Tips For the Shy Guy  

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11/27/2005 9:11 am

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Tips For the Shy Guy

Fine yourself just flat out stuttering? Straight trippin'!? I found an article on shyness and thought I'd share some information:

Take Baby Steps:
Treat dating like a 12-step program. Start with a smile; show everyone (not just the hot babes) you're friendly and approachable. On following days, move up to saying "hi." A few days after that, engage in small talk. Keep going as you gradually open yourself up to people and see it's not as hard as you thought. If you make a blunder, forget about it. Most people are more forgiving than you think.

Don't Put Women on a Pedestal:
Don't attach any special significance to the woman you talk to. See her as a human being with all the flaws and qualities of the average person. Talking one-on-one is much nicer than talking down to or up to another person.

Don't Fear Rejection:
You can't expect to succeed every time. Nothing is 100%, so view every encounter with a woman (anyone for that matter) as a positive learning experience. The trick here is to not be self-conscious. Shyness and hesitation occur when you think about your flaws. Instead, focus your thoughts entirely on the woman you're talking to. You'll forget about your jitters.

As you can tell, if you've gotten this far, most of the problem occurs, and I'm assuming this, when we think of our flaws. We're all flawed and human. We're all beautiful and ugly in some sense. Find your niche, what makes you great, your passion, your love, your joy and share it with others. You'll be better at being yourself than trying to reiterate someone else. Don't imitate, being genuine is what you need to be. Don't be afraid, it is better to be hated for who you are than loved for who you are not.


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