posts 6/11/2006 11:13 am
6/16/2006 4:32 am
Seeking New Active Members
|I have gotten a couple of request asking about the group I am a mod of so, I am going to post our rules here and hope that some of you will take a look and join us. The group's name is:|
SEX And Our BODIES
HEY! YOU! YES, I’M TALKIN’ TO YOU! THE ONE ABOUT TO JOIN THIS GROUP!
STOP AND READ THIS BEFORE YOU JOIN! This group is for discussion only! LURKERS OR THOSE WHO JUST WANT TO READ THE POSTS ARE NOT ALLOWED,(however you don't have to join to read threads or post, but in order to post or post a thread you have to join). You WILL be banned!
THIS IS NOT A PLACE TO GET ATTENTION FOR YOUR PROFILE, CHECK OUT OUR CHAT ROOM, OR MEET SOMEONE FOR A HOOK-UP.
IF YOU DO NOT BOTHER TO FOLLOW OUR RULES AND GUIDELINES, YOU WILL BE ASKED TO LEAVE SHORTLY THEREAFTER. IN BUILDING ITS MEMBERSHIP, THE QUALITY OF THIS GROUP IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN THE QUANTITY OF MEMBERS.
IF YOU WERE A MEMBER, AND YOU FIND ONE DAY THAT YOU HAVE BEEN BANNED, READ THE FOLLOWING AND THE REASON FOR IT SHOULD BE CLEAR.
This is a place to exchange information about anything related to Sexual Health and Sexuality, either physical or emotional. This topic affects every one of us. Some groups exist as a vehicle to meet others for sex. Unlike those groups, we are a true discussion group. Any member joining this group will need to have enough free time, energy, and interest to become actively involved. The primary purpose of this group is for the members to benefit and help each other through sharing of information and our own personal experiences.
To this end, this Group has VERY STRINGENT REQUIREMENTS REGARDING PARTICIPATION. If you do not place posts on a regular basis which demonstrate that you are actively engaging with our other members, you WILL BE ASKED TO LEAVE without any prior warning. The definition of “a regular basis” shall be determined at the sole discretion of the Moderator of this Group, and may vary on an individual basis.
Personal problems, illness, or vacations that prevent a member from participating arise, and allowances are made for individual situations. If you would like to remain in the Group, please contact the moderator privately, and inform her of your situation.
IF YOU CANNOT ABIDE BY THE PREVIOUS GUIDELINES, PLEASE DO NOT JOIN. If you are still interested, please read on:
Examples of topics: Exchange tips to enhance sexual pleasure; support those afflicted with a health issue that is affecting their sex life; share information about sexual dysfunction issues; share information and educate others about safer sex; support and embrace members with STDs, including Herpes, HPV, and HIV+; and give folks a safe place to ask those embarrassing or taboo questions without fear of recrimination or judgment. Nothing is taboo here. We have some very fun threads...be creative, and mostly don’t be shy...if you’ve thought about it, I guarantee you someone else has too! Who hasn't had a question about sex and our bodies that he or she hasn’t always wanted to ask, but didn't feel comfortable talking about? This is the place for that - to find support, acceptance, share advice, and make friends.
RULES: (Disregard of Rules will result in a member being banned. No warning letter will be issued. These rules are effective at the time of this posting, and are applicable to every member, regardless of join date.)
1) A NEW MEMBER IS REQUIRED TO START A MESSAGE THREAD TO INTRODUCE HIM/HERSELF WITHIN ONE WEEK OF HIS/HER JOIN DATE. THIS IS TO BE DONE BEFORE YOU POST IN A THREAD.
Think of it this way...if you saw a group of people who didn’t know you, and they were having a conversation, would you just jump into their conversation without introducing yourself first? I would hope not. Don’t agonize over this, but it should be something about YOU...NOT your sexual goals here, or anywhere else. Tell us about YOU.
If you cannot take a few minutes to do this, then you are already demonstrating that you will not be a participating member, and you SHOULD NOT JOIN! Why would I ban you for violating this seemingly innocuous transgression? Because it demonstrates to me that you have either not read, or do not understand our rules. If this happens to you, you may write to me privately, and we can discuss a “do-over.”
2) YOU MUST BE ACCESSIBLE. If your profile is turned off, please send me a letter every 45 days so that I can contact you by e-mail if needed. Also, if you have chosen to hide your Interest Groups, and it ultimately creates a problem for me, you may be banned.
3) NO PERSONAL ADS WILL BE ALLOWED.
4) BLATANT SEXUAL ADVANCES OR HARASSMENT IS NOT ALLOWED.
5) PARTICIPATION, AS DESCRIBED ABOVE, IS REQUIRED.
6) NO VULGAR BEHAVIOR IS ALLOWED. Graphic words used in a “clinical” context are fine.
GUIDELINES FOR CONDUCT: (You will be given a warning on the Board(by email from me) for any of these infractions, but continued disregard for them will result in your being banned.)
A) INTOLERANCE OF ANY KIND IS NOT ALLOWED.
KEEP IT LIGHT. If a member is contentious and disruptive, he may be banned.
C) YOUR OPINION IS NOT FACT. Because this Group has many medical topics that will be discussed, please phrase your comments as comments and not as fact, unless you quote the resource. This can be accomplished by simply using phrases such as "in my opinion", "in my experience,” or "I believe." You get the idea. Many members may take another's comment as fact, when it may be erroneous. Opinions are always allowed. Please just make sure that the language of your post makes this clear.
D) STICK TO THE SUBJECT! Feel free to have fun and be imaginative, but please confine the subject matter of a new thread to something that is pertinent to this interest group.
E) READ THE DIRECTIONS! I would strongly suggest that all new members find the thread titled “Basic Instruction on the Use of the Board(Before You Click & Join),” and read it. It will make your life easier, as well as the lives of your fellow members. After reading it, post your handle on it and this will help to keep it active.
F) RED CAPS IN TOPIC TITLES ARE RESERVED FOR THE MODERATOR.
Now that all of that is out of the way, if you would like to get to know some really wonderful people, talk about some very interesting topics about Sex and Our Bodies, and become part of our “family” click on the “Join” button. We would love to have you as a member!
Are you about to click that button to JOIN THIS GROUP? Please! DON’T DO IT UNLESS YOU HAVE READ ALL OF THE ABOVE ! ! !
Before You Click and Join!
I borrow this from a former posting from 4ME and decided to put it back in the cycle! Ask yourself a question. Why are you thinking of joining this group? If your intentions are not sincere or if you did not bother to read what we are about, I can promise you that pressing that ‘Join’ button will all be a waste of time.
However, in the remote event that you are one of the one-in-thirty people who join this group, and turn out to be someone who actually wants to belong, then go ahead and join. We look forward to getting to know you and hearing from you as you participate. Have you read the lengthy description of our Group on our main page? If you have not, you are doing both of us a disservice. Please take a few minutes to go back and read it all. It may prevent misunderstanding of our rules, and keep you from being asked to leave.
I think that you will find that our topics are interesting, that we try to have fun, and that, over time; you will begin to feel as though you know everyone. This is a very open group, so don’t hold back! We welcome candid and frank discussions. Just a warning: a new member should not be timid about talking about the human body, or graphic sexual descriptions. We talk about EVERYTHING, right down to the most intimate details!
Our group is a class act, and as the Moderator I do monitor it closely to make sure that it remains this way. We are a little different from many groups on AdultFriendFinder, as your participation is EXPECTED. If, at this moment, you are saying to yourself, “uh, oh...I don’t want to POST anything...I just want to read or be seen,” then this is a MAJOR infraction. Please take yourself out of the group right away. This is easily done by going to the bottom of the Group’s Description Page, scrolling to the bottom of the text, and clicking on “Leave This Group.”
The next most important thing for you to understand right away, is please, start a New Message to introduce yourself as soon as possible. This MUST be done in 24 hours or you will be automatically banned. It can be just a little bio...not information that is already posted on your profile...we can all read that. Please do not stress out over it, but again...we want to know about YOU...not your sex needs. There will be places to discuss that on the Board, or you may start a thread about it. Many people do not like this and complain, “But I don’t know what to say!” As I have posted in a thread on the Board already, here are some ideas to get you started:
Where did you grow up? What are your hobbies? What’s going on in your life right now? Tell us about your personality. What do you love about life, and what do you hate about it? If privacy permits, what is your career? What are your dreams and goals? I hope you see how easy this is! Everyone’s life is interesting. Please do not worry about making it too long (there is no such thing), boring anyone, or apologize for having to write it or have others read it.
I believe many people have the distorted notion that writing this introduction is looked upon as “bragging” about oneself. This is not the case at all. Please do not feel self-conscious about helping us get to know you better. THIS is what separates us from the groups aimed at high membership, low participation, and mostly hook-up ads.
We are a congregation of PEOPLE, not handles and profiles, or people looking for sex. We are individuals, and each one of us has a unique personality and set of life experiences. Again, please do this within 24 hours or within 3 days of joining, and BEFORE you make any posts. You will also get an email from me welcoming you and if there is no posting of intro YOU WILL BE BANNED!
We are looking to build a membership that consists of a group of folks who will visit frequently, follow the threads, and post regularly. If you haven’t already, it would probably be a good idea to take some time and read some of our threads first, to see if you will enjoy our discussions.
If you did not read our Group Description first, and now understand that you will not be able to participate regularly, again, please remove yourself. No hard feelings. You may rejoin anytime in the future if you change your mind. If a member posts infrequently, he or she will be contacted and asked to leave the Group. Members who have not posted will be asked to leave pretty fast.
I sincerely hope that none of the above scares you away. If it does...again...no hard feelings. I’m truly not trying to discourage you, and would love to have you as part of our gang! Again, welcome! Don’t be shy...just jump right in, and have fun!
Last and finally is that you can post something other than what is pertinent to the group I ask that you POST A THREAD TITLE "OPEN FOURM/JOKES or FUN, or OPEN TOPIC/FUN or JOKES or other news that you feel you might what everyone to know about. I am a news junkie and if I see something I think others may have missed or would like to comment I will post a thread Open Topic.
Now that we have gone through this very long post, I hope that you will come on in and join our group
there is a huge group of people out there with interesting backgrounds and life experiences to share with others.