually, one of me writes much better drunk...shame I can't get drunk no matter what, ever!

No, hun...NOT a BITCH...that's the whole point. No one can 'fix' anyone else' problems...with a BITCH, 'SHE' IS the 'problem', in it's entirety and the whole damn mess. 'She' preys on a male's finer nature to be protective, to rescue the 'damsel in distress', to mend the broken wing of a grounded bird...but in reality she is an evil suction to a male's life force, their virility, their compassion, their trust, and their very manhood. The BITCH will only let you know where you 'stand' so that 'she' knows where she can aim!


BaronessK 52F

7/29/2006 4:08 am

    Quoting funintheday2006:
    Now as for the last bit ya fucking BITCH, taking you four on is a before breakfast campaign for the Fun God.
    You all entered a battle of intellect with no fucking ammunition at all, resorting to lies, deceit and character assasination. traits of a bitch maybe?
    Me? I was a gentleman, telling it how it is, being open and just needing respite from the rabid and rancid attentions of 4 BITCHES who want to violate my body, satisfy themselves upon my statuesquely proportioned muscular frame of pleasure, partake of the delicate taste of my love juice that is so sought after by the bitch and BITCH fraternities, taste the fever of my full and moist mouth upon their undeserving bodies, succumb to the sensual reality of my muscularly rippling arms around them, reach the heights of ecstacy that is the hallmark of the Fun God, bathe in the visual delights of a perfect man, fulfill their erotic fantasy of being with me.
    In short you all want me to fuck your brains out dontcha???
    Well, ya cant.
    It's no good you ranting like a fucking lunatic, 'we want to just be ourselves, free from restraints of society blah fucking blah', shut up ya auld BITCH.
    You are not going to experience the fullness of pleasure only the Fun God can bring a woman. I like 'em skinny, pert tits and fucking brain dead. Blondes are best but not many can cook properly. Bollocks, I can eat takeaways.
    So, if ya wanna shag me get ya fucking hair dyed and shut the fuck up, ya just MIGHT be in with a chance with this MALE BITCH.
    Deal with it
Excuse me, you whinging wankering soddish excuse for a lost empiric non-entity?! You WISH you could 'eat' us, and it'd take more than your Boo Berry!

You call posting a picture of your undersized bit of sushi being open?! More delusions, tsk! The only 'open' part of you, brit git, is the sound of the Thames River's wind rushing through your ears!

I already knew you wanted a brain dead bleached blonde beach clad bimbo...because only then would she match your insipid, nattering nonsensical, delusional, brain dead, dead sea crocodile teared lunatic ravings!

Leave it to you to want to eat something as nasty as 'bollocks'!

Hell, for YOU, brit git, I'll even make sure we make the SUB category...of WHINGING WHINING Bitch!


BaronessK 52F

7/29/2006 5:00 am

    Quoting intierzha:
    How... enlightening. Ok, not so much enlightening as an affirmation and confirmation of women in the Internet age. The traits you hallmark are certainly more indicative of what one sees online, especially on a site like this and in the blog format. I am certainly not opposed to it, of course, only surprised at the rapidity of the development of the attitudes. As you well know, I try and engender a discourse from a more civilized age (that's right the Old Republic , at least the civilized concepts of courtesy, chivalry, and dignity. I will say your own discourse was quite dignified and mostly courteous, and shows how far I still need to go when dealing with women. I freely admit to my failings, even if those failings are to want to treat a woman like a lady and with respect and decency. Some see it as a sign of weakness, but in a culture that often eschews civilized discourse, I feel the ability to communicate with each other courteously is a great strength. It does not mean I disparage humor, sarcasm, wit, etc... it has its place and I use it when I can, but the line between correspondence and rant blur so easily.

    Sorry to ramble in your space, and I am sure, as it is late and I have to get on a plane in the morning, I am all over the place, but having plowed through my space so frequently, I am sure you take my meaning.

    Have a great weekend,
    C.
Ah, forsooth, my lord, methinks thou are a bit astray....

It is that very point...that how we {as women} are reacted to/toward by OTHERS that causes us to become the way that we are for the most part. In my own personal case, I have always been as I am now, for the most part. When I am treated as the intelligent, unique individual {i.e. human being} that I am...who 'happens' to be composed of female body parts...then I react as such. However, if someone acts toward me in a manner that shows me that they actually think of me as a sarcastic BITCH {notice the exactness}, then I will respond in a 'bitchy' manner. There are, of course, 'middlings' of those two states.

Have you ever scrolled through the other comments on my blog? There lies the proof...notwithstanding funintheday2006 {who by his own admission brings out either the worst of the best of whatever! }, I respond to each and every person based on their unique personality {and AT THAT TIME, for them}. This...hmmmm...'talent' of mine has led many to believe that I have either serious psychological problems and/or split personality {-ies} and/or am actually several people!

I can write about oralization, masturbation, Bitches and Bitches, sodomy...but I also write poems, can be quite the 'romantic', and my very earliest things on here {and here and there inbetween my inane insaneness} are about 'forever' love. I DEPLORE fairy tales, however, for that is all they are. I have 'old fashioned' values in a new age philosophy. I am what I am {Popeye the Sailor Man...and oh yeah Descartes }.

I am kind to animals and children; I murmur sweet nothings to my plants and my invisible air fish. I would die to protect my children if need be. When my second husband died, I at once and the same time became less that I was and more than I ever could have been. I am as sane as they come, according to several shrinkadinks {all of whom mysteriously retired early}. Again, I am what I am because I can be no other way; at the same time, I am 'every woman', because I am versatile and adaptable and compatible and sensible and...well, all those -ibles and -ables!

When I first read a story on King Arthur and his Queen and his Knights of the Round Table...I wanted to be MERLIN. I could not be the clinging vine of a waffling 'woman' who brought down an empire of light through the darkness of her soul, through treachery of the deepest, vilest, most unforgiveable kind...which was through a breach of trust, and through that true love {at least on Arthur's part, in my opinion}. While there is lust aplenty in the world, that is a baser instinct that we {as human animals} can control. Through humor one teaches, and is taught, the most serious of subjects; through humor we are enabled to laugh at ourselves and the absurdity of the 'human condition'.

I do not need a Knight in Shining Armor...because I'm not planning on being a hand maiden, a stable keeper, a fawning ghost of what a real woman should be. I do not need a man to stand in front of me, nor behind me; he should stand beside me, in equality. That's not to say that anything is ever truly 'equal' in any relationship...it can't be, for the simple reason that we each are what we are, and should be accepted for such {because of and in spite of}; there will always be things that the other is 'better' at doing, accepting, taking care of, changing, controlling...what have you. I 'need' only one main thing from a true partner...to have my heart protected; with that, everything else...is everything else in the world.


complexlysimple 34M

7/29/2006 7:34 am

..okay, you just defined what I'd call a woman ...I say anything else is just a little girl, an not worth my time.

I guess I grew up around 'bitches', lived around 'bitches' ...and expect nothing less....

.... Wonder if that's why most seem docile/passive to me.....

... and that may include you ... I'm not sure I've seen you get what I'd call 'mean' yet ...which may be more of a statement about me (and my life) than it is about you....


BaronessK 52F

7/29/2006 2:42 pm

    Quoting complexlysimple:
    ..okay, you just defined what I'd call a woman ...I say anything else is just a little girl, an not worth my time.

    I guess I grew up around 'bitches', lived around 'bitches' ...and expect nothing less....

    .... Wonder if that's why most seem docile/passive to me.....

    ... and that may include you ... I'm not sure I've seen you get what I'd call 'mean' yet ...which may be more of a statement about me (and my life) than it is about you....
Did I define it for you with Bitch or BITCH, though? I AM a Bitch, but I am NOT {and have never been} a BITCH. Regarding 'mean'...like you, I have a very tight control on my temper...and a very large vocabulary...so there is mean and there is MEAN! I decided at about 12 or 13, maybe younger, that losing my temper meant I lost my edge and in doing that control. I find it unendingly 'funny' {in my own way, yes} when I am underestimated; and it's a tactical advantage, of course! Also, with my philosophies in/about Life, I don't remember the last time anything ever 'got' to me. Oh, the useless whining on this site {'drama'} about comment whores and such {oh, btw, remember, I give bjs for every comment! }. Things like that 'annoy' me, but I do not get angry. I am stress free and all that good stuff, ya know. It's all perspective. If there is something I can do about an 'injustice' then I do it, but I refuse to be made or let myself become...well, irrational over it. I scare most {so called} men...which means, in my opinion, that since I don't 'scare' you and all, that you are a man, a real man in the sense of the word, and not a boy. Feel free to enlarge on what you consider a bitch...I can 'do' Bitch for ya!


complexlysimple 34M

7/31/2006 3:56 pm

which bitch? ...the Bitch not the BITCH. The second type I'd be more likely to send out my bedroom window if they tried to show up at my bedroom door ...whichever floor I'm currently living on.

as for being mean ... I'm sure you can be, but why bother comparing who can be meaner ...there are so many little factors that can play into it .. All I know is I've nearly (who am I kidding I have) brought people tears with just a few pointed questions/comments ... can't say that I was trying to neccesarily ... it's another one of those things I don't like doing but will do if I feel have to.


BaronessK 52F

8/1/2006 12:00 am

    Quoting complexlysimple:
    which bitch? ...the Bitch not the BITCH. The second type I'd be more likely to send out my bedroom window if they tried to show up at my bedroom door ...whichever floor I'm currently living on.

    as for being mean ... I'm sure you can be, but why bother comparing who can be meaner ...there are so many little factors that can play into it .. All I know is I've nearly (who am I kidding I have) brought people tears with just a few pointed questions/comments ... can't say that I was trying to neccesarily ... it's another one of those things I don't like doing but will do if I feel have to.
I know exactly what you mean {and why; and yes, I've done the same for the same reason}. Keep talking to me like that, hun...and I'll fall in l...ust! {Hmmmm...probably too late to worry about that, though, cubby! ) Good thing I'm not stalker material!


skyking412004 53M
5363 posts
8/1/2006 12:25 am

_____I feel like I just attended a college lecture on psychology. No matter how positive you say the term is though, I still have a hard time accepting it as a good thing. It's kind of like black people bandying around the "N" word and trying to tell me it's OK if they use it as a term of affection toward each other. I guess maybe I'm just old enough to have grown up with certain "word prejudices" and will always have a hard time accepting them as anything but negative. Therofore, please don't be offended if I never refer to you as a bitch.


BaronessK 52F

8/1/2006 1:11 am

    Quoting skyking412004:
    _____I feel like I just attended a college lecture on psychology. No matter how positive you say the term is though, I still have a hard time accepting it as a good thing. It's kind of like black people bandying around the "N" word and trying to tell me it's OK if they use it as a term of affection toward each other. I guess maybe I'm just old enough to have grown up with certain "word prejudices" and will always have a hard time accepting them as anything but negative. Therofore, please don't be offended if I never refer to you as a bitch.
Sorry? I understand the positive versus negative thing, actually; plus, even if someone uses a certain word in a certain way, is it taken in that way? Not necessarily, of course. Babe, does that rule out me calling YOU a bitch? {Sorry, sky, you had to have seen that one coming! } Seriously, that would be like me calling a guy a bastard {except for fun, because I think the more and worse I insult him the more he lusts for me...and it keeps me civil to the rest of the male poplulation...for the most part! }.

Did I ever thank you for all those pictures? I was thinking about them the other day...and you said they were taken where? New Mexico is what I'm trying to remember, but that doesn't make it so! I know the mesa pic I sent you was in New Mexico {of course}, and the patio thingy was from Oregano's outside of Phoenix {can't think of exact town at moment, because they have several places}. Did you have any more? I think I sent you all the ones, or most, from Key West; that is one beautiful place.


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