Appearances -part 2  

AmberSolaire 42M
2630 posts
8/10/2005 11:12 am

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Appearances -part 2

Now many of you might have taken a look at my question below and thought WTF , is this another mind game.Is it a trick question.Is it a blatent slur on our friendly site.

It is in fact all this and more.It is a simple question that has many layers.

Most of you picked up on the fact that it reflects the inadequate nature of technical support provided.Some may have seen that it questioned identity, or maybe reflected the untransparent nature of chatrooms.There are as ever issues over gender.Then there are ideas about who indeed could be logged on behind a profile, are there indeed two or more people using the profile.It could even raise issues about predators in cyberland.

When you enter a chatroom you are not in control of the environment.How many times have you been unable to type.Too often words dont show up or "stick", leading to confusion and miscomprehension.When people dissappear is it because they are being rude, or because they have been flung out due to crowded servers.The member lists often dont show people who are in the room.You can never really tell who you are talking too, and thats before you factor in the fact that administrators seem to be invisible, or at any point in time you could be "whited out".

At any one stage people who appear there may be on the phone, doing other things, in other chatrooms or have left entirely.You on the other hand may still think you are talking to them, and only become aware of it when you see everyone sayin wb so and so.......

Then you get onto identity.Men can be Women, women can be men and you will never know.Im not going to go into the whys and wherefores of the reasons for people doing this.(Thats a whole other post)But it does cause confusion.You may talk to the same person twice in different guises and as different sexes.

Would you not feel sligghtly violated if you found out this has happened to you? yet I bet it has.

This is compounded by the fact that there are no restrictions here on how many profiles you can have, and also the fact that more than one of these can be in the same chatroom at the same time.

You can even have a conversation with yourself.

Which takes us back to the numbers.The member list if its working only shows profiles.In so called RL there may be more than one person on the pc at any one time.

So how many are in the chatroom?It depends on how you count.

How many of either sex? you will never know

As for cyber stalking.Well take a look through the above.It doesnt take a genius to work out that this is the perfect environment for them

papyrina 51F
21133 posts
8/10/2005 12:52 pm

you have been a busy boy with your last two posts,now relax and take your mind of such things

I'm a

i'm here to stay

PailsDiverHonks 55F

8/10/2005 6:42 pm

Didn't your mommy tell you to never talk to strangers?

This is a lush post. But it is so typical of Internet chatting. It can be on this site, or any other meeting people site. You just never know. How many have spent time emailing and exchanging photo with someone, only to meet them offline and find out they look nothing like the picture they sent?
The only room I got into on this site is the bloggers room. The only people I talk to in that room are the bloggers I recognize the ones who's post I have followed for months.

Something else you said,

"Then you get onto identity.Men can be Women, women can be men and you will never know"

I have a solution to that problem...You got my number

rockwriter58 56M
1389 posts
8/10/2005 8:09 pm

It isn't just in the chatrooms. One-on-one IM chat can also be deceiving unless you know the other person well. As some of us have written about before, teenagers (minors) cruise this site looking for kicks (which makes the cyberstalker problem all the more troubling). And there are fratboys (in groups) who like to hide behind female profiles to see what sort of jollies they can pull.

I put some of this in a blog entry a while back called Fakes.

Caution is the word here sometimes.



8/10/2005 10:15 pm

VERY EXCELLENT POST Amber. Clear but means so much and when you read between the lines it means so much more.

rm_EE407 41F
3903 posts
8/10/2005 10:21 pm

mmm... Is aware of this prob... Happily I usually manage to shrink the room when I cum in

As greeneyes says, you can get to know peeps.


helga_hansen 49F  
1987 posts
8/11/2005 1:20 am

Amber... interesting reading, but I don't think all those questions you pose are limited to the chat rooms. All these people can be doing the same type of thing when they send emails or IM. We just don't know anything until we find out the hard way! Having said that, it is nice meeting people and finding they've been very honest about who/what they are.

I do know some people who have "multi" profiles... but they are used simply for fun, and us regulars will know this. I do admit to being a multi-room user...sometimes one room gets a bit slow, so I'll go off and see if there's anything else going on in another, but remaining in the first room. And yes, guilty too of life getting in the way when chatting... phones, making dinner, making a cuppa... but I will often say "BRB" before I disappear...

As I said before... I'm not bothered by the numbers... I'm just happy to see my pals when I come in/when they arrive.


PS. Hope you don't mind I was scratching my dick while I was typing this...

Love, hugs and kisses from ♥♥HH♥♥

GleesFlakyShawl 50M
1620 posts
8/11/2005 6:30 am

dont forget to count chatters with multiple personalities......

_CoffeeNoCream_ 52F

8/11/2005 3:51 pm

I trust people as far as I can throw them....

wyvernrose 38F
3895 posts
8/12/2005 8:20 am

Amber there is another form of predator at work on AdultFriendFinder

read ~Must Read for ALL bloggers~ Are you sick of it? join in


starlight_runner 39F

8/12/2005 8:08 pm

Surely all the peeps are on the liost on the left.Try looking there next time amber.

Kisses Star

rm_EE407 41F
3903 posts
8/13/2005 3:51 am

<<< is chatbabe.. no doubt about it...
And does sometimes do 2 rooms at the same time.. but I do "talk" in both.

raptor880 39M

8/13/2005 7:52 am

Its hard enough typing and keeping the animals in line to check the member list.

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