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Are Most Women Bi-Sexual?
Are Most Women Bi-Sexual?
As with many Lifestyle (i.e., Swingers) and sex websites, most of the women list themselves as “bi-sexual,” “bi-curious,” or the growing in popularity term, “bi-comfortable.” Since this is such an overwhelming phenomenon, I feel compelled to explore the definitions of each of these terms in order to figure out what the heck is going on. So here it goes:
Bi-sexual: According to most internet dictionaries (Wikipedia, et al), sex dictionaries (Dr. Ruth's, et al), and good ole' Webster's, a bi-sexual woman is one who is, 1.) sexually attracted to members of both genders, and is, 2.) willing to engage in sexual acts with members of both genders. Simple and straightforward enough.
Bi-curious: This term is a lot more problematic, in that no one seems to agree on one general definition; and ironically, it appears to be the most used term on this and other Lifestyle and/or sex sites.
The problem is this: Most definitions list the bi-curious person as one who is open and or curious about having sex with someone of the same gender. However, most credible sources agree only with that part of the definition. Most sources do NOT agree on whether or not the bi-curious person is “attracted” to a person of the same gender.
Willingness to engage in sex with someone of the same gender, and being attracted to someone of the same gender are notably two separate notions. For example, a person can be “willing” to have sex with someone because he/she is lonely, desperate, drunk, or has not had sex in a while, but that does not mean that he/she is necessarily “attracted” to that person. People engage in that sort of behavior all the time.
So, it is very possible to be “open,” “curious,” and “willing” to have sex with a person of the same gender, yet not necessarily be “attracted” to people of the same gender. Hence, I think came the evolution of the newest term in the mix:
Bi-comfortable: A woman who is not necessarily “attracted” to people of the same gender, but is comfortable with, or “willing” to have sex with someone of the same gender. It should be noted here that Kinsey mentions that a person that falls into this category, tends to like sex a lot, and particularly likes to please others in sex. And particularly, their pleasure is predicated on another person’s pleasure, whether that person is of the same gender or not.
Interesting stuff, huh?
1/16/2006 5:10 pm
Most ensitful...... You know that is sooooo true about most women. I'm so sick of those types that are Bi- due to drunkeness or just because they want to plaes there boyfriend(even though the vary notion of being with another woman makes them queezy) and of cource those whom are just auditonind for girls gone wild.|