Is it harder as we can get older?  

Balibabe19 41F
534 posts
4/19/2006 3:15 pm

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Is it harder as we can get older?

At about 3 o'clock this morning I got to seems harder to me to find real friends. You know the ones that you can trust and feel they have no agenda ..I maybe paranoid and tend to overthink things a little.. Just recently one of my oldest friends confronted me about 'allegedly' telling her daughter to piss off and go to the back of the line whilst waiting to be served hot food...

I know you guys don't know me at all but rest assured with my own children I would NEVER swear let alone be that callous towards a child. HOWEVER...not only did the child not hear what I said but she also was so used to being sworn at by her own parents she assumed i were to say something similar. THEN to cap it all off my supposed friend says nothing to me that night only to sit and stew...more hurtful...then her hubby spent the next two weeks bagging me and disrespecting me in every conversation to follow!!!

So back to the conversation...or confrontation as it were...she says to me how her husband has been bad mouthing me all this time and then has the audacity to get all revved up and finally says ...did you? I was mortified!!!! So upset reduced to tears..yep a real hurt alot not to be presumed innocent by such an old friend.

I now find myself in a dilemma as to whether or not i should forget about it and cut my losses..are dramatic friendships real friendships at all?

rm_LoyalCumpany 46M
3204 posts
4/19/2006 3:54 pm

I'll preface this by agreeing with you and saying I don't know you, or this friend of yours. But...

Friends are friends. People tend to get upset over the smallest things because they have other issues, like perhaps she got hit on by one of my students. Let it blow over for a little while longer and see what happens.

I am JoJo the Circus Boy!

easygoingguy852 47M
10 posts
4/19/2006 3:54 pm

well in your case,i would have to say could try and talk to her but i don`t really see the point after you`ve been stabbed it the back like that,is there a chance of an apology from her? if not,well cut your losses,who needs enemies when you have friends like that

luvu2bm9 60F

4/19/2006 4:00 pm

i agree friends are friends let it blow over

badferret68 48M

4/19/2006 5:03 pm

All relationships have problems (friends, lovers, family, etc.)that you either work through or even go away on thier own. I'll agree with loyal that most people that go off at little things are usually bothered by something completely different at the time. If they are truly your friend they'll get over it and you'll pick up where you left off. Time will tell.
Good Luck

Balibabe19 41F

4/19/2006 5:22 pm

Thanks for your advice guys and girls...I think I will just distance myself from it all...and unfortunately for me I have lost a good friend...I will always be her friend but I think I can't trust her the way i want to...

rm_MustangD6644 51M
1031 posts
4/20/2006 7:18 pm

FARKING HELL with "Friends" like that who would need an enemy. Its all "a bit suss" if you ask me.

Can I suggest that you write a letter to your "friend" detailing the way you saw events, and that from now on you will now longer trust little miss tattle tale, nor her or her husband. They burnt the bridge let them rebuild it if they have the guts, which I doubt.

Personally they sound like a bunch of backstabbers who lack the guts to get the facts first, so very much like my ex and her family. You dont need head game people like that in your life, period.

Sorry, I didnt mean to get all fired up, but backstabbers really shit me. They never do anything constructive only negative.

Keep up the blogging.


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