A problem with stalking...  

ArealUnicorn 44F
740 posts
9/3/2006 6:26 pm

Last Read:
10/3/2006 2:30 am

A problem with stalking...

You know I've never been one to be quiet about what has happened to me and the fact that I am currently being stalked...have been for over a year now. It's a fact of life for me and i have learned to live with it. Now that's not to say that I haven't done what I could to make it stop I have...police etc. I find it sooooo funny...yes funny that there is one thing about being stalked that other don't seem to consider. It has been brought up lately a lot. People think it's a joke, they really do. They don't believe you or don't think it's that serious. The are mean about it and use it to slam u. Call you drama queen etc. If they could walk a mile in the shoes of a stalking victim they would think differently.

It happened to me a couple of weeks ago, again last week and again tonight. It was made light of...and to be honest I hope that those people never ever have to deal with what i have had to deal with. The fear, the anger, the feelings of no control it's awful. But what makes it worse it those who make light of it and think it's a joke. I don't mean making a joke of it I mean using it to demean me like it's not a fact that I am over reacting or it's my fault.

So here it is people....don't make light of it, it's real and it has killed people, dont make light of it, it ruins lives, dont demean people with it they feel bad enough as it is, dont pretend it's not real it is and don't blame the victim they have done nothing wrong.

My situation is not getting better, it is still the same, I am still followed and watched, I am not called anymore or emailed (their computers were seized kind of hard to do that now) but none the less it's still here and it's still hard on my son and my family.

Will it be over soon I suspect so, computers are with the RCMP in ottawa, yes ottawa I have the name of the sgt in Fredtown who is in charge of my case and his direct line so when I have questions he will address them.

Am I "whining" about this no...I just want those that make light of it, don't believe it and use it to be mean to stop and think about it next time, what if it was ur daughter, ur wife, ur mother, your sister, your aunt, your cousin, your sister in law or worse you that was getting stalked....walk a mile people and quit being so gd nasty cause karma is real and u will get ur's......

mickdevil 50M/52F
3496 posts
9/3/2006 7:27 pm


not the same people?

ya no areal I feel so bad for the single ladies and all the crap and critizem they have to put up with!Im not sure how much of it I could take

I dont no what I would do if it was of my daughters I would lose it!!!

and I dont consider it whinning at all protect you and your son!

I hope this goes away for u soon

xoxox DEVIL

Mick & Devil FWB
click me

Just Living Life

blastngoff 52M

9/3/2006 9:34 pm

I think that some people who make light of it may not have ever experienced it. It takes someone who is mentally off-balanced to want to stalk someone and that is where the danger lies. It isn't a joke and that's why there are now anti-stalking laws on the books. To not have complete control of your life and to be constantly worried about your security is a terrible thing, especially since safety and security are a couple of top priorities for everyone in their lives. No one should have to endure looking over their shoulders at every moment. Though I have never been stalked I have been harassed to the point of having a phone number and e-mail blocked. Those things are minor though compared to your situation. I hope that the law will catch up with this individual and deal with them. Though it may not help much I send you my prayers and best wishes in the hopes that all works out for you and that sooner rather than later you once again have peace in your life.

ArealUnicorn 44F

9/4/2006 4:00 am

Devil yes the same people...Wednesday Thursday and Friday of last week it happened but my point is that others don't take it seriously, people around you, people that know make light of it and use it as a weapon to make fun of you or hurt you...someone made a statement last night in chat "oh I better be good or she will call the cops on me wha wha"...that type of thing....

PS Mick and Devil yes so do I ....it will be nice to have a normal life again.

ArealUnicorn 44F

9/4/2006 4:06 am

blastngoff oh I know I have never once been able to figure out why they do it and persist....seriously...the police have caught up with them that is what is so funny...search warrants were issued and their computers were seized, at home and at work, that is usually a sign for the stable that what they are doing is wrong but eh....we are not dealing with the stable are we....as for those that make light of it and use it to be mean no they haven't experienced it but that doesn't matter...they have seen the results of it...on TV when that poor woman lauri show was killed here in Canada or that actress Rebekka....something off of my sister sam...

IT is real and it is dangerous and people shouldn't make light of it. I watched a show last night "stalking the stalker" about the new squad in LA....it was good to see sort of but at the same time not so good...200 cases a year there mostly "stars" and even some of those can't be proscecuted well teh cops here have never had one before this is it the first one...I am breaking new ground...it's not a good thing to be the guiene pig realy but if it makes it better for others I am all for it.

Thx for your thoughts and prayers....

afternoonhardon 43M
4 posts
9/4/2006 11:05 am

It's so true, people take it so seroulsy when it is some Hollywood star they see on TV but it happens so frequenently every day in small rural towns. I just wish you the best.

ArealUnicorn 44F

9/4/2006 11:22 am

afternoon yes that is true thx for you kind words

story2k 47M

9/4/2006 11:42 pm

I am surprised that there aren't more measures in place to prevent stalking here. There should be a better screening process or something to prevent stalkers from harassing people. I think you're showing a great deal of courage in talking about it and continuing to deal with it during your time here. Just continue to be careful.

ArealUnicorn 44F

9/5/2006 3:58 pm

Well story2k there aren't and there aren't any outside of here either...all we can do it block and ignore on here...thx for the encouragement btw...it is very much appreciated.

multitasksextoy 58M  
3511 posts
9/6/2006 2:23 pm

Nothing a good baseball bat wouldn't take care of!!!
Later Unicorn

ArealUnicorn 44F

9/6/2006 5:00 pm

rawhide I've wanted to trust me...good thing Im not a violent person...

rm_tryyouharder 48M
22 posts
9/9/2006 6:38 pm

Baseball bats are AN answer, not THE answer, as tempting as they might be sometimes. I'm a man of action, but thankfully not violent. Violence is never the right answer.

ArealUnicorn 44F

9/10/2006 9:44 am

tryyou I know hun...I wish tho sometimes it would feel sooo good sometimes...

iamthecmfe 38F

9/15/2006 9:01 am

violence is Never the answer???


whats the question??...

Sorry, I am not making light of this situation. It happened to me a few weeks ago and lots of folks told me to tell them to just go away. And these are "friends" of mine that know just how subtle I am.... Sometimes people are just dumb.

I do hope this ends for you and your son soon. Looking over your shoulder every few feet is exhausting.

But if all else fails... I do know an excllenct "mechanic".

ArealUnicorn 44F

9/16/2006 5:56 am

lol @ iam...hmmm a mechanic that would be nice...it wont end till they are charged unfortunatley I know that already and it might not then either...but I am moving so that will take care of some of it but living in the same town does cause some issues...as you may well expect...

No worries tho I have 4 very very large brothers who take care of me...lol...no not through violence but through intimidation.

Kahluabelle 45F

9/29/2006 6:28 am

uni- sorry to hear the mindless "never had the experience but have to commment"s in the room are givng ya hard time about the stalkin.. I have had same prob on occasion in the room from insensitive fucktards and the urge to kick ass has sometimes been quite over whelming... but then I have to stop and think - they dont know any better and if it helps them feel better about their small lives and minds - so be it- i dont have time for that shit...I lived it and it coulda killed me - nearly did and the scars are still there inside and out- I have a jaw that doesnt set right and hurts at times and crooked nose thanks to my experience and the terror it put me thru could never be repeated thank god. so anyone who mocks it needs their head fuckin examined and their ass in yer shoes - chances are they wouldnt last a day.Above all else protect yourself and your child at any cost... as to the nay sayers and shit disturbers_ there but by the grace of god go they and hopefully for their sakes they never know what its like... but maybe a small dose would smarten them the fuck up...sheesh people like that piss me off- damn fucktards!

ArealUnicorn 44F

10/3/2006 2:30 am

belle me too...they are so lucky they don't have to deal with this bs..the fear is the worst...lack of control over what is going to happen in ur life and never knowing what is coming next...

These people that make light of it are exactly as u describe them....small minded with small lives...I was thinking that yesterday actually...

Belle ur a true friend for many reasons....

Take care...

Become a member to create a blog