My perception my reality...  

Balibabe19 42F
534 posts
7/3/2006 5:14 pm

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My perception my reality...


I actually spoke (well messenger anyway)to the male counterpart of the couple we met up with on the weekend and it seems the female is maybe more on the "hesitant" side of things than anything...maybe overwhelmed with the aftermath. But hey I am cool with that my head is in a totally different realm when it comes to play. Not that I am discounting the weight of the whoel "playtime" and the responsibility, respect and boundaries etc etc...yada yada yada....you know what I mean The list goes on...

But it left me thinking if you know its playtime, it was light hearted and it seemed very clear everyone had a good time...why give it much thought or moreso regret the very next day?? Wouldn't it be more prudent to allow the evening to be what it was.. a stolen opportunity of passion and debauchery??

Is that so bad??

That can't be wrong?

Or should I refrain from contacting my playmates once we have played because it seems me and hubby are very comfortable in our choices....whereas the few that have joined have skulked away...am i the problem??

Maybe I am the dud and he is the stud...? The male said he had a great time and that made me feel good...hate to disappoint



Soldier on!!

DIVISION77 39M
8328 posts
7/3/2006 5:56 pm

Why are you talking to male counterpart if he is fine with what went down?

It seems you should be discussing it with the female and why she feels regretful over having sex with you.

If you expect to have sex with them again, you should probably make sure she's comfortable with it.

DIV

"My every move is a calculated step, to bring me closer to embrace an early death." -Tupac Shakur


Balibabe19 42F

7/3/2006 6:57 pm

I thought about it however I am not of the persuasion of chasing something that I have no control over. If in fact she does have issues with, in particular her and mine encounter, I have no control over that and its something she would need to delve into. Not my place.


DIVISION77 39M
8328 posts
7/3/2006 8:39 pm

I know that, but like I said, if you want sex with them again you'd better make sure she's comfortable with it or it won't happen.

It all depends on how much you want it.

DIV

"My every move is a calculated step, to bring me closer to embrace an early death." -Tupac Shakur


Balibabe19 42F

7/3/2006 10:12 pm

Given the circumstances i am sure should they want to play they will contact us again...if not.. another one of lifes experiences has been served. Either way I am cool. Thanks for the advice..


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