Thoughts on swinging  

Alenadhal 63M/59F
9 posts
6/3/2006 5:16 am

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Thoughts on swinging

I remember when my hubby and I first got started with this "lifestyle"... we were so nervous... weren't we all? How do you meet people? What do you do? How does it work?

One of the things that I have found is that the relationship between you and your partner is the most important thing. I know that for us, there is no question about who we are as a couple, and that neither of us is going anywhere. We have absolute trust and no jealously. We are partners in this activity and talk about it from all angles.

It's sad to think that some couples may try this as a way to fix something wrong in their relationship.

One story about swinging gone wrong just puzzles me still. Married couple A swings. They hook up with another married couple, B. Mrs. A decides to have an affair with Mr. B. This takes some effort as they are more than 100 miles apart. Of course, it all comes out, Mr. and Mrs. A survive the turmoil, but damaged all the same. If you are swinging, how can you even think of cheating on your partner?

Anybody? What do you think of swinging versus cheating or cheating while swinging?


6/3/2006 8:25 am

Wishing you sexy success! Kisses from MO {=}

I don't wanna judge anybody cause don't need a judge in my life soooo my opinion is to each their own!

just a squirrel trying to get a nut

rm_Luvtwosee 63M/58F
9 posts
6/3/2006 8:53 pm

I think the reasons why people swing vary as much as the reasons why people do any number of things. Mix sex and men and women and emotions can still become involved. Obviously, it must not just be about the sex ... because in the lifestyle having sex with others is a given. So ... my guess is that sometimes people have other "needs" or perhaps "motives" or perhaps just enjoy the danger of it all ... hard to say!!!

hot2trot696969 51M/52F
314 posts
6/4/2006 12:22 pm

I have heard first hand about the problems with swinging. Some say that anything over a three month play time is getting dangerous. One party was calling the mate of the other every day at noon and it got out of hand. Had to break it off. Its to be expected that each is doing the best they can to stand out and and make it a memorable experience for the new partner. The couple have to be content with the feeling they have for each other and not be jealous of their mate. I know of three couples that have split after entering the life style and finding out they couldn't stand to see their mate having sex with another.

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