Angel21 37F
69 posts
10/4/2005 2:37 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm


Why is it that when you meet someone, and you ask them what it is that they look for they all answer: "HONESTY"

BUT, when you're honest with that person, they think you're being a cold hearted bitch!!! If I promise to meet someone, I'll be there, if something more is gonna happen from there, it all depends on how the two of you "connect". There's gotta be some sort of spark between you don't you think???

So ok, I meet this guy for coffee, there's absolutely NO spark, it was there in our e-mails, chat's etc... but that was it. When the day came that we finally meet in person, it was like meeting my father in a 32 year old body.

I've got 1 simple rule, which I try and follow as best I can:


So ok, after our lunch, he suggests we go to his place and have some fun..... HALLO...... I'm not interested. So being HONEST with him, I tell him that I think it's best we go our seperate ways. I get this response, and let me quote: "You cold hearted bitch, all you do is lead men on, and then leave them high and dry. You're a cock teaser, that's what you are"

If we had phone sex, cyber sex or whatever you wanna call it, I can understand!! But not once did I tell him or suggest to him anything else!!

Am I wrong? Or was he sensitive???

rm_sexy40islady 57F
148 posts
10/4/2005 4:48 pm

You did exactly what I would have done and I do not consider myself a cold harded bitch. Why waste your time when you do not feel the connection in person. If it is not there, it is not there and there is absolutely nothing that you can do. What is it about a man that buys you a drink, lunch, dinner or coffee that makes him think that you want to hop right into the sack with him? Something tells me this man will not make any connections with an attitude like he has!

1586 posts
10/4/2005 5:59 pm

Angel21 -

You're not wrong. The guy was just being a jerk because he didn't get what he wanted. You're lucky to be rid of the big baby.

I've heard that I was "cold" myself on a couple of occasion. Just because I didn't go along with what they wanted, I suddenly became a "bitch" or a "tease". (The tease part I found funny because I don't do anything remotely sexual when I meet someone for the first time.)

I have totally changed the way I deal with people. I never meet even for a so-called casual cup of coffee or lunch because for some guys, it implies that you're open to other things. Why they would think coffee would lead to an instant romp in the hay is beyond me! LOL

Anyway, take things slowly and do what you're comfortable with.

What it boils down to is that for every one guy that gets pissed off, there are twenty more willing to take his place.



rm_FreeLove999 46F
16127 posts
10/5/2005 1:17 am

don't let assholes get to you! if he could say something like that to you, i would say your instincts not to take it further were absolutely right!!

[blog freelove999]

careless1972 44M

10/5/2005 5:05 am

Ok here is my 2 cents worth....i think is an asshole....like you said if there was no spark then there is no spark i won't jump into the sack with someone if there is no spark........HELL NO

rm_1978ak 38M
1 post
10/6/2005 3:03 pm

At the end of the day its your choice. Like i say brutal truth, if you can't handle it stay out of the kitchen. You were totally in the right. Forget the loser..Its his loss!

Serendipity674 51M

10/7/2005 9:23 am

Hey Angel

The guy sounds like he has real issues. Whether or not you led him on is irrelevant. His behaviour cannot be justified in any manner. He probably labours under the misconception that any woman on this site is desparate and will fall into bed with the first guy who comes along, which makes every contact a sure thing thing. Wonder what he's smoking, hm?

I just posted a comment on another issue on your blog, where two guys are punting the issue that women need men. It's arrogant, soulless drivel like that which gives us men a bad name. And I didn't learn this the easy way.... Guys like the ones you have ancountered will hopefully benefit from being cut down to size in the future. A little humility goes a long way.

You do what's best for you, my dear and let these poor lost souls search for wisdom at their own expense, not yours! You deserve better, because you are beautiful and special.

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